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31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 24 – Scene Reports: How they can Empower Your Playtime

31 Days of Submissive Journaling: Day 24 – Scene Reports: How they can Empower Your Playtime

A scene report is a written account of the who, what, when, where, why’s of playtime. Explore why you might want to keep track of the scenes you’ve been in through journaling.

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

Why BDSM and Tantric Massage Are a Match Made in Heaven

The fusing of BDSM and tantric massage has taken sexual energy to greater heights, and for many, it’s an experience that’s more satisfying than anything encountered before.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
Hey guys, what’s up? We wanna hear from you!

Hey guys, what’s up? We wanna hear from you!

Come share some thoughts with Submissive Guide!

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. I am sure it could be argued that I still don’t love them, but the mind shift has certainly come a long way in the positive for KnyghtMare. My history with giving oral sex is one I’ve heard from a few of you. Your first experiences were not [...]

19 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Sex and Sexuality
How S&M Saved My Life

How S&M Saved My Life

Growing up my parents were extremely physically and emotionally abusive. I moved out when I was thirteen, but I carried the previous abuse with me wherever I went. It made me cry when I detected the slightest amount of anger towards me, it made me shake and pull away when people waved their hands at [...]

4 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

Moving is hard.  There’s no mincing words about it and it’s probably very obvious that change isn’t easy.  The other night I hosted the last Submissive Forum in my area. I’ve hosted them for 2 years, made a lot of wonderful friends and learned so much about myself and submission. There’s something about friendship and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

That Anxious Space from the Petition to the Collar

In the post Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning, I address the matter of presenting a petition to a potential Master. However, I didn’t fully address that space between the time of presenting the petition and (hopefully) the collar, at least not at length. But, this can be one of the most trying times for [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

“To err is human.  To forgive is divine.” The start of a new year is a very popular time for resolutions and goals, but it’s also a great time for letting go of the past and letting bygones be bygones.  In theory it’s a great idea.  Who doesn’t want a fresh start to the New [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of…decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to put [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Single In The Scene Part VI: Vulnerability

I’m of the opinion that there are many slaves who are unowned for one reason: fear of being vulnerable. The way relationships tend to flow in the vanilla world vulnerability isn’t a necessity to maintain the relationship. Usually most are not surrendering to their partners and both tend to rest assured that they are equals [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

This is the first in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This first article is about the importance that communication plays in our relationships. Awhile ago, I came across this article in the NY Times about how BDSM has become a bit more [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/20/13 Developing your own personal mantra is a path to peace and achievement. You can then use your mantra whenever you feel stressed or out of focus with your submission. I use my mantra on a daily basis to keep my mindset on my Dominant and the behavior he has [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Recapturing Common Sense

Recapturing Common Sense

This essay that I wrote was first published on humbledfemales.net, but has since taken on new ownership and the article was removed (not sure why). I am now sharing it here because it is good common sense! A submissive’s best protection is her gut instinct. Waking up the fantasies we’ve only held close to our hearts and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
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