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Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Ask Submissive Guide – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Hello SG, I’m struggling with a problem that has been following me for quite some time now. My Dominant and I have been through hell and high water, involving ‘light’ cheating (sexting each other, meeting up, but did not have sex) while I was away on holiday with family. This was almost a year ago. [...]

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

BDSM and Kids: How Your Kink May Change Over the Years

Ask a new parent, kinky or not, about their sex life, and they’ll probably say, “What sex life?” When you’re only getting a couple hours of sleep at a time or feeding a baby around the clock, sex is usually the last thing on your mind. While D/s relationships tend to have more communication about [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

BDSM and Kids: When Kids Ask Awkward Questions

With kids, it’s inevitable that they’re going to ask questions that make you want to curl up into a ball, cover your ears, and sing, “La-la-la, I can’t hear you!” This isn’t a kink thing, it’s a parent thing. However, as a kinkster, there’s a chance that, eventually, they’ll see or hear something and ask [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

BDSM and Kids: Getting Kinky With Kids Around

When someone asks me how it’s possible to be kinky when you have kids, I know they’re imagining that it must be difficult to have a scene, enjoy kinky sex, or do anything remotely kinky as a parent. It’s not impossible to get kinky, but it requires creativity and discipline. It also depends on how [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

BDSM and Kids: Handling the Role of Parent and Submissive

As a submissive who has to interact with the outside world whether that’s work, family, or going to the grocery store, you already know that it can be hard to switch back and forth between roles and expectations. Frankly, after a long week of being my vanilla self, I’m exhausted, cranky, and usually feeling not-so-submissive. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

BDSM and Kids: Can You Be a Parent and a Kinkster?

When I talk about my life as a kinkster, I talk about being a parent of two kids. It shocks a lot of people to know I’m in a 24/7 D/s relationship and a parent. A lot of people ask, “How can you be a parent and a submissive?” I always imagine there’s a bit [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide – My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Ask Submissive Guide – My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Dear Submissive Guide, In May I met a wonderful Dom online. We talked on the phone every night and I was over the moon for him. He was the first to say I love you and my self-protect wall started to melt. In my dating profile, I was explicit about not wanting to relocate because [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide: How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Ask Submissive Guide: How Do I Help My Dom Give Me What I Need

Hi SG, I’m relatively experienced when it comes to submission. I’ve submitted in play to a number of delightful Dommes and pushed my boundaries nicely over the years.  I’ve never had a long term D’s relationship, though. I’m just entering into a relationship with a lady who is highly sexed and thoroughly enjoying the power. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask Anything: My Master Wants to Have Sex With Other People

Ask Anything: My Master Wants to Have Sex With Other People

Dear Submissive Guide, Is it normal for your Master to want to play and have sex with others? Sincerely,Curious Dear Curious, I could give you the glib answer and say, “There’s no such thing as normal” but that doesn’t help you much, does it? Do some people, Dominant or submissive, want to have open relationships [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide: Fisting Fail and Sexual Injury

Ask Submissive Guide: Fisting Fail and Sexual Injury

Dear Submissive Guide, I have recently entered into a D/s relationship with a man that I’ve had an on/off sexual relationship with for 10 years. I would describe or sexual encounters up to now as vanilla, but intense and occasionally mildly aggressive. But we both have an interest in D/s, he has experience, I don’t. [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

Meeting Someone Face to Face Is an Important Early Step in Online Dating

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 05-14-16 We spend a lot of time in front of a screen these days. We chat, we shop, we explore and we date, all from the comfort of our homes. But, it is my opinion, that dating is something that really should be done face to face. Yeah, I know, [...]

The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

The Top 5 Tips for Vetting a Potential Dominant Partner

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/2/16 The most common search queries on this blog have to do with finding a Dominant partner so I have to assume that a lot of you who read here are single and searching for your Dominant. It’s never easy being single and knowing you want to find a Dominant [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask Submissive Guide: Trying Again

Ask Submissive Guide: Trying Again

Hi Submissive Guide My Dominant and I are trying to get our relationship going in the right direction again. We have been married for 23 years and in an M/s relationship for the past 4 years. In the beginning he read everything and was involved and it was everything I dreamed it would be but [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

[Video Post] Adding Rules in a D/s (or M/s) Relationship

Disclaimer: I’m well aware that some relationships do not have rules for the submissive/slave to follow. This talk will be about the relationships that use rules and task lists for submissive behavior and expectation. Many D/s relationships start by establishing a few ground rules for the submissive to follow. It is one of the more [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

[Video Post] What Does Service Submission REALLY Mean?

Service. It’s something that a lot of submissive say they are into giving. But what does that mean? I guess a lot of us, myself included, just assume that once you “get it” that you already understand what service entails, but the new submissives among us, and those that don’t perform service on a regular [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Video Posts
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/29/15 What ARE you expected to do and know as a submissive? Well, for many who are just starting out, the answer really is not much. But that’s not the kind of answer you accept out of me, right? There’s more to it, isn’t there? Of course there always is, [...]

Coping with Release: The End of the Relationship

Coping with Release: The End of the Relationship

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 7/25/15 This is a guest post by Mistress Steel. It was part of her Steel’s Chamber Scrolls which is now defunct. Shared with Permission. Relationships end. Sometimes through the willful choice of both partners, other times one may ask for or be released. In either case the ending of a relationship [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

Death, Grief, and D/s: How to Help Your Dominant During a Time of Sadness

No matter what we want to believe or how we choose to behave, relationships are the same, whether you’re kinky or vanilla. People are still people with all of the same hopes, dreams, flaws, and beauty; kink is irrelevant. For those of you, like me, in long-term D/s relationships, or for those searching for your [...]

5 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Relationships
BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

Welcome back to the next part in the BDSM Basics series. In earlier episodes we figured out if we were kinky, what role we are, how to stay safe and how to find a partner. In this article we’ll talk about what your first date might look like. I’ll cover two different situations for a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
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