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The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

The 100/100 Rule: Why TPE Succeeds

50/50 isn’t the balance of a TPE relationship. Each role gives 100%.

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
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Reactive and Proactive Service: What’s the Difference?

In the other article, I wrote about the differences between micromanaging and macromanaging and now I’m going to cover the differences between reactive service and proactive service. This was a little harder to do because most of what I could find online was comparing reactive service to anticipatory service, which is similar to proactive service, [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Personal Growth, Service
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

“I want my Dominant to spank me more.” “How can I tell him I need more praise and approval without topping from the bottom?” “I need more attention, how can I tell him without being pushy?” “Can I tell him I love him and still be submissive? “How do I tell him that my needs [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

My Dominant is Struggling Emotionally, How Can I Help?

I really don’t know where to start. I am really confused & I don’t know what to do. My Master hasn’t been that ‘masterful’. I have been His sub for almost 5 years. Even when things seem okay. He is constantly in the negative. He is not tending to His personal affairs at all & [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Daddy’s Little Girl – Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic

Daddy’s Little Girl – Exploring the Ageplay Dynamic

Since I have had a few articles published and have received such a warm and kind welcome from everyone, I have decided to tell you all a little secret that I’ve been hiding for some time now. The relationship that I have with my Master is more than just a Master/slave relationship. We also have [...]

28 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Relationships
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid [...]

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 3

You’ve finished the book! I definitely want to know what you thought about it in the comments. The last chapters were excellent as far as working through surrender, negotiation, discussing abuse, 24/7 living and staying on track. I think these chapters had more bulk to them than previous ones as far as necessary content. Here [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Welcome to week 2 of the book club event! This week’s reading was intense and meaty, trust me I know! I had to read it twice in order to get everything out of it that I wanted to. What are you thinking about the book so far? The reading this time had to do a [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Developing Trust  in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Developing Trust in Your Dominant and The Proper Use of a Safe Word

Have you ever wondered why we use safe words in this lifestyle? I have pondered that a time or two and have always come to conclusion that it is what makes this lifestyle safe. Without them we are bordering on harming the other person if we go too far. It is important to develop a [...]

9 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

How Love Feeds Service in a D/s Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/2/12 It is true that we are newlyweds and we do all the newlywed sort of things that you’d expect to see; the hand holding, overt affection in public, lovey eyes and little giggling grins.  What you may not see is that we’ve actually been together for 8 years and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/19/12 If you had asked me six months ago if I was into poly relationships I’d probably say no. KnyghtMare and I are happily monogamous and have been so for 8 years.  He’s had play partners, but never with any sex so I still considered us monogamous even if the [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

Active Submission Means Always Improving Yourself

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5-5-12 It is the people who can do nothing who can find nothing to do, and the secret of happiness in this world is not only to be useful, but to be forever elevating one’s usefulness – Sandra Orne Jewett Reading what I have to say day in and day [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Am I supposed to Love my Dominant?

Am I supposed to Love my Dominant?

I’ve noticed on almost every website I’ve visited that in almost all cases, there are certain “feelings” involved between Doms and their subs. I, however, do not have those feelings for Sir. Yes, I trust Him with my life, and I know if I ever need anything I can call on Him, but I don’t [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
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