By lunaKM on August 13, 2010
This video post is about an epidemic I’ve seen with submissives all over. A submissive, dating and seeing Dominants; rarely going past the first few dates can begin to wonder why they are constantly searching and never finding someone to serve. You can develop a closed heart and begin to fear opening yourself up for [...]
Posted in Video Posts | Tagged dates, dating, dominant, emotions, fear, feelings, Impact, relationship, sensitive, vulnerability |
By lunaKM on May 5, 2010
When you engage in playtime with a Dominant your body is the canvas for sensation and pleasure. You can run the gamut of emotions and many of them can take you by surprise. It’s not uncommon even for someone who plays regularly to be shocked by a new reaction to a play activity that they [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged body parts, crying, dizziness, emotions, endorphins, impact play, leatherbutt, pain tolerance, responses, shivers, stress, understanding |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2010
Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My inbox is always open so you can send me questions whenever they occur. Last month I answered questions about appropriate greetings and topping [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged advice, answers, ask me, emotions, information, novices, questions, series, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 17, 2009
This week’s video post is about sub space. When you first heard about sub space it was probably something that you either thought you’d never experience or something that seemed so strange and foreign that you believed it to be a myth. Then you heard the stories and could swear that people were on drugs [...]
Posted in Playtime, Video Posts | Tagged connection, Dom, dominant, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, information, love, masochist, play, prayer, rt, Service, slave, spirit, sub space, submission, subspace, trust, value |
By lunaKM on October 14, 2009
Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged balance, comfort, commitment, cons, control, desires, emotional health, emotional state, emotions, friends, friendships, happiness, health, healthy submissive, help, Impact, memories, mental strength, needs, online, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, stress, submissive, suggestions |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By Guest Author on September 15, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. She’s donated a few posts for this week on Gorean Living so watch for them in the coming days! My Master gave me the task of writing down my thoughts on what it means to be an owned kajira. I can only ever write this from my [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, amazon.com, BDSM, book, books, bottom, choice, collaring, cons, decisions, desires, Dom, dreams, email, emotions, Gor, guest post, guest posts, hands, kajira, limits, love, m/s, natural, needs, owned, phenomenon, play, rt, single, sorry, spirit, submission, submissive, surrender, surrendering, tall, trust, what to wear, writing |
By lunaKM on September 1, 2009
If you have ever wondered how you can get the spanking you’ve always wanted but wasn’t sure how to ask for it, there is a book for you. I was just offered the chance to review a copy of How to Get the Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking for It, Getting It [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Views & More... | Tagged abuse, advice, Aria, blogs, book, books, bottom, caning, choice, clean, desires, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, Dom, e-book, emotions, experience, fear, focus, gender, gender roles, grace, help, history, learning, lifestyle, little girl, love, marks, real life, relationship, Resources, review, roles, rt, safe, series, share, size, spanking, spanking series, standing, tips, training, understanding, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on July 28, 2009
Those of you who read my blog already know this, but for most of you this will be news. I have an addiction. At the end of last month I came to the realization that I am a binge eater and secret eater. I’m addicted to food and the way it makes me feel. While [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Service | Tagged addictions, choice, confession, cons, control, D/s, dynamic, eating disorder, emotions, experience, health, help, love, micromanagement, RACK, recovery, relationship, rt, rules, Service, submission, submissive, support |
By lunaKM on June 18, 2009
When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged activities, amazon.com, Bondage, book, choice, decisions, desires, discussion, Dom, dominant, Dossie Easton, dynamic, emotions, help, intimacy, Introducing Partners to BDSM, kinky, learning, leather, links, love, marriage, online, partners, play, questions, relationship, Resources, role play, rt, sex, spanking, sub frenzy, submissive, suggestions, websites |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2009
Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged attitude, balance, cons, definitions, depression, Dom, dominant, emotions, event, experience, guilt, help, IRC, needs, play, punishment, questions, recognizing guilt, resolving guilt, rt, sadness, self-care, sex, stereotype, submissive |
By Guest Author on April 11, 2009
Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing |
By lunaKM on March 27, 2009
Sub Drop can come in many different forms. Sub Drop is the emotional and physical affects of the release and drop of endorphins in the body after a play session. Most of what you read online are the physical aspects; the fatigue, sadness, aches and pains and recovery from marks. There is a more intense [...]
Posted in Mindset, Playtime | Tagged ad space, advice, aftercare, balance, BDSM, book, boundaries, communication, connection, cons, consensual, depression, dress, emotions, endorphins, experience, fear, friends, help, history, instability, intimacy, kinky, lifestyle, limits, loneliness, love, marks, normal, online, partners, play, purpose, questions, recovery, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, sub drop, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged abuse, advice, amazon.com, basics, BDSM, Bondage, book, books, community, cons, consensual, D/s, danger, Dom, Dominance, dominant, emotions, endorphins, etiquette, experience, explanations, female, help, Impact, impact play, information, kinky, learning, library, lifestyle, limits, love, manners, Masochism, molly devon, negotiation, novice, novices, philip miller, play, player, recommended reading, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, romance, rt, safe, Safety, sane, scene, screw the roses, sex, SSC, standing, submission, submissive, support, tips, toy, toys, tricks, understanding |
By lunaKM on January 26, 2009
Aftercare is an important part of recovery from play for many people. It is most common to experience a drop in emotions and energy after play from within hours to even days later. All too often it becomes a necessity to take care of yourself after a play session because your top was just visiting [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty, Playtime | Tagged after care, aftercare, bath, book, books, bottom, bruises, control, depression, Dom, dominant, dominants, drop kit, emotions, endorphins, energy, event, experience, favorite, first aid, guilt, help, limits, loneliness, marks, partners, play, Playtime, recovery, recovery from play, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, scening, security, self-care, short, sub drop, submissive, tips, training |
By lunaKM on January 14, 2009
Communication is one of the key elements that make a D/s relationship strong. Without good communication your relationship is destined to fail. While talking face to face may be the best way to communicate, sometimes this just isn’t possible. A submissive can be a novice, shy, embarrassed, or intimidated. With the age of the internet, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, atonement, blog hosting services, blogging, blogs, bottom, communication, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, emotions, focus, growth, help, infraction, infractions, internet, internet submissives, journaling, journey, learning, myspace, novice, online, online journal, play, punishment, relationship, rt, Service, serving, sex, sexual encounters, share, submission, submissive, writing |
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