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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 7 of 7) – In Closing

The last part of Ambrosio’s series on Leather and Etiquette. This article contains further reading, links, and resources you can use to improve your own knowledge!

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 6 of 7) – A Few Notes on High Protocol

While good manners are important in all situations, leather protocol should not be a source of anxiety for novice doms and subs. In part 6 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, a few rules for formal introductions, dining and general “vanilla” etiquette are covered.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 4 of 7) – Play Parties

In part 4 of Ambrosio’s series on Protocol and Etiquette, it’s play parties! Come read a set of sample party rules and three different types of parties you may encounter in your local BDSM community.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 3 of 7) – Cruising With Class

Ambrosio covers “cruising” in part 6 of this series on Leather protocol and etiquette. Take head of the warnings and tips for those casual experiences.

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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

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Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn’t feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

Manners, Etiquette and Appropriateness When Interacting with People in the BDSM Scene

I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Attending an event as a free slave doesn’t have to be a point of anxiety.

Comments Off Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

It’s hard sometimes to open up and talk about what’s going on. Yes, it is much easier for one party to just assume that the other party knows what’s going on when in reality; they don’t even have a clue. How is a slave’s Master to know that the slave is struggling with keeping in the mindset they need unless the slave speaks up?

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

Online Courtesy Needs a Reboot – Don’t Be THAT Submissive

Yes, I’ve said it before but we are a community that needs to stand above the rest of the public and show what good manners are. That includes online.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

Don’t Touch Other People’s Property: The Golden Rule at BDSM Functions

A golden rule of BDSM is that you do not touch other people’s property. Perhaps this man didn’t get the memo or didn’t realize that people can be property too. It’s hard to speculate now. Either way, let’s talk about the importance of keeping your hands to yourself when in a BDSM social or other form of D/s gathering.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

Ritual Ideas: High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony and Formal Dining

I have worked to gather online and other resources that may help you learn more about some of the more common forms of formal ceremony that submissives gravitate towards, High Tea, Japanese Tea Ceremony, and Formal Dining.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

To Hug or Not To Hug: Etiquette for Giving Hugs in BDSM Situations

Hands and arms embracing another person, so what is wrong with a hug?

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community

The Best Resources for a Submissive’s Service Library

For the service submissive, one who gets their pleasure from serving in some capacity it’s nice to have a section of your library reserved for books that can help you with improving and utilizing new methods to make your service more complete.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

Ask Anything | Apologizing to a Dominant

What is the best way to make an apology when the person is not your Master? But the apology is still very important. I am worried about not saying enough or as I often do, say to much. Or not using the right words. Please help Anonymous   Greetings, You are right, regardless of whom [...]

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How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

How to Be More Aware of Your Self and Surroundings to Improve Your Submission

In this hustle and bustle world we are losing an important connection. No, I’m not talking about the internet; we are all plugged and tuned out from the world around us. We seldom recognize the people around us let alone acknowledge them. If your goal is to be a submissive that serves every wish of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

Book Review: The Bride Wore Black Leather

This month’s review is an etiquette book like no other. When I bought this book I wasn’t sure it would have any more information that Miss Manners or Emily Post but I was wrong, so very wrong. The Bride Wore Black Leather…And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us by Drew [...]

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Mind Your Manners: Not just for kids anymore

From The Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-7-09 When I admitted that I had crossed into adulthood, somewhere around 23, I realized that the manners that had not been instilled in me as a child hindered my interactions with people. I appeared crude and rude and immature. Since that defining moment I have found my manners and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Newsletter Archive
How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

How to Revive Your Service When Protocol Becomes Boring

Protocol. It can be a scary word if you are new to submission. In a relationship, it is likely that you will have some protocol established to control your behavior. So, what is protocol? Simply defined, protocol is the set of special rules that you follow for defined situations that remind you of your place [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

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