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Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn’t feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

5 Ways Rituals Enhance Your Relationship with Yourself and Your Dynamic

Every relationship can be enhanced by ritual and also every person in the exchange can get something from ritual. It’s not hard to get started either.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Rituals and Routines
Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Explain It To Me: The Draw of Being Spanked

Despite being commonplace in kinky relationships, explaining the appeal of being spanked to someone who is new to the scene or curious about it can be difficult.

17 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I understand. You don’t know anybody there. There are about a bajillion worst case scenarios that your brain has conjured up ever since you first desired to head out into the local community.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Defining Sub Space

Defining Sub Space

Mistress Steel breaks down the many levels of subspace, as she sees them, and how to navigate them in play.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants

The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants

Why some ill-experienced Dominants only seek novice submissives and how you can protect yourself from them.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
When Kinky isn’t Sexy

When Kinky isn’t Sexy

Kink and sex are indistinguishable from each other: if something kinky ensues, something sexy is sure to follow. The reality is, however, that the two can, and sometimes should be separated.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community

Empowerment, Not Exploitation: Women Activists are Wrong About the Kink Community

I am a submissive. I have never felt exploited in any way. In fact, I feel empowered. I feel empowered in a way I have never felt before.

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
A Mentoring Checklist: What to Expect in a Mentor

A Mentoring Checklist: What to Expect in a Mentor

I made the following printable chart which you can fill out and send to potential mentoring candidates to ensure clarity on both ends.

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Interracial: Amor en blanco y negro by ElRaffa (Flickr.com)

Master/slave Relationships in Black and White

It’s not uncommon for a black person entering the Lifestyle to wonder, is it acceptable for me as a black woman (or man) to have or serve a white Master?

13 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships
What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

When a Dominant tells you that you need training, what does he really mean?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

Why Isn’t Our Relationship Going Anywhere?

My boyfriend and I have only recently taken the baby steps from a vanilla relationship to a D/s one. I feel like I’ve followed all the suggested steps about how to transition a relationship, I follow submissive guide religiously, I’ve read lots of books and done plenty of research. We’ve talked and set down guidelines. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 4 – Endorphins

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. There is a whip in my closet that is an antique.  It’s the kind that Drayers would use on their horse teams when driving a carriage.  When I’ve been particularly bad, or good, Master will unhook that puppy from the rope it’s hanging on.  Those moments, as he [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/19/14 The Birth of Safe, Sane and Consensual Historically, David Stein is the person who first coined the phrase in 1983 for the Gay Male SM Activists Group that he co-founded. It was then used as the slogan in the SM Rights contingent of the Gay Rights march to the [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
Personal Safety Advice when Dating and in New D/s Relationships

Personal Safety Advice when Dating and in New D/s Relationships

Dear Luna, What i find scary is due to a large series of abuse throughout my life, including very recently I felt it important to ask about personal safety. You see, going to munches may be scary, is still a safe area. However if your going to be the s in a D/s, you need [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

Exploring Hormone Junkies: Part 2 – Oxytocin

This is a guest post by Erika McClean. Everything your partner is doing is driving you crazy.  They leave the toothpaste cap off.  There was no note to let you know where they went off to that morning.  There is fast food trash in your car when you hop in to go to work.  The [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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