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By lunaKM on September 2, 2010
It’s time again for another chat night here at Submissive Guide. I’d welcome everyone to come on in Tuesday 9/7 for a bit of conversation. The topic is going to be free chat. Anything and everything can be discussed. Please come with questions or a curiosity about Dominant/submissive relationships. Info When: 9/7/10 8 PM CST [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged chat night, chat room, discussion, IRC, submissive chat |
By lunaKM on July 12, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/10/10 One of the most feared activities of a novice is getting up the nerve to meet other people face to face. Yet this is one of the first things that I and many others recommend for those wishing to get into BDSM. I encourage people to learn all they [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged activities, discussion, event, first time, groups, learning, local community, munch, munches, nerves |
By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By lunaKM on October 12, 2009
I love surfing the submissive blogs to see what other people are talking about. Many times it gives me something to talk about here on this site. This post is one such example. Over on Underhishand.com, kaya asked about submission and what qualifies it as submission. She asked if you are not expected to do [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged activities, blogs, changing, competition, cons, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, love, needs, normal, opinion, preference, preferences, RACK, relationship, routine, rt, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, washing dishes, what is submissive |
By lunaKM on October 6, 2009
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Please cross-post Welcome to the 3rd Annual Submissive Journey Weekend… I am proud to announce that registration for the next Submissive Journey Weekend is now open. We cordially invite those who identify as submissive, slave, girl, boi /boy, bottom, pup, etc. to a weekend of learning, growth and support. All genders, [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged BDSM event, bottom, classes, discussion, educational opportunities, event, experience, focus, gender, growth, information, journey, learning, love, questions, relationship, rt, Service, sex, sexual orientation, share, SJW, skills, slave, submissive, submissive event, submissive journey weekend, support, training |
By lunaKM on September 28, 2009
My first ebook up for review is “How To Get The Spanking You Want: The Complete Guide to Asking For it, Getting it, and Making it Better” by Vivian of The Disciplined Feminist. I have an excerpt on this site if you’d like to read it. The author has over 23 years of spanking experience [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, Aria, blogs, book, book review, books, control, discipline, Disciplined Feminist, discussion, Dom, dress, experience, fantasy, feminine, hands, help, love, needs, partners, play, real life, relationship, review, rt, series, share, spanking, spanking series, submissive, Variant Books, Vivian |
By lunaKM on August 24, 2009
Competition is human nature. From the time we are children we start to see who is ‘better’ and hopefully that is you. It could be as simple as having more ice cream than your sibling thus making you better or getting the best grade on a test, making you better than everyone else in the [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, competition, D/s, discussion, experience, feminine, journey, limits, manners, masculine, masochist, needs, opinion, play, play parties, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, sex, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on July 3, 2009
If you haven’t joined the craze in new information delivery that is twitter, you are missing out. Thought to be the internet’s next big social media outlet, Submissive Guide decided to join from the onset. It’s been an amazing few months so far, and I’m still trying to figure out what my followers want as [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged BDSM, book, contest, discussion, essays, fetlife, giveaway, household tips and tricks, information, information delivery, internet, links, m/s, questions, quotes, rt, short, slave, submission, submissive, tips, tricks, tweets, twitter |
By lunaKM on June 18, 2009
When you discover that you might be kinky there are a lot of questions surrounding how to accept that. One of those may be trying to explore that kink with your existing partner. But how do you bring up the subject and how do you handle what they may say about the ideas you are [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged activities, amazon.com, Bondage, book, choice, decisions, desires, discussion, Dom, dominant, Dossie Easton, dynamic, emotions, help, intimacy, Introducing Partners to BDSM, kinky, learning, leather, links, love, marriage, online, partners, play, questions, relationship, Resources, role play, rt, sex, spanking, sub frenzy, submissive, suggestions, websites |
By lunaKM on May 13, 2009
There is now a chat room on this website. You can find it under the Resources link or by clicking on this link. I’ll be starting discussion nights in June and am looking for a few submissives that would like to host chat nights as well. Guest hosted chat nights would need to be at [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged chat, chat night, chat room, discussion, email, Resources, rt, submissive, submissive chat |
By lunaKM on May 12, 2009
This week’s video post is about masochism and submission. I mentioned this in the post about myths that submissive’s aren’t always masochist. I thought this topic deserved a more in depth discussion. I’m a masochist. I get sexual pleasure from pain. That’s wired into me. I’m also submissive. It’s who I am. For me, [...]
Posted in Online Submission, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, discussion, Dom, Domestics, dominant, dominants, email, female, learning, Masochism, masochist, myths, play, punishment, questions, rt, Service, sex, sexual pleasure, submission, submissive, value |
By lunaKM on April 9, 2009
A couple week’s ago I held a Roundtable discussion on Polyamory. You had a lot to say about it. I also had a guest post on polyamory, written by May. Coming up this week is a second guest post about having two Dominats in a poly relationship by Aria. Keep an eye out for that [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions | Tagged Aria, balance, comfort, communication, control, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, event, events, family, friends, guest post, help, jealousy, limits, love, needs, partners, poly, polyamorous, polyamory, relationship, Relationships, review, roundtable discussion, rt, rules, schedules, security, series, share, structure, submissive, support, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on March 18, 2009
Continuing the work on your training resume, I’d like to talk about mapping out how you dream of your submission being. This is a discussion of ideals and dreams. You can be as fanciful as you want right now, we will narrow things down as we go along. There are 3 things I’d like to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Submission, Training Resume | Tagged activities, D/s, desires, discipline, discussion, dreams, dynamic, dynamics, focus, Gor, help, ideals, information, kinky, learning, links, mind maps, needs, online, play, poly, protocol, punishment, relationship, Relationships, resume, ritual, rituals, routine, rt, rules, Service, skills, slave, slavery, structure, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, wants |
By lunaKM on March 17, 2009
This week’s video tip is about collars. Collars are a commonly discussed topic in BDSM. There is a wide range of information and opposing viewpoints on a lot of ideas surrounding collars and collaring. One of the ideas I’d like to cover today is the idea that a collar means more than a wedding ring [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, cheapen, collaring, collars, commitment, discussion, Dom, dominant, information, online, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, symbols, value, velcro collars, viewpoints |
By lunaKM on March 13, 2009
Every so often I want to open up the blog for you to share and teach me on a topic that I don’t know a lot about. This is your chance to teach me and the other readers of this blog. I encourage you to comment, subscribe to the comments and keep coming back to [...]
Posted in Relationships, Roundtable Discussions, Sex and Sexuality, Social Norms | Tagged acceptance, balance, cons, consensual, control, D/s, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, dominants, friends, love, poly, polyamory, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, sex, share, support |
By lunaKM on March 11, 2009
The second question I received for March question month came to me in my email. I’m a strong person, but something in me was missing…until i admitted what i really am. I’m engaged, i love my boyfriend very much, but I decided to open my heart to him and he’s really doing his best to [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Relationships | Tagged activities, advice, beginning bdsm, book, books, bottom, changing, choice, D/s, discussion, Dom, dominant, dominant partner, email, fetlife, help, housework, learning, love, needs, newbies, question month, relationship, Relationships, Resources, roles, rt, Service, sex, share, short, standing, submissive, suggestions, surrender, understanding, wants |
By lunaKM on March 6, 2009
Recently there has been a lot of talk about Feminism and it’s role in society where it’s related (or not related) to submission in a D/s context. I read kaya’s post from Under His Hand, that while being a rant, was a well thought out discussion on how narrow minded a lot of feminists are [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged choice, choices, D/s, danger, discussion, Dom, dominant, family, female, feminism, feminist movement, movement, norms, opinion, opposing views, poll, relationship, rt, single, societal views, submission, winner |
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