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Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Ask lunaKM – How do I get physical Dominance when I’m stronger?

Heya! I’m a martial artist (aikido / jiu jitsu) and a sub. I am strongly attracted to my Dom despite his lack of fitness, however whenever he holds me down I can easily push him off if I want to, etc. Even tied up I can often escape. I have no wish to be a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Ask lunaKM – Is he Dominant or Domineering?

Luna, I got involved with dominant man, long distance then face to face. I knew him as friend and he guided me into his spanko world. Somehow my experience left me debased and questioning is he dominant or just domineering. He was condescending to me even knowing that I never been spanked. Insisted on bruising [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Safety
Book Review: The Loving Dominant

Book Review: The Loving Dominant

This is a guest post by Miz Twist. If you’ve attended a few chat nights you’ve probably seen her lovely moniker there a time or two. This book by a practicing husband-and-wife team is a great introduction to the BDSM and Domination/submission scene for a nervous Newbie, as well as a useful reference for the [...]

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Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Ask lunaKM – Compatibility, Safewords when Deaf and Power Play Preferences

Dear lunaKM, I’m a complete newbie when it comes to the D/s world. January of this year I met my very first Dominant online. He was sweet and attentive yet firm. We live in two different states but I had decided to move to His town to be closer to Him. I did everything in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

Little Known Ways We Experience Sub Space

I admit that I used to whisper tales of sub space and the other blissful states that I’ve been in as if they were magical golden hours of submission.  I actually believed long ago that sub space is what made me a “real” submissive. Trust me, that bubble didn’t last long. Once it was popped [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The Most Popular and Favorite Books on BDSM – According to Our Readers

The following is a compilation of the most purchased BDSM-related books on Amazon – by our community. They are organized by the number purchased through affiliate links in the past year. Conquer Me: girl-to-girl wisdom about fulfilling your submissive desires by Kacie Cunningham Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Research Page: 24/7 Slavery

When I research a topic I tend to come up with a lot of links to places that have valuable information. These research pages are a storehouse of those resources that crossed my path. I hope they help you in your own study. Web Links Living the Lifestyle 24/7 10 Principles for Healthy 24/7 D/s [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Research Pages
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Introducing one of Submissive Guide’s newest contributing authors – selkie! Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t used to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still [...]

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

Is Your Heart Truly In It? – Fulfilling Submission Needs Desire

I’m going to take a bit of liberty in my assumption here, but bear with me for a moment. When you first learn about submission and what it might entail it is likely you are learning about bedroom submission and the pleasures of serving the sexual and sensual needs of your partner. Oftentimes these submissives [...]

27 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 2

Welcome to week 2 of the book club event! This week’s reading was intense and meaty, trust me I know! I had to read it twice in order to get everything out of it that I wanted to. What are you thinking about the book so far? The reading this time had to do a [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below

Newsflash: Feeding His Dominance Is Not Topping From Below

When it comes to the idea of topping from the bottom, which I’ve covered several times on the site already, the most common idea that gets bantered about is if asking and requesting something is topping from the bottom. Oftentimes, with novice submissives, it is assumed that showing any sort of desire for something that [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

Orgasm on Command Training – Ultimate Goals and Variations

It can be quite obvious what the goal of orgasm on command training is but there are so many things you can do with that goal to make it interesting and exciting for everyone involved. I’m going to talk about a few things that I learned about while doing the research for my own training, [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-4-12 If you can’t get out to munches in your community or conventions held around the world the next best thing is a website focused on kink education. I have nothing but praise for Kink Academy and the quality educators and topics that they cover on Kink Academy.  Here at Submissive [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

The Best-selling Items on Amazon According to What Our Readers Are Buying

Every few months I take a look at what BDSM related books readers of the Submissive Guide community are buying at Amazon (according to the reports Amazon give us from our affiliate program*). Today I spent some time digging into the purchases of BDSM books and have compiled the following breakdown of best selling books [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...

Research Page: Male Submission

Today I’m bringing together the resources I’ve collected about male submission and Female-led relationships. Much of what I found was porn, so it is needless to say that there is very little of substance about this topic. I appreciate that fuzzyP writes about it for Submissive Guide and look to any other male submissives who [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Male Submission, Research Pages
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