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How to Tell If You Are With a Dominant or Just a Bossy Dick

How to Tell If You Are With a Dominant or Just a Bossy Dick

I’ve spent some time trying to muster up a list of identifying features of Dominants and Jerks just to see what I can come up with. Hopefully, they can help you identify why you may be miserable with the partner you are currently with.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to [...]

2 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

I’m going to take a bit of liberty in my assumption here, but bear with me for a moment. When you first learn about submission and what it might entail it is likely you are learning about bedroom submission and the pleasures of serving the sexual and sensual needs of your partner. Oftentimes these submissives [...]

27 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
What Is BDSM All About?

What Is BDSM All About?

It’s been awhile since I’ve done a refresher on the basics of BDSM. If you are just finding this site, I hope that the wealth of information you see will help you understand yourself and the world in which you are curious. For novices the word BDSM is a huge scary word. For the experienced [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Book Review: Erotic Slavehood

Book Review: Erotic Slavehood

One of the cornerstone books recommended for submissives and Dominants alike has always been Erotic Slavehood by Christina Abernathy. Once two individual books; Miss Abernathy’s Concise Slave Training Manual and Training with Miss Abernathy, this omnibus has everything you could want in a manual about training submissives. When I first read this book I was [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 1: Learning to Kneel

2 Weeks to Better Submissive Positions – Day 1: Learning to Kneel

Today’s post  in the two week project here at Submissive Guide is focused on kneeling. Do you kneel in front of your Dominant partner at any point of your service? Is there a specific way to do that? For someone new to BDSM, it is common to think you must kneel a lot of the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submissive Positions
Readers’ View on Polyamory

Readers’ View on Polyamory

A couple weeks ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Roundtable Discussions
The Roundtable: Polyamory

The Roundtable: Polyamory

Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]

How You Can Help Your Partner Become More Dominant

How You Can Help Your Partner Become More Dominant

The second question I received for March question month came to me in my email. I’m a strong person, but something in me was missing…until i admitted what i really am. I’m engaged, i love my boyfriend very much, but I decided to open my heart to him and he’s really doing his best to [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Relationships
The Importance of Journaling Your Submission

The Importance of Journaling Your Submission

Communication is one of the key elements that make a D/s relationship strong. Without good communication your relationship is destined to fail. While talking face to face may be the best way to communicate, sometimes this just isn’t possible. A submissive can be a novice, shy, embarrassed, or intimidated. With the age of the internet, [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

Beginning Your Submissive Training Resume: A Personal Development Tool

A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
Preparing Your Body for Service: Your Bathing Routine

Preparing Your Body for Service: Your Bathing Routine

You may have been bathing yourself since you were 5 or 6, but if you haven’t changed your bathing routine since then, you may want to consider growing up and learning an adult way to bathe. Each person may have cleaning preferences and this is to be just a guideline and recommendation for bathing and [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Health and Beauty
The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

The Real Meaning Behind Service and Serving as a Submissive

When someone becomes a submissive for the first time and finds a dominant the first words I generally hear them say is that they like being of service or they like serving. When asked what it is about service that they enjoy it tends to boil down to sex and play. There is far more [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service

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