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New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 2

In part 2, you’ll learn how to figure out what you need in a D/s relationship and what is expected of you within the blossoming relationship. It’s all about what you want and need and getting as much of that as possible. Live happy. Don’t settle.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? Let’s figure out what you need in order to feel that your power exchange is fulfilling and personal.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
On Multiple Dominants

On Multiple Dominants

There is an almost universal level of acceptance for the ‘idea’ of one man or ‘Dominant’ having many or multiple partners or submissives. What is less visible but equally common is the identical phenomenon within submissives.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Living with my Dom for a longer period of time has allowed us to develop some rough routines and expectations that we’ll continue to develop as time progresses, and these have begun to help me form answers to the questions that I’ve been asking on and off from the beginning of my submission.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

[Video Post] A Non-Romantic BDSM Relationship, Is It Wise?

Do you think it is wise to approach D/s as a non-romantic exchange, or am I just fooling myself? Do you have any advice on how I can remain focused in this kind of arrangement?

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public

Publicly Domesticated, Privately Dominated – Subtle D/s in Public

It can be difficult to achieve a public dynamic that fits the needs of all parties while remaining within the confines of public social expectations.

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

How Searching for a Compatible Partner is Like Apartment Hunting

There are many similarities between apartment hunting and hunting for a compatible partner. I know, silly, right? NO, hear me out.

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming a Limit (A Reflection)

Overcoming limits is a part of the journeys we take as subs. It’s a healthy, often invigorating challenge.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
24/7: Long Term Relationships

24/7: Long Term Relationships

Not so simply, it usually means the desire for lifetime commitment or a relationship with many or most of the same attributes that are familiar to all of us in its vanilla counterpart – the marriage.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

When a Dominant tells you that you need training, what does he really mean?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

There is no right or wrong way to serve. I do think some slaves are more prone to reactive service and there are some slaves who are more proactive.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Service
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A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

The transition to 24/7 D/s turned out to be much more challenging for us.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
Dominant Is Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Dominant Is Asking for More Time than I Can Give

I hate lying to him but I don’t feel like I had a choice. I don’t know what to do.

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How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

How Do I Let Him Know I’d Like Some Attention?

I want some attention to just an acknowledgment that he knows I exist. Or is wanting that out of line with being submissive?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Online Submission
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

I’m going to guide you to the answers, but you’ll still have to do your own work as far as finding the answers that will work for you.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

We are the sum of our experiences, after all, and if I hadn’t learned these lessons I don’t think I’d be where I am today.

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

What I learned from my own efforts in transitioning and hopefully they will help you too if you choose to move your submission from the bedroom to more or from more to total surrender in a Master/slave relationship.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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