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New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you’ll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It’s all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don’t settle.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? Let’s figure out what you need in order to feel that your power exchange is fulfilling and personal.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. What is less visible but equally common is the identical phenomenon within submissives.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

I’ve been a practicing submissive for roughly five years now; most of that time has been in a long distance capacity, but regardless, my role as a sub has played an integral part in shaping my role in my relationship with the person who is not only my Dominant, but (I hope) my life mate. [...]

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

[Video Post] A Non-Romantic BDSM Relationship, Is It Wise?

Judi is a Patron Member and as a perk of her support, she was able to ask me a question to be answered in a video post. You can get your question answered too! Join Patreon and support Submissive Guide. As a new sub, I have a lot to learn, and I am just starting [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Publically Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public

Publically Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public

One of the many delightful side-effects of moving to the same country as my Dom is that we get to actually DO couple things. We get to go out on dates, go out with other couples as a couple, invite people to our home for dinner parties—all of the grown up stuff that my parents [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

My partner and I just went through the strenuous process of apartment hunting and I realized along the way, that there are many similarities between apartment hunting and hunting for a compatible partner. These similarities are applicable both in vanilla and kinky relationships, but I believe, they are more pronounced in kink. When you begin [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Creating a list of hard and soft limits is generally one of the first things that we as submissives do when we come the realization that we’re interested in the lifestyle. Sometimes these are long lists and sometimes they’re short, but usually, we have a good idea of the things we’re interested in, the things [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
24/7: Long Term Relationships

24/7: Long Term Relationships

This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Long Term Relationship. 24/7 simply means 24 hours a day – 7 days a week. Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/03/14 When I was a novice (way back when) I heard about training a lot from the online conversations I held and the forum threads I participated in. In all the discussions I read, there was only one thing that was a common thread and that is that everyone had [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Service
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A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

Welcome new contributor andyiccee! My Master and I have been together for nearly three years, we have been through family crises, late studying nights, and more fights than I can count, but we always come out stronger on the other side. Integrating S&M into our sex life was a very simple transition, we communicated fantasies, [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
Dominant Is Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Dominant Is Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Hi Luna. I’m a sub and I have an online Dom. We have a lot of fun together but he wants far more time and play from me than I can afford to give. I told him this but he still wants more. I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want to leave [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

Dear LunaKMI am fairly new to the Dom/s relationship and have talked to a Dom online texts and but the phone. I am having trouble with understanding all the dynamics and was so relieved to find your site, thank u by the way. Here’s my question … He requests a morning text and a nightly [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

I didn’t know I was submissive when I was in my last vanilla relationship.  I never would have guessed it at all and would have denied it if someone made the suggestion.  I was too independent to be submissive (so I thought).  I did, however, have a lingering fascination with rope and bondage after my [...]

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/01/14 It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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