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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Domifriends: The Best of Both Worlds

Given that it’s February and the world around us has been saturated with heart-shaped balloons, greeting cards and overly expensive roses, I thought it might be a good time to discuss one way of seeing a D/s relationship.  Does this apply to every D/s relationship?  Certainly not.  D/s relationships are like zebras; no two look the [...]

2 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

Nobody’s Perfect-Including Your Dominant!

Not that long ago, I found myself reading  an article on Dominant Guide written by Morgan, who is the leading contributor but also an absolutely amazing woman. I’m not bragging about this article because I love the author, but because of what she was writing about. For those of you who haven’t clicked the hyperlink [...]

3 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Social Norms
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Ask lunaKM – Consideration Periods, Apologetic Sympathy and Sub in the Bedroom – Equal in Everything Else

Hi lunaKM, I’m semi new to m/s relationships and my new dom and i have been together for a month now. I wanted to know how long does a consideration period last, and should I wait for him to bring up being collared? We agreed to take it slow but we are still very much [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

8 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
The Slave Journal

The Slave Journal

I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask lunaKM – Humiliation as Punishment – Is it Healthy?

Ask lunaKM – Humiliation as Punishment – Is it Healthy?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Potential

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Potential

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/16/13 “How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Newsletter Archive
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