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By lunaKM on June 28, 2010
This month’s review is an etiquette book like no other. When I bought this book I wasn’t sure it would have any more information that Miss Manners or Emily Post but I was wrong, so very wrong. The Bride Wore Black Leather…And He Looked Fabulous!: An Etiquette Guide for the Rest of Us by Drew [...]
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By lunaKM on February 8, 2010
Reading across the blogosphere you will encounter these words almost synonymous to each other: Discipline and Punishment. The words are far from the same however some dynamics treat them the same. In fact for the longest time I have used the word punishment when I mean discipline. It’s even possible that Master has used these [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged definitions, differences in words, discipline, discipline and punishment, ideas, punishment, similarities |
By lunaKM on September 25, 2009
So, you’ve met submissives and slaves online, their Dominant and Master counterparts but as you get to know them and how they interact you start to see the things they do blurring the lines of what you had believed a submissive was, or that a slave wasn’t supposed to act this way, etc. It brings [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged comfort, definitions, Dom, dominant, help, labels, learning, lifestyle, munch, novice, novices, online, rt, slave, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on June 29, 2009
This post is by Skylerpet. She’s written several other posts here for Submissive Guide. You can read more of her work on online submission and pet play here. BDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I seem them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how’s and why’s of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, Bondage, caning, chat, comparisons, cons, consensual, D/s, definitions, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, email, guest post, information, kinky, lifestyle, Masochism, masochist, online, Online Submission, opinion, pet play, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slavery, spanking, standing, submission, submissive, websites, what is BDSM, what is D/s |
By lunaKM on May 28, 2009
The idea of orgasm control or denial strikes fear in novice submissives. “What do you mean give over my ability to orgasm whenever I want?” Sure you could think of it that way, but in terms of your submission it could mean so much more. Let me start with the basic definitions. Orgasm Control: When [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged Aria, connection, control, definitions, Dom, dominant, dominants, fear, female, novice, orgasm control, orgasm denial, orgasms, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, sex, stress, submission, submissive, surrender, tall, training |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2009
Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged attitude, balance, cons, definitions, depression, Dom, dominant, emotions, event, experience, guilt, help, IRC, needs, play, punishment, questions, recognizing guilt, resolving guilt, rt, sadness, self-care, sex, stereotype, submissive |
By lunaKM on April 4, 2009
The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Service | Tagged activities, attitude, basics, BDSM, D/s, definitions, Dom, dominant, dominants, dynamic, experience, learned, learning, melly, needs, novice, novices, relationship, rt, Service, slave, slave training, specifics, structure, submissive, submissive training, training |
By lunaKM on April 2, 2009
There are mentors in every area of life and situation. In BDSM it is sometimes recommended to newbies to pick up a mentor, but are never given the tools to find a mentor that is right for them. I know that when I first started out there were good people to be around and not [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety, Submission | Tagged advice, BDSM, BDSM mentors, comfort, cons, definitions, finding a mentor, focus, friends, get advice, growth, health, help, information, instructional, interview, lifestyle, mentor, mentor search, newbies, novice, novices, questions, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safewords, sister, slave, specifics, stress, submission, submissive, tips, training, vetting |
By lunaKM on January 19, 2009
As a point of personal opinion I’d like to define the differences between very basic terms so that there is no confusion as to who I am referring to when I mention either of these terms. I write this guide in my perspective and provide my mentorship and guidance with these terms clearly defined for [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged basics, bottom, control, D/s, definitions, difference in terms, discussion, Dom, dominant, limits, masochist, mentor, opinion, pets, play, progress, relationship, roles, rt, rules, safe, scene, Service, share, slave, structure, submission, submissive, titles, toy, toys, viewpoints |
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