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How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

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Talking to Your Dominant: When A Desire Becomes a Need

Being in a power exchange relationship at the time was more of a want and desire than a need. The more experience I gained, the more it became a need.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship?

Feeling Unfulfilled: Do My Sexual Needs Not Matter in a D/s Relationship?

I find myself resentful that, mostly, sex involves his orgasms and not mine. Do I need to accept that my pleasure is not a consideration in our relationship?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How to Ask for Play and Why It’s So Hard For Submissives To Do

How to Ask for Play and Why It’s So Hard For Submissives To Do

One of the hardest things we do as submissives is ask for play. For many of us, coming out and saying we want play feels like we are topping from the bottom, stepping out of our submissive boundaries and doing something that isn’t in our character. But I’m here to tell you that it isn’t. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Recently I heard something in the midst of a talk about obedience that just made me stop and really think for a moment – and I mean deep thought too! Delayed obedience becomes immediate disobedience; partial obedience is complete disobedience. Yes, my mind had to reflect on the matter of obedience. Honestly, I can’t say [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Personal Growth
4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

4 Things You Should Not Put Up With Just Because He’s a Dominant

I’ve been in relationships before. I know how they should work, or at least I think I do. Sometimes I wonder if everyone has forgotten how things are supposed to work just because they are in a D/s relationship instead of a vanilla one. Many of the questions on social networking for kinky people stems [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Book Review: Conquer Me

Book Review: Conquer Me

This is a guest review by Astryyd. I have always been a person that thinks somewhat out of the box for most of my life and have never been one to ‘go along’ with a crowd. My relationships always seem to defy convention and so too my journey into the world of submission which is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Reviews
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Making Him the Dom of Your Dreams – Working With The Man You Have

Oftentimes we find our desire to be submissive or kinky when we are already in a relationship and are not sure really how to proceed with that. It can come as a shock to try to force your desires on your partner and if you address the subject without their thoughts in mind it could [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

I listened to a podcast from Erotic Awakening the other day that talked about The Slave Journal. The idea for this document is not the same as having a journal or blog to document your life in and I thought it was an excellent idea and a useful tool for many relationships. Maybe even yours! [...]

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/16/13 “How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

Your Responsibilities in Play – In and Out of a Relationship

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/2/13 Our responsibilities as a submissive are important to be aware of. I’ve said a number of times in other articles that often novice submissives feel that once they are in a relationship they don’t have any responsibilities at all. That is far from true. Does that then mean that [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/2/13 Once you reach a level of comfort with your kinky desires it may be time to go to a BDSM convention. A BDSM convention is much like a convention for any other activity. It is held in a hotel or large convention center with classes and seminars to choose [...]

Dealing with Stress in a D/s Relationship

Today’s question is about handling when the D/s is shelved due to external (or internal) stress. Hi Luna, I wanted to ask you about when a relationship is going through a rough patch, and neither partner can seem to find it within them to fulfill their previous D/s roles. My Sir is dealing with a [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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