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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive

Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter for 11/07/15 Have you ever felt like you are all alone in this loud crowded world of kink? That the things you enjoy  are uncommon. Or perhaps you have circumstances that govern how you play or what your relationships are like. It’s not that you are alone, not at all. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the Scene

Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the Scene

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/24/14 One thing I learned while putting together the Guide to Your First Munch was that when someone goes to a meeting for kinky people, with the idea that they are entering a whole new world, they think that all the courtesies and manners they learned before are somehow no [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the down side of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

I was talking with a friend of mine awhile ago and she said something that really piqued my attention. She was telling me about her boyfriend and how upset she is over the fact that he won’t chase after her. They had some kind of argument and stormed out of the apartment. She got in [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot

Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-7-12 We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and  manners online. I’ve also been caught [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-18-12 The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Throughout history people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, ceremony that comes from other parts [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

Hi, my name is Laney and I am a hug slut. I admit it, I love a good hug. As such, imagine how hard it was for me, entering the world of BDSM where a hug in greeting is not always possible. At my dungeon, like all dungeons, we have a set of rules that [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community

The Best Resources for a Submissive’s Service Library

For the service submissive, one who gets their pleasure from serving in some capacity it’s nice to have a section of your library reserved for books that can help you with improving and utilizing new methods to make your service more complete. I’d love to hear your suggestions for books to include in a service [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

What is the best way to make an apology when the person is not your Master? But the apology is still very important. I am worried about not saying enough or as I often do, say to much. Or not using the right words. Please help Anonymous   Greetings, You are right, regardless of whom [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

In this hustle and bustle world we are losing an important connection. No, I’m not talking about the internet; we are all plugged and tuned out from the world around us. We seldom recognize the people around us let alone acknowledge them. If your goal is to be a submissive that serves every wish of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

This month’s review is an etiquette book like no other. When I bought this book I wasn’t sure it would have any more information that Miss Manners or Emily Post but I was wrong, so very wrong. The Bride Wore Black Leather…And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us by Drew [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews

Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore

From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Newsletter Archive
How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume

Know Your Manners when Visiting D/s Friends

Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics.  Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community

Don’t Embarrass Yourself: Learn the Etiquette for Play Parties Before You Go

Each social situation we expose ourselves to has it’s own set of rules and behaviors. This is also true of BDSM events, perhaps even moreso. A play party will have different rules at each location you may attend one. There will be established rules as well as house/location rules. There are also unspoken rules that [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 13: Customizing and Altering Positions

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 13: Customizing and Altering Positions

Reading the past posts on the Submissive positions project may bring some of you to the realization that you can’t perform these poses for health or body size reasons. This is to be expected. I can’t kneel back on my heels at all. So what is a good submissive to do? You alter the positions [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submissive Positions
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 7: Serving Food and Drink With Grace

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 7: Serving Food and Drink With Grace

Welcome to another day of learning and enhancing submissive positions. Today we are going to cover food service etiquette. Some of this may be familiar to you. If this is the case, try to enhance it and make it more personal and unique to your relationship. If you’ve ever been to a more formal restaurant [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submissive Positions
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