By lunaKM on December 4, 2009
I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged ask me, BDSM, clothing, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, event, grooming, information, makeup, play, poses, preference, preferences, protocol, purpose, relationship, rt, rules, safe, sex, share, shaving, short, submissive, symbols, wants, what to wear |
By Guest Author on November 16, 2009
This is a Guest Post by A. She is a new submissive in her first 24/7 dynamic. I received this wonderfully written review of her first 30 days and she offered to share it with everyone here. Enjoy! It has come to my attention after reading submissiveguide.com that my training with Sir has already begun, [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged 24/7, acceptance, BDSM, Bondage, clean, cleaning, clothing, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dress, dynamic, experience, favorite, fetlife, focus, grooming, growth and development, guest post, hands, help, honesty, infraction, kneeling, learned, learning, lingerie, love, natural, needs, online, orgasm control, play, positions, progress, protocol, punishment, RACK, relationship, requests, review, risk, ritual, rituals, rt, sex, share, spanking, speech, submission, submissive, submissive understanding, toy, toys, training, understanding, wants, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on November 6, 2009
When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names [...]
Posted in Relationships, Rituals and Routines | Tagged Aria, BDSM, book, commitment, connection, cons, consensual, contracts, control, D/s, D/s contracts, Dom, Domme, dress, experience, IRC, learning, lifestyle, links, m/s, play, protocol, purpose, relationship, renewable contracts, ritual, rt, rules, short, slave, slavery, spirit, spiritual, structure, submission, switch |
By lunaKM on November 4, 2009
So, you want me to tell you how you can tell if you are submissive or not? Asking someone else if you are submissive is like asking a blind man what color your dress is. Is there some magical online quiz that can say whether you are submissive or slave? Unfortunately no and I don’t [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, choice, choices, community, connection, control, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dress, experience, happiness, help, inclination, learned, learning, Mindset, natural, online, personal choices, poses, prayer, questions, relationship, religion, ritual, rt, Service, serving, sex, slave, spirit, spiritual, standing, stimulus, submission, submissive, trust, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 15, 2009
lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, activities, BDSM, book, bottom, calendar, chat, chat night, choice, choices, classes, clean, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, Domme, dress, event, events, experience, focus, grace, growth, health, help, IRC, kneeling, learned, learning, lifestyle, love, m/s, marriage, mentor, natural, needs, newsletter, online, perfection, pride, purpose, relationship, requests, Resources, routine, rt, rules, separation, Service, serving, sex, sharing, shaving, shower, size, slave, stress, submission, submissive, submissive chat, surrender, tall, tasks, tips, training, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, Aria, blogs, book, book review, books, control, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, discussion, Dom, dress, experience, fantasy, feminine, hands, help, love, needs, partners, play, real life, relationship, review, rt, series, share, spanking, spanking series, submissive, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By Guest Author on September 18, 2009
Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. You can also read her post on what it’s like to be an owned kajira and a kajira’s strengths and misconceptions. There is so many stereotypes, misconceptions of what a kajira is; what gor is; what the gorean lifestyle is; what a bdsm lifestyler looks like; what [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, Aria, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, challenges, chat, choice, choices, Christian, clean, cons, dreams, dress, dynamic, family, friends, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, kajira, lifestyle, lifestyler, norms, opinion, owned, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, rt, rules, sex, share, single, slave, speech, stereotype, submissive, wants |
By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged basics, BDSM, Bondage, bottom, boundaries, checklist, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dress, event, experience, health, limits, marks, needs, negotiation, obedience, partners, play, player, relationship, roles, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, scene, sex, spanking, submissive, toy, toys |
By lunaKM on August 21, 2009
This month’s book review is of one of the books I gave away in the July Book Contest. The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (formerly Lady Green) is a great beginner’s guide to bottoming. According to the authors, this “new version” contains much of the original advice, like “connecting” and [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, amazon.com, BDSM, beginning bdsm, Bondage, book, book review, books, bottom, chat, chat room, chat rooms, checklist, contest, decisions, Dossie Easton, dress, fantasy, help, information, internet, Janet W. Hardy, negotiation, nervousness, New Bottoming Book, novice, novices, online, play, review, role play, rt, scene, short, skills, submission, submissive, tips |
By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged blind date, choice, choices, comfort, common sense, D/s, danger, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, first meetings, information, munch, nervousness, normal, online, personal safety, play, questions, relationship, rt, safe, safe call, Safety, security, short, value, wants |
By Guest Author on August 4, 2009
This is a guest post by Christian. He is a switch male of the D/s lifestyle for the past 14 years. For my first post here I am going to write about something I get asked a fair bit. How does one raise kids in a D/s household? As one with several kids I thought [...]
Posted in Relationships, Social Norms | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, Bondage, Christian, community, D/s, decisions, dress, email, family, female, guest post, help, history, implement, internet, lifestyle, opinion, play, rt, safe, Service, sex, shopping, spanking, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tasks, trust |
By lunaKM on July 21, 2009
After the invitation has been recieved and you decide to go comes a moment of panic for many submissives. What do you wear to a play party? As with everything here, take these as suggestions and ideas for your own wardrobe. All parties are not created equal and be sure to find out if you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged attitude, blue jeans, chastity, chastity belts, clothing, clubs, collars, corsets, costumes, desires, Dom, dress, dress codes, essays, event, events, harnesses, latex, leather, lingerie, love, play, play parties, private parties, rt, rubber, sex, submissive, suggestions, what to wear |
By lunaKM on June 27, 2009
This week’s video post is a plea for your assistance with books for the review section of this site. I’m working on bringing you more book reviews more often. In order to do this I would love to have some help from all of you. There are different levels of help and please hear me [...]
Posted in Video Posts, Webmaster Notes | Tagged amazon.com, Aria, assistance, BDSM, bdsm books, book, book request, book review, books, certificates, Dom, dominant, dominants, donations, dress, email, experience, gift certificates, help, information, journey, library, love, novice, reading list, review, rt, submissive, suggestions, value |
By lunaKM on June 22, 2009
I’ve been exploring the writing of a Dominant mind lately and thought I’d share with you some of the wonderful musings this man has for learning the Dominant personae. The blog I’ve been exploring is A Dominant Character and is written by Sir J. I’d recommend you drop by and take a look at what [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged A Dominant Character, balance, blog review, blogging, blogs, cons, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominant blog, dominants, dress, email, first aid, honesty, learning, love, m/s, openness, play, relationship, Relationships, rss, rt, scene, share, Sir J, standing, submission, submissive, surrender, training, understanding, writing |
By lunaKM on June 19, 2009
When you first start talking to a potential Dominant you go through an initial interview. A lot of times this is just a period where basic questions are asked and your answers help the Dominant gauge just how interested you are in them, how compatible you are with them and what your intelligence level is. [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, experience, good interviews, help, history, interview, limits, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, resume, rt, rules, short, speech, standing, stress, submissive, tips, understanding, wants, what to wear, worship, writing |
By lunaKM on June 11, 2009
Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics. Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged attitude, BDSM, choice, clothing, comfort, common sense, D/s, d/s exposure, development, Dom, dominant, dress, dynamic, dynamics, etiquette, experience, family, friends, friendships, help, information, lifestyle, manners, play, protocol, relationship, rt, rules, shift, social etiquette, submissive, tips |
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