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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

The last part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather and Etiquette. This article contains further reading, links, and resources you can use to improve your own knowledge!

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

Ambrosio covers “cruising” in part 6 of this series on Leather protocol and etiquette. Take head of the warnings and tips for those casual experiences.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

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Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter for 11/07/15 Have you ever felt like you are all alone in this loud crowded world of kink? That the things you enjoy  are uncommon. Or perhaps you have circumstances that govern how you play or what your relationships are like. It’s not that you are alone, not at all. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/24/14 One thing I learned while putting together the Guide to Your First Munch was that when someone goes to a meeting for kinky people, with the idea that they are entering a whole new world, they think that all the courtesies and manners they learned before are somehow no [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the down side of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

I was talking with a friend of mine awhile ago and she said something that really piqued my attention. She was telling me about her boyfriend and how upset she is over the fact that he won’t chase after her. They had some kind of argument and stormed out of the apartment. She got in [...]

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7-7-12 We are all online anymore. We don’t hand out phone numbers but readily give our email addresses and instant messenger ids. The world has shifted from a direct contact world to one behind screens. We are no longer watchful of our behavior and  manners online. I’ve also been caught [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-18-12 The other night KnyghtMare and I went to a play party. We were having a nice time sitting and watching and socializing in the sunken seating area surrounded by raised booths. KnyghtMare was playfully swatting my breasts from time to time and at one point I raised my arms [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Throughout history people have been creating specialized rituals for different events in their lives from birth to coming of age, marriage and even death. Some of the special events that we are drawn to in a D/s bend are the more “everyday” form of formal behavior and on occasion, ceremony that comes from other parts [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

Hi, my name is Laney and I am a hug slut. I admit it, I love a good hug. As such, imagine how hard it was for me, entering the world of BDSM where a hug in greeting is not always possible. At my dungeon, like all dungeons, we have a set of rules that [...]

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community

The Best Resources for a Submissive’s Service Library

For the service submissive, one who gets their pleasure from serving in some capacity it’s nice to have a section of your library reserved for books that can help you with improving and utilizing new methods to make your service more complete. I’d love to hear your suggestions for books to include in a service [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

What is the best way to make an apology when the person is not your Master? But the apology is still very important. I am worried about not saying enough or as I often do, say to much. Or not using the right words. Please help Anonymous   Greetings, You are right, regardless of whom [...]

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How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

In this hustle and bustle world we are losing an important connection. No, I’m not talking about the internet; we are all plugged and tuned out from the world around us. We seldom recognize the people around us let alone acknowledge them. If your goal is to be a submissive that serves every wish of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

This month’s review is an etiquette book like no other. When I bought this book I wasn’t sure it would have any more information that Miss Manners or Emily Post but I was wrong, so very wrong. The Bride Wore Black Leather…And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us by Drew [...]

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Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore

From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Newsletter Archive
How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

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