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BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

BDSM Basics – What Your First Date Might Look Like

Welcome back to the next part in the BDSM Basics series. In earlier episodes we figured out if we were kinky, what role we are, how to stay safe and how to find a partner. In this article we’ll talk about what your first date might look like. I’ll cover two different situations for a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Ask lunaKM – How do you handle emotional disconnect in a triad poly relationship?

Ask lunaKM – How do you handle emotional disconnect in a triad poly relationship?

Hello Luna, first; thank you in advance for everything, great site. Second, my question is, I’ve been in a D/s relationship 3 yrs. from the beginning my Master has wanted a poly family. We have met a woman and have pursued this relationship a year now. I don’t know if it’s just me but I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

What Does a Dom Mean When He Says, “You Need Training”

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/03/14 When I was a novice (way back when) I heard about training a lot from the online conversations I held and the forum threads I participated in. In all the discussions I read, there was only one thing that was a common thread and that is that everyone had [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – Dominant Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Ask lunaKM – Dominant Asking for More Time than I Can Give

Hi Luna. I’m a sub and I have an online Dom. We have a lot of fun together but he wants far more time and play from me than I can afford to give. I told him this but he still wants more. I don’t want to hurt him and I don’t want to leave [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

Ask lunaKM – Can I make it in this lifestyle?

I was curious about bdsm before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into bdsm but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

Communicate. Communicate. Communicate. People in the D/s and BDSM lifestyles love to say this word. We emphasize that it’s the cornerstone of the relationship, that it is the key to a successful relationship and that negotiation, a form of communication, needs to be done on a regular basis depending on the situation and relationship type. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your Limits List – And How To Fix It

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/8/14 Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

So You Want to Share Your Kink with Your Vanilla Partner

This is a guest post by Boundobedience.  I read a lot of questions and answers from people who are into BDSM and are with people who may or may not also be into BDSM as well. There are two groups that I generally see. Well, three, but the group that successful manages to convert their [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Relationships
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

I didn’t know I was submissive when I was in my last vanilla relationship.  I never would have guessed it at all and would have denied it if someone made the suggestion.  I was too independent to be submissive (so I thought).  I did, however, have a lingering fascination with rope and bondage after my [...]

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Why Identifying Your Wants and Needs is So Important

Wants and needs. As novice submissives we hear this phrase over and over. Make sure you know your wants and needs. Does this person or that person fulfill your wants and needs? How should we talk about our wants and needs with someone? First, let’s define them. Need: Something that is not negotiable for a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

How To Ask for More Without Being a Pushy Submissive

“I want my Dominant to spank me more.” “How can I tell him I need more praise and approval without topping from the bottom?” “I need more attention, how can I tell him without being pushy?” “Can I tell him I love him and still be submissive? “How do I tell him that my needs [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

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Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

Keys to a Successful Relationship – Honesty is Really the Best Policy

This is an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This second article is about the importance that honesty plays in our relationships. The first one is It’s All About Communication I remember growing up, I always heard from the adults around me that honesty [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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