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Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

Ask lunaKM – Quick Fire Answers on Being a Great Submissive, Guilt, Shame and More

My question is how do i learn to be great for a Master seeing that i am a man. Women have so many advantages to pleasing their Master than i do. Can you give me some pointers? Thank you. I’m not really sure what advantages that are uniquely female that don’t have a male counterpart. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex, Relationships
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
What Am I Entitled To?

What Am I Entitled To?

Respectful Greetings Luna. I have a question. Currently involved/owned by a man who cant seem to focus on me long enough for us to build any kind of bond let alone any trust or relationship other then sexual, I tried to explain to him respectfully what I need in our D/s. However, It seems that [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Introducing one of Submissive Guide’s newest contributing authors – selkie! Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t used to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still [...]

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

A Day in the Life: fuzzyP

This is a guest post by fuzzyP for the Day in the Life Series. I was asked by luna to write about one of my typical days in service to my Dominant. While that task is straight-forward enough, the challenge lies in making one of my typical days entertaining and illuminating for you, the reader. [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Male Submission
What Makes a Good Dominant?

What Makes a Good Dominant?

I’d commented on a thread recently on the topic of what makes a good dominant here on fetlife and I’ve been thinking about it a little more since as I have had personal experience of both good and bad doms first hand and from stories and the experiences of friends also. Of course not everyone [...]

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What Do Female Dominants Desire in a Male Submissive?

What Do Female Dominants Desire in a Male Submissive?

This is a guest post by fuzzyP, a male submissive in a relationship with his Goddess and a regular participant of the Submissive Guide chatroom. Since this is my first time writing in this venue, allow me to take just a second to introduce myself.  I go by fuzzyP both here at the Submissive Guide [...]

21 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Male Submission
Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]

9 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

This chat was held on December 2nd, 2009. ~lunaKM> So tonight I wanted to talk about speech and how the way we communicate can impact our submission. Nia> tonight’s topic really struck a chord with me angel> same here ~lunaKM> I’ve been doing a bit of non-scientific research of my own when I am out [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
What You Need To Know About Using Contracts to Negotiate a Relationship

What You Need To Know About Using Contracts to Negotiate a Relationship

When you get married, you have to legally sign a document attesting to your decision to be married. The legal document can come in many forms but most have a brief section about what each party declares for the union, how they will treat each other and how commitment will be displayed (change of names [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Rituals and Routines
Chat Night Transcript From What is Service Talk

Chat Night Transcript From What is Service Talk

lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]

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Rituals that Work from Those that Practice Them

Rituals that Work from Those that Practice Them

The most frequent question I get asked is what is about rituals; what are they, how do I start one, are they hard, do they help with your submission, etc. They really aren’t that difficult once you understand what they are. There’s no sacred rites or incantations or anything, unless that is what you want. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines, Service
Help! My Dom is smaller than me!

Help! My Dom is smaller than me!

You’ve met the perfect person; they are strict and charming, their dominance is a perfect compliment to your submission. There is just one hang-up. They are shorter than you, or they could be smaller in stature than you. Could there be an issue with your ability to submit to someone that can’t overpower you physically [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

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