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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/16/13 “How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

[Video Post] I Need Help Finding a Mentor

Hi LunaKM, The dominant I have been seeing the past 2 months introduced me to your site.  I was wondering how I can get a submissive mentor?  I’d like to talk about things with someone that has experience.  I am on fetlife but I don’t love posting things where everyone can see.  Can you help [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

To Have Children Or Not, Now THAT is a Question

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/22/12 Disclaimer: I do not have children nor are they in my future. The post below discusses the issue of deciding to have children for a variety of reasons besides a natural progression of wanting them, having a partner that wants them and then working towards that end. When KnyghtMare [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Conquer Me Book Club – Week 1

Hi everyone! I hope that you have had time to read the first section of the book club book, “Conquer Me” by Kacie Cunningham. If you want to read the book at a later time, I suggest you skip this book club series – as I can’t promise their won’t be “spoilers.” Then again, this [...]

31 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/19/12 If you had asked me six months ago if I was into poly relationships I’d probably say no. KnyghtMare and I are happily monogamous and have been so for 8 years.  He’s had play partners, but never with any sex so I still considered us monogamous even if the [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

What is Punishment?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Depending on who you talk to, punishment can mean different things. Some people have different meaning if you capitalize the P or if you don’t. Others use it synonymous with play. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

[Video Post] Is It Cheating When It’s Online?

A couple weeks ago I was asked about cheating. Specifically if using technology to cyber date someone was considered cheating. It brought me to the conclusion that we needed to have a discussion about it, just you and me. Cheating is a big nasty word. It conjures distrust, fear and doubt in a relationship. It [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

Introduction to Lessons in Submissive Speech Series

Not long after my first step into the real world of BDSM I learned of a phrase that to this day has no real definition that I can pin to it. That phrase is “speaking submissively.” To me, there is no way to speak submissively that isn’t also speaking respectfully and with deference. Many other [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

How to Use the “30 Days” Memes Effectively to Maximize Submissive Growth

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12-17-11 We’ve all seen them on other people’s blogs. You may have even done them as a way to prompt yourself with something to write. They are fun. They are memes. Memes are the quizzes, questions, and games that seem to spread like a virus all over the blogging scene [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
What is a BDSM Bottom?

What is a BDSM Bottom?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
What is Submission to You?

What is Submission to You?

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-19-11 Thinking back on the beginning of my exploration into submission I came to realize some simple things about submission. It’s personal. So many of the websites, including Submissive Guide try hard to define submission in terms that others can understand and hopefully identify with, but there are plenty of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

This is a guest post by tlbsab. You can find her here on the SubGuide Club. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake; but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships
The Secret of Communicating When You Are Shy

The Secret of Communicating When You Are Shy

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-17-11 Open communication is complicated by shyness. Addressing that shyness could help you open up to your partner and others instead of the social discomfort you constantly feel. But what is shyness and how does it manifest? You can get over being shy and start living your life free from [...]

Overcoming Frustration and Anger as a Submissive

Frustration is a normal human response. It can get out of hand and escalate to anger if not handled well. As submissives we seem to deal with frustration more openly than others in the lifestyle. Let’s start with a definition from wikipedia about frustration. In psychology, frustration is a common emotional response to opposition. Related [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset

The Difference Between Nude and Naked

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. There are a lot of words that we use in the vanilla world that have many different meanings and aren’t specific about which one we intend when we use [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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