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Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

This article serves as a fanatic sayonara to the one aspect of my long distance relationship that I shall never miss: dealing with my partner’s absence.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Longing of Being Owned

The Longing of Being Owned

I remember it was about ten years ago when I was first introduced to the Sleeping Beauty trilogy by Anne Rice. I had stumbled across the series by accident while browsing the erotica section of a local bookstore. I had no idea what they were about but had read a lot of Anne Rice’s works [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Welcome kallista to Submissive Guide contributors! It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m a Shy Web Cam Model, Can That Be Detrimental to Finding a Dominant?

I’m very new to this lifestyle. I became interested in it because I work part time as a webcam model and found I really enjoyed doing as I was told. I am exploring online and trying to better understand what I like. However the Dominants I have encountered have issues with me. They don’t like [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

[Video Post] How do I show my submissiveness long distance?

First I want to give you a little bit of background. He is my Disciplinarian. It’s not a D/s relationship. We’ve been meeting regularly for the last 3.5 years. In September of this year, I  moved halfway around the world with my job. So we now only see each other when I am able to [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Video Posts
Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Don’t I Know You From Somewhere? – Encountering People You Know at a Munch

Some of the first advice that I give to someone wanting to get off the computer and into the local community is to attend a munch. But at the same time I know that attending a munch is a scary proposition. You will be meeting people you don’t know that are into kinky things, and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

Rule #1 – Don’t Touch Anything Without Permission

I’ve been involved with local and regional BDSM groups since I first learned about BDSM in 2003. You get to meet a lot of people during events and some of them have quirks and perversions that you’ve never heard of. You’ll meet white collar, blue collar and poverty stricken people in the same room enjoying [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community

Acronyms, Abbreviations and Initialisms in BDSM Conversation

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Oftentimes instead of writing out the words we abbreviate or create acronyms or groups of initials to say the same thing. Here is a list of the more common [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

Ask Anything | The Trap of Self Expectations

After years of research and thought, I recently entered my first D/s relationship. I was lucky to have found such a Gentleman so quickly. He respects my thoughts, listens to my rants, and is as emotionally available as our long distance allows. I can’t help but feel like I am constantly disappointing Him. He loves [...]

Leave a comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

Fantastic Submissive Videos for Learning and Growth on Kink Academy

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2-4-12 If you can’t get out to munches in your community or conventions held around the world the next best thing is a website focused on kink education. I have nothing but praise for Kink Academy and the quality educators and topics that they cover on Kink Academy.  Here at Submissive [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Perspectives: Erotic Spanking

Erotic spanking. It is probably the most common kinky play activity and is done in a lot of relationships that may know nothing about kink at all to those who are extremely kinky. It’s just a hot thing to do during sex. I was being spanked long before I entered the scene. I hope that [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Day in the Life: bonimiss

A Day in the Life: bonimiss

This is a post by bonimiss for the Day in the Life Series. I saw luna’s request for a day in the life and was immediately interested but then I hesitated. I fear I suffer from “Not Doing It Right” syndrome but then I thought if I am doing it the way Sir specifies, I [...]

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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