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Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

Ask the Readers – In Poly, do all partners have other partners?

I am looking for opinions on whether or not poly means both sides of the slash should be able to have other partners.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Learn to Speak Up and Speak Out: Empowering Yourself to Have a Voice

But asking for what I want and raising concerns to him is topping from the bottom! No, no it’s not. You do, in fact, have to tell them what you are thinking and feeling.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth

Understanding the Reason Behind, “Am I The Only One?” and How to Respond (With a Bit of Netiquette Rules)

The underlying response to this question is simple, but the reason the person asked it is because it doesn’t feel simple to them. Give the person compassion, not snark.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

I am glad to help reduce the stigma surrounding kink. If you are considering coming out kinky, give this article a read.

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth, Relationships
How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

How Do I Know If I Can I Make it In This Lifestyle?

I was curious about bdsm before I knew what it was. I knew I liked being spanked, being told what to do, etc. I started looking into bdsm but haven’t mentioned it to my boyfriend of 3.5 years because I’m afraid he’ll think I’m a weird, for lack of a better word. Although he knows [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

Welcome new contributing author, sub2JB! When I first discovered my submissive side, Sir gave me a BDSM checklist to fill out. It was a spreadsheet over six pages long with categories such as sex, bondage, S&M, role-playing, and toys. The columns include basic yes/no/maybe options, as well as soft/hard limit and “only with Sir.” The [...]

17 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the down side of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
Final Preparations: Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

Final Preparations: Do You Know Your Dominant’s Final Wishes?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/3/13 Death. It is going to happen to all of us. It’s a natural part of life. But we avoid talking about it more than anything else. Dealing with a death of a loved one would go a lot smoother if we knew what their final wishes were, right? Do [...]

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Ask lunaKM – Sexting, How to get Started and Scene Fantasies

Dear lunaKM, My D/s is a long distance relationship. We have not met in person. Just starting out, he’s training me so to speak. I am new. We are planning to meet eventually, it is set. So my question: He sends me scenes via text. Does a submissive send scenes as well? What scene form [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships

Find a Munch at FindaMunch.com!

Are you looking for kink friends and fun close to you? Have you heard about munches, but don’t know what they are, much less where to look? Are you traveling or relocating and not sure about the community at your destination? Or, are you already involved, and you want your local organization to grow? FindaMunch.com [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex

What are Red Flags?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. When discussing potential dating partners or relationships it is often a common question to ask if there are any red flags about the person that you feel or have [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

Living M/s Book Club Wrap-Up Participation Showcase

We are all done with this book club, but if you are still reading feel free to comment on this or any of the previous week’s posts. Today I wanted to take some time and showcase all of the favorite quotes, some of the key thoughts and comments on the book from this event. Thank [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Living M/s Book Club – Week 4

Living M/s Book Club – Week 4

Welcome everyone to week 4 of the book club here on Submissive Guide. As a reminder, this book club is going to be a bit more free form than the last one. I won’t present questions in the post itself. Use this post as a forum thread and talk among the other commenters. I will [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 3

Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 3

Welcome everyone to week 3 of the book club here on Submissive Guide. As a reminder, this book club is going to be a bit more free form than the last one. I won’t present questions in the post itself. Use this post as a forum thread and talk among the other commenters. I will [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
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