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Impact Play: Twitter Chat April 16, 2014 #domsubchat

Impact Play: Twitter Chat April 16, 2014 #domsubchat

Are you a twitteraholic? This might be the chat for you! Join Submissive Guide and Dominant Guide as we co-host a twitter chat on Impact Play! You will want to follow @subguide and @domguide and use the hashtag #domsubchat for any conversation during our chat. I hope to see a lot of you participating! I [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
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Are There Basic Expectations in a Dominant That I Should Look For?

Weeding through the number of messages in your inbox asking to get to know you better is a daunting task to most single people, and being submissive looking for a Dominant is no different. Well, perhaps it’s a little different. The compatibility that you are looking for as a submissive is more specific and challenging. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
What’s The First Rule of Internal Fight Club? You Are Not Alone.

What’s The First Rule of Internal Fight Club? You Are Not Alone.

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Next week KnyghtMare spends 4 days at froggyKM’s house. It will be a long time for me to be alone and definitely different for me since I’ve rarely been alone since KnyghtMare and I started dating. I’m looking forward to it but I know I’ll miss him terribly too. I’ve decided to try and focus [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

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Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Learn to Submit

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

4 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

Still working strong on the new club for Submissive Guide. It will be a site to see when we are all ready to open doors. Just before we move everything we’ll close registration here. Is there anything you want to see in the club? Let me know in the comments and I’ll consider it! The [...]

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Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships, Stay Safe
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

Keys to a Successful Relationship: Trust is Like a Mirror…

This is the third in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This third article is about the importance of trust and the role it plays in our relationships. Check out the previous articles – It’s All About Communication and Honesty is the Best [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

What grand news I have today! This week, barring issues, I’ll be moving and preparing to debut new features in the community and if you’d like more information, check out the recent post. I’m really hoping to be able to give you more of a place to talk and get support and learn more about [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

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