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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

In this video series, I define terms that readers have asked me about! This one is the comparison of funishment and punishment. Do you have a term you’d like defined? Let me know.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
Will Detailed Definitions Save a Relationship?

Will Detailed Definitions Save a Relationship?

I have tried many times to explain the roles we both have that keeps us both wanting to be our best and performing to the best of our abilities but we are falling apart.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles

There are a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Here’s a short list.

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Beginner Basics, Community
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Like everything in life, there are pros and cons to both types of management styles and I want to share some of those with you now.

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

One of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Should I talk to him and tell him I am a submissive personality, but I want to be his slave?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

I’m going to guide you to the answers, but you’ll still have to do your own work as far as finding the answers that will work for you.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

I thought by not being selfish, I was going to be a better slave and I found out the hard way, that wasn’t true. You have to be selfish once and awhile to take care of yourself and to meet your own needs.

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Ask one hundred submissives why they consider topping from the bottom as bad and they will likely come up with something relating to “forcing the Dominant’s hand.” They’d be right. The real, honest to goodness, truth is that forcing the Dominant’s hand is the only way you can bottom-top. How you do that is situational, different for different people or different reasons and you really can’t list the exact ways that it comes about.

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don’t know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we’ll learn from this little article too – that we were there once.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

I have a love/hate relationship with labels. Our lifestyle labels are no different.

10 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Today we’ll be talking about the introductory pages – page 33 of the book. If you’ve read along, please participate.

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Am I Submitting or Not?

Am I Submitting or Not?

Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that I am not submitting at all. I disagree but I wonder if I am afraid to submit. Is this normal? Secondly, he said that if I decide to submit I need to express it in a well thought out email. Any suggestions on what that email should say?

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is a BDSM Bottom?

What is a BDSM Bottom?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

fuzzyP breaks down what he sees as the differences in embarrassment and humiliation. Do you agree with his assessment?

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
What is Discipline?

What is Discipline?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Discipline has two distinct definitions in relation to BDSM. Discipline is the part of training that is a preventative correction of behavior. You can undergo discipline to keep focused [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

The Difference Between Nude and Naked

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. There are a lot of words that we use in the vanilla world that have many different meanings and aren’t specific about which one we intend when we use [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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