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What Should I Try Next: Like Role Play? Try Medical Play!

What Should I Try Next: Like Role Play? Try Medical Play!

A great way to push the envelope in role play is by trying out medical play. Medical play lends itself so easily to BDSM. You can include bondage (stirrups, anybody?), massively amplify power roles (doctor taking advantage of patient is so taboo), and include new elements of sado-masochistic play.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for many, it’s an experience that’s more satisfying than anything encountered before.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings

BDSM Relationships: Strings or no-Strings

As is the case with partners of a standard relationship, those in a BDSM one can also be broken into two types – short-term and long-term.

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Sponsors
Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/8/14 Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
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Book Review: The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo

I came across ” The Toybag Guide to Playing with Taboo because well, I love Mollena Williams. She’s intelligent, quirky, has a great sense of humor, so why not read something she’s written? Everything I love about her personality shines in her writing. Not only that, but talking about taboo subjects is also an interest that grabbed [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Play and Sex, Reviews
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

Here’s a scenario I get presented to me a lot in my email and pleas for help and advice: A submissive talks to a person identifying as Dominant online for a few hours, days or weeks. They have intimate talks, compatibility seems to be through the roof and the cyber sex and play, webcams or [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex, Relationships
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

Why Would Any Submissive Want to be Micromanaged?

from The Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/16/13 When fantasies abound about slavery they often go something like this: The slave is always nude, chained or caged waiting for the Master to decide what to do with them. They make no decisions themselves, the Master declares that he will tell them when to eat, sleep and piss. [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read Part I: Boundaries. Over the past few weeks the matter of service has [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/17/12 Everyone started here at some point or another. You may even be at this point right now. Brand new to BDSM, D/s or both and not sure what you would like in a relationship, the bedroom, with kink…. anything. And then you meet people online or face to face [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

Separating Fantasy from Reality – Using Erotic Novels to Find Truth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/6/12 On the heels of “50 Shades of Grey” fame, there are a lot of new and curious people exploring BDSM than there has been in a long time. For the many people who encounter this site through a search they may have their fantasies dashed by reading about the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive

[Video Post] Introducing BDSM to Your Partner

On the heels of a fantastic three-post series on this very subject I’ve been receiving requests for advice and help on how to introduce BDSM to your partner, so I’m going to talk about the key points I think will help any partner open up about BDSM with their mate. It is a scary proposition [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Book Review – The Diary of a Submissive

Book Review – The Diary of a Submissive

I was recently asked to read the book  ’The Diary of a Submissive‘ by Sophie Morgan to give my thoughts on it by one of the girls involved in promoting it.  I didn’t receive anything for reviewing this book other than a free copy of it. For anyone who wishes to read this book it [...]

20 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Relationships, Reviews

[Video Post] Too Young for BDSM – Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. They all want to know if it’s normal and if I can help them find someone to talk to about it. When I first started getting these emails I would [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Video Posts
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