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[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

[Video Post] Define This! Punishment and Funishment

Welcome to a mini-series here on the channel that I’m going to call Define This! In this series you are welcome to ask me to define terms found in the BDSM and D/s lexicon that you don’t know and I will make a brief video defining it for you. Sounds simple enough, right?  I want [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Video Posts
Ask lunaKM – Detailed Definitions to Save a Relationship

Ask lunaKM – Detailed Definitions to Save a Relationship

Dear lunaKM, I am married to my Dom and I live him with ask my heart and always to the best of my ability do what he asks of me. I introduced him to this lifestyle and have tried many times to explain the roles we both have that keeps us both wanting to be [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
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Am I Little or What? Discovering the Types of Littles

Like in the BDSM lifestyle, there’s a lot of different labels and terminology when it comes to the world of age players, littles, adult babies, and diaper lovers. Like most people, one person usually doesn’t just fit one definition and there tends to be a blending of labels, which is totally cool because I fully [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Beginner Basics, Community
Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Micromanagement and Macromanagement: What’s the Difference?

Awhile ago, I was talking to a friend of mine and asked her if she had any good topic ideas because it’s good to have outside influences and she suggested micromanaging vs proactivity. I got super excited because, it’s an awesome topic. I figured it would be a rather easy topic to write about, but [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Glossary, Relationships

BDSM Basics: Am I Dominant or submissive?

Whether you’ve read 50 Shades of Grey or another drugstore dirty romance novel and then decided to go exploring in BDSM or you’ve found BDSM another way one of the first questions everyone has is are they Dominant or submissive? It sure feels like a good place to start and I am going to help [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts
Ask lunaKM – Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Ask lunaKM – Sub or slave; He says I’m slave, I say I’m sub, who’s right?

Thank you so much for this site!  I am new to the world as I have always been vanilla.  I met a man who is a dom and he started training me without me realizing it.  He did not brain wash me and I am a strong willed person, but I am totally hooked!  I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a feared act for novices because it holds a negative connotation that the person is somehow not submissive if they top from the bottom. It’s whispered and screamed in all of the online forums dealing with BDSM and most of those talk about it with disdain and shame the people [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/17/12 Everyone started here at some point or another. You may even be at this point right now. Brand new to BDSM, D/s or both and not sure what you would like in a relationship, the bedroom, with kink…. anything. And then you meet people online or face to face [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Labels – Yet Another “L” Word

Like the vanilla world we live in, the kinky world is full of labels.  And if you want to stir up a heated discussion, bring up “labels.”  It is pretty hard to have a room full of people, talking about labels without someone getting upset.  And rightfully so.  A lot of people feel that labels [...]

10 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Living M/s Book Club Event – Week 1

Welcome everyone to the first week of another book club here on Submissive Guide. This book club is going to be a bit more free form than the last one. I won’t present questions in the post itself. Use this post as a forum thread and talk among the other commenters. I will be participating [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Ask lunaKM – Am I Submitting or Not?

Ask lunaKM – Am I Submitting or Not?

Hi Luna, I was reading your post about the gift of submission. I thought it was very eye opening. I took your eCourse and it really helped but I am still very confused and feeling overwhelmed. Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is a BDSM Bottom?

What is a BDSM Bottom?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

Embarrassment vs. Humiliation – One Opinion

This has always been a fascinating subject for me. Humiliation, for many, is a large – perhaps even important – part of their D/s dynamic. For these people, there can be a very strong desire to be humiliated. But what is humiliation? We’ve all experienced embarrassment from time to time, and have a fairly good [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex
What is Discipline?

What is Discipline?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Discipline has two distinct definitions in relation to BDSM. Discipline is the part of training that is a preventative correction of behavior. You can undergo discipline to keep focused [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

The Difference Between Nude and Naked

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. There are a lot of words that we use in the vanilla world that have many different meanings and aren’t specific about which one we intend when we use [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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