By lunaKM on July 12, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/10/10 One of the most feared activities of a novice is getting up the nerve to meet other people face to face. Yet this is one of the first things that I and many others recommend for those wishing to get into BDSM. I encourage people to learn all they [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged activities, discussion, event, first time, groups, learning, local community, munch, munches, nerves |
By lunaKM on May 21, 2010
This is a continuation of the series on the most common forms of service in a D/s relationship. The forms are: Transactional Devotional Positional Situational Today I’m going to talk about situational service. Situational service encompasses what I called conditional service. You serve only when presented with a specific set of circumstances, thus the situation is perfect [...]
Posted in Service | Tagged best behavior, deeper awareness, dynamic, event, focus, high protocol, player, protocol, ritual, series, situation, situational service, special circumstances, special service |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
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By lunaKM on December 4, 2009
I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged ask me, BDSM, clothing, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, event, grooming, information, makeup, play, poses, preference, preferences, protocol, purpose, relationship, rt, rules, safe, sex, share, shaving, short, submissive, symbols, wants, what to wear |
By lunaKM on December 2, 2009
The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]
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By lunaKM on November 5, 2009
All of last month I held a fund raiser for the National Leather Association – International Domestic Violence Project. Everyone that donated $10 was placed in a drawing for a $100 gift certificate to JT’s Stockroom. Thanks to random.org the winner is…. SirTom52 The winner has been contacted by email to set up electronic delivery [...]
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By lunaKM on October 21, 2009
Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]
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By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, activities, BDSM, book, bottom, calendar, chat, chat night, choice, choices, classes, clean, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, Domme, dress, event, events, experience, focus, grace, growth, health, help, IRC, kneeling, learned, learning, lifestyle, love, m/s, marriage, mentor, natural, needs, newsletter, online, perfection, pride, purpose, relationship, requests, Resources, routine, rt, rules, separation, Service, serving, sex, sharing, shaving, shower, size, slave, stress, submission, submissive, submissive chat, surrender, tall, tasks, tips, training, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
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By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged basics, BDSM, Bondage, bottom, boundaries, checklist, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dress, event, experience, health, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, obedience, partners, play, player, relationship, roles, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, scene, sex, spanking, submissive, toy, toys |
By lunaKM on August 10, 2009
Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, blogs, book, calendar, chat, chat room, clothing, communication, control, Dom, dominant, email, essays, event, favorite, focus, growth, help, infraction, learning, lectures, limits, negotiation, obedience, online, online D/s, orgasms, public punishment, punishment, punishments, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, self punishment ideas, self-discipline, sex, sexual chastisement, single, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, writing, writing essays |
By lunaKM on July 29, 2009
Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions, Social Norms | Tagged balance, BDSM, bdsm with kids, commitment, cons, D/s, event, explanations, explaning it to kids, interruptions, living D/s, play, power exchange, protect children, relationship, roles, rt, rules, share, toy, toys |
By lunaKM on July 21, 2009
After the invitation has been recieved and you decide to go comes a moment of panic for many submissives. What do you wear to a play party? As with everything here, take these as suggestions and ideas for your own wardrobe. All parties are not created equal and be sure to find out if you [...]
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By lunaKM on June 24, 2009
“Go to your room!” Yes even adults in power exchange relationships get treated like children sometimes. A common tool for Dominants in their punishment arsenal is removal. You can be removed from the activity and sent to a time out area. For me that’s the kitchen. Ugh. I hate when I’m banished there. I can [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged 2WBSP, apologizing, atonement, banishment, communication, connection, cons, cyber relationships, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, hands, infraction, online, Online Submission, power exchange, punishment, relationship, Relationships, rt, separation, short, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on June 15, 2009
In a recent video post about Submissive PMS I had someone email me with some questions that I thought deserved a new post. If you haven’t seen the video or attached post, please go to the article and read it first! Now on to his questions: 1. What’s a subbie to do when, for whatever [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged bad mood, changing behavior, corrective action, discipline, Dom, dominant, dominants, email, event, focus, help, love, mantra, masculine, meditation, PMS, punishment, questions, rt, separation, submissive, submissive pms |
By lunaKM on June 13, 2009
This video post is about how to deal with a submissive bout of PMS. It’s not your normal run of the mill PMS. You don’t have cramps or bloating or headaches or chills, but your mood is so out of whack that you are getting in trouble just by opening your mouth. You don’t know [...]
Posted in Mindset, Video Posts | Tagged attitude adjustment, bad mood, BDSM, blogging, discipline, Dom, dominant, event, focus, help, learned, manners, meditation, normal, PMS, purpose, rt, self-centering, self-discipline, Service, serving, slave, submissive, submissive pms, value |
By lunaKM on June 5, 2009
As I’ve done a few times already, I like to open this blog for readers to submit tips and opinions on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep [...]
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