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Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Solo-Coaching – Tearing Down Old Defensive Behaviors

Sometimes, as we grow up, we hang on to old defense mechanisms that served us fine at the time, but now seem to garner negative feedback. Here’s how you too can rewrite old defensive behaviors into something that will serve you much better.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments – Submissive Meditation Monday

Learning to Appreciate the Small Moments – Submissive Meditation Monday

Everyone has time in their lives where things don’t feel like they are going their way at all. It can drag you down or you can search for the positive.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Winter Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

Winter Blues – Submissive Meditation Monday

Today and every day this Winter, I want to focus on healing and on joy.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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M/s and When Life Happens: Unexpected Happenings

When it comes to the Lifestyle we don’t want ‘life’ happening all over our fantasies, planned event schedules, and our perfectly kink based relationships.

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Rush of Emotions, Friends Think He’s Possessive and Gaining Weight as Proof of Commitment

Ask lunaKM – Rush of Emotions, Friends Think He’s Possessive and Gaining Weight as Proof of Commitment

Dear lunaKM, I am very new to being a slave. During scenes I feel this overwhelming rush of emotions that seems to well up in my chest. I am not sure how to react or even feel about it. It doesn’t frighten me, but I am seeking some advice on how to control or even [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Letting Go and Offering Forgiveness

“To err is human.  To forgive is divine.” The start of a new year is a very popular time for resolutions and goals, but it’s also a great time for letting go of the past and letting bygones be bygones.  In theory it’s a great idea.  Who doesn’t want a fresh start to the New [...]

Leave a comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

7 Myths of Grieving and Understanding Your Responses to Death

This is a guest post by Shahjahani a personal friend and Hospice Nurse. “Grief is a journey, not something you get over” Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. Grief can be experienced for many reasons, not just the loss of a loved one. Grief is not just related to the loss of a person’s physical presence. Grief [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Accepting Fear through Obedience

Accepting Fear through Obedience

This is a guest post by kaya of Underhishand.com. For Master. When I used to say “Oh I want someone who can push me.. who doesn’t stop when I say stop.. who does what they want and aren’t guided by MY reactions”, I can honestly say that I never believed such a person existed. I [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

Single in the Scene Part V: The Truth about Singlehood

This is kinda pithy, so please hang in there! In this series thus far, I’ve done my absolute best to keep it positive. Maybe in some ways, I’ve managed to gloss over the ‘truth of singlehood’ of a slave, which in a way slightly misses the mark of my desire which is to help those [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Relationships

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Ask lunaKM – Protocol-Driven Leather Lifestyle, Adding Another Submissive and Starting a Submissive Journal

Dear Luna, In response to your post “Influx of Bossy Newbies Killing Old School Traditions”, I wanted to ask: Where can I learn about the protocol-driven Leather Lifestyle? I’ve wanted to learn about it for some time. On FetLife I’ve seen other’s ask similar questions and each time they were answered with “Every relationship is [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

How to Write a BDSM Scene Report

The words “scene report” always have me first thinking of a crime scene and second of a BDSM scene report. Scene reports can often be requested by some Dominants especially in the early stages of a play relationship. I’m going to cover what they are, how to write one and how they help you and [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Coming to an Understanding – I am a Slave

Like anyone else who’s walking the submissive path, I struggle from time to time. Maybe more times than I really care to admit. There are times where Daddy asks things of me, that I don’t quite want to do or I feel like I don’t have a submissive bone in my body and that makes [...]

12 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
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