By lunaKM on August 13, 2010
This video post is about an epidemic I’ve seen with submissives all over. A submissive, dating and seeing Dominants; rarely going past the first few dates can begin to wonder why they are constantly searching and never finding someone to serve. You can develop a closed heart and begin to fear opening yourself up for [...]
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By lunaKM on February 13, 2010
This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, Alt.com, Bondage, Bondage.com, CollarMe, cons, danger, dangers, dating, depression, email, false sense of security, family, fetlife, friends, information, internet, online, Online dating, online profiles, profile safety, relationship, rt, safe, Safety, security, Service, share, share photos, sharing, support, tips |
By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
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By lunaKM on July 31, 2009
“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.” I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to find [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged BDSM, checklist, compatibility, dates, dating, Dom, finding a partner, information, learning, lifestyle, m/s, needs, opinion, partners, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, scene, share, specifics, wants |
By Guest Author on April 11, 2009
Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]
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By lunaKM on March 16, 2009
Looking for your partner is challenging, no doubt about it. You’ve probably done the bar scene, the alternative adult dating sites, and maybe a few of the vanilla ones too. No matter where you look you find men or women that just aren’t your type. I’m here to say that it is possible to find [...]
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By lunaKM on February 20, 2009
Predators and abusive Dominants are everywhere. I’ve seen them and been subjected to them in a casual relationship. Thankfully I escaped into a kind and loving relationship that I wouldn’t trade for the world. But how do you know the person you are with is an abuser and not just a strict Dominant? I’m going [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Safety | Tagged abuse, abusive relationships, assistance, BDSM, clothing, connection, danger, dangers, dating, Dom, domestic violence project, dominant, dominants, essays, family, guilt, help, internet, learning, leather, limits, love, national leather association, needs, play, predators, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, sex, support, trust, warning signs, warnings |
By lunaKM on January 22, 2009
How do you feel about the online fetish/BDSM dating services out there? Which ones would you recommend? Which ones should someone steer clear of? Explain your reasoning. photo credit d70focus
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By lunaKM on January 3, 2009
“It’s so hard to find someone in the Lifestyle that I’m compatible with. You are so lucky to have found someone.” I don’t know how many times I hear this on a daily basis when conversing. It always brings up my view on the whole dating atmosphere within the Lifestyle. Yes, it is hard to [...]
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