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By nan {SL} on September 1, 2010
BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]
Posted in Playtime, Submission | Tagged bdsm play, control, enduring pain, energy, eroticizing pain, experience, learning, masochist, pain dispersement methods, play, reactions, sadist, SM |
By thisgirl on August 23, 2010
I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality, Submission | Tagged bi curiosity, bisexuality, comfort, experience, female, first signs, first time, skills, submission |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2010
Every month I ask for your anonymous questions and pleas for advice. Here are the few I got this month. First one is about introducing D/s into an existing relationship. I also cover 2 dominant relationship, just starting out and writing a letter of intent. How do I introduce my husband to the D/s or [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, expectations, experience, information, marriage, needs, negotiation, negotiations, novice, poly, questions, serving, training, Training Resume, two dominants, understanding |
By nan {SL} on May 10, 2010
Did you miss part 1? You can read it here. In Part 1, we looked at the information that you should try to gather when starting to interact with an unknown Dom/me. However, there are other warning signs that can appear once you start to develop a relationship with your new Dom/me. Evaluating your training [...]
Posted in Safety | Tagged abuse, danger, experience, negotiation, predators, safe words, serving, training, warning signs |
By lunaKM on April 27, 2010
This chat was held April 20, 2010. <lunaKM> Alright, so are we all ready to talk about Masochism? <Soleil25> Yes <Justin> yes <Myst> yes <sephani> of corse <FuzzyP> yes <sephani> course* stupid “U” key is acting a fool <lunaKM> Great, so, what was your first exposure to the term masochism? <sephani> I think I was [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged chat night, experience, Masochism, natural, pain slut, pain threshold, pleasure, stimulus, subspace, transcript |
By lunaKM on April 2, 2010
Not long ago I had someone ask me privately why I feel the need to help submissives with this website, and what qualifications I have to tell people how to improve themselves. And it’s true that I don’t have any life coaching training or experience with counseling, but for what I do here only one [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged experience, information, novice, perfection, understanding |
By lunaKM on March 12, 2010
This is a question tammy asked for March Question Month: I have had a few Doms and i am in a relationship where I live with one.I didnt think I could find someone that makes me this happy but I did. The problem is I keep thinking about my first Dom that introduced me into [...]
Posted in Mindset, Relationships | Tagged break up, D/s, dominant, experience, memories, relationship, tips |
By lunaKM on March 1, 2010
As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month! If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, BDSM, email, experience, question month, questions, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on February 19, 2010
Topping from the bottom has been given a bad wrap. It’s considered by many to be a faux paux for any submissive. Online communities shun and shame many people who even ask about the subject and want to know if what they did was considered wrong. Too many people tell these people that yes it [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged body language, common sense, communication, experience, faux paux, negotiation, scene, topping from the bottom |
By Guest Author on January 20, 2010
This is a guest post by The Beginner. I am very much aware of how mild and tame the following post is. This isn’t an account of of extreme BDSM. It isn’t an account of me becoming a slave, or what I would consider myself becoming a full on sub. It is simply a retelling [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged bdsm play feature, experience, feature series, guest post, nervousness, novice experiences, The Beginner |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on January 6, 2010
One of every submissive’s first experiences happens to be in the bedroom or dungeon. That’s why this month I’d like to focus on the joys and pleasures of the things we can explore during scenes and play. The next few weeks we’ll be hearing about a variety of BDSM activities. Just about every post is [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, caning, dani, experience, favorite, feature series, focus, guest post, guest posts, Gwendolyn, Impact, impact play, Nadia West, play, Playtime, scene, series, submissive, writing |
By lunaKM on January 4, 2010
To herald in the New Year I have been able to collect guest posts from some of the best voices in submission to share with you what it’s like to explore and experience their favorite play activities. Over the next few weeks we will learn about flogging and caning, rope bondage and fire play and [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play feature, bdsm series, Bondage, caning, Dom, dominant, email, experience, favorite, feature series, fire play, guest post, guest post opportunities, guest posts, help, online, orgasm denial, piercing, play, recovery, review, rt, series, share, short, sorry, spanking, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on January 2, 2010
This week’s video post is about velcro collars. To submissives, a collar is one of the most important things they have. It is a symbol of their commitment, their service and their adoration of a special someone. In most situations, the offering or begging of a collar is not taken lightly. The weight of the [...]
Posted in Video Posts | Tagged begging, cheapen, collars, commitment, community, cons, disposable, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, hands, Impact, important things, lifetime, marriage, mates, online, opinion, partners, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, submissive, symbolism, value, velcro collars |
By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on November 9, 2009
When aftercare is mentioned, it is rarely associated with the Dominant. We hear all about how to help the submissive come down from the endorphin high, treat the marks and aches and emotionally recover from the scene. Do we think that Dominants feel nothing during play that they don’t need care afterwards? Think again. When [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged aftercare, bdsm play, connection, control, Dom, dominant, dominant aftercare, dominant recovery, dominants, endorphins, energy, experience, focus, help, Impact, marks, needs, partner focus, play, recovery from play, relationship, rt, scene, sex, shower, submissive, trust |
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