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The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

Knife play runs the edge of what could be construed as safe because, well, knives. The most important thing to know about knife play is that while it is a powerfully sexy tool, it is best used in the hands of an experienced person with an experienced couple.

Comments Off Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants

The Need for Speed – The Desperation of Some Dominants

Why some ill-experienced Dominants only seek novice submissives and how you can protect yourself from them.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

We will take SSC apart and make consensuality the core for all interactions for it is the most valuable part of a D/s exchange.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

How Being Too Eager Is Not Always a Good Thing for a Submissive

Being too eager can endanger your rational thought, your emotional and physical well-being and create a line for Dominants to take advantage of you. Here’s where eagerness gets tricky.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Ask lunaKM – Relationship Stress, Cruising Protocol and Poly Issues

Dear lunaKM, I’ve been a sub for about 6 mo now…online Dom. (this is my first experience being a sub) I have a lot of respect for Him, but can’t get my act together enough to obey everything He wants me to do. I am overwhelmed with my personal life and work and the stress [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Recapturing Common Sense

Recapturing Common Sense

All novice submissives have a moment where a lapse in judgment can happen. No one is impervious to the lures of desire and dark needs. When offered a chance to experiment or explore our new-found desires we overlook that most important instinct – our gut instinct.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
My Boyfriend/Dominant Won’t Allow a Safeword

My Boyfriend/Dominant Won’t Allow a Safeword

My problem is he won’t allow me a safe word. I only want it in case something is about to break, I can’t breathe, etc. He won’t listen to my pleas to have one. Any advice to get him to listen to me?

Comments Off Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

A Safe Call Could Save Your Life: How to Set It Up

A safe call is something that you may never need to use but should be there anyway. Like car insurance. It’s there in the case of an accident. It’s not like you plan on getting into an accident so you get insurance. It’s the other way around. A safe call is your backup plan, your safety net. In fact, it could very well save your life. Are you in good hands?

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Safety
Ask Anything | Prostitution is Not Submission

Ask Anything | Prostitution is Not Submission

I am new to Dom/sub.  I have been in training for 4 months, My Dominant says he wants to have men pay for an hour of pleasure with me.  An hour of me granting their every wish.  I said that sounded like prostitution to me,  he said if that offended me too much I shouldn’t [...]

1 comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

A common mistake that many submissives make is to assume that giving up control also means giving up the responsibility to themselves and to the situation. A submissive shares equal responsibility for any consequences – good or bad – that occur as a result of consensual play or activities.

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

I’ve been following an epic thread on consent for months now, watching sadly as many of the comments devolve into dangerously magical thinking and wishing somebody would speak up, and say “Whoa. There’s a point at which personal responsibility comes into play here.”

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes hold the best thing is to stop and treat the problem.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
What is Edgeplay?

What is Edgeplay?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Edgeplay has three definitions. They both apply at the same time so if you are having an edge play discussion, make sure you know which definition you are using. [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

When Does Punishment Go Too Far?

In all BDSM exchanges, there is a level of consent and negotiation that happened prior to the activity or relationship. This also includes punishment.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety, Video Posts
5 Things to Give Your Safe Call Person Before You Go On That Kinky Date

5 Things to Give Your Safe Call Person Before You Go On That Kinky Date

Remember, this person is your “just in case” person. It’s extremely unlikely they will ever have to use the information but it’s important. So what information is important for your safe call person to have?

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety
The Popularity of BDSM

The Popularity of BDSM

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/6/10 (Caveat: I am not an expert historian of BDSM. What I have learned I picked up along the way. I can’t say with certainty what is true and what is false. I have made every effort to let you know if I’m uncertain of the validity of a certain [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of a Predator Dom/me Part 2

Did you miss part 1? You can read it here. In Part 1, we looked at the information that you should try to gather when starting to interact with an unknown Dom/me. However, there are other warning signs that can appear once you start to develop a relationship with your new Dom/me. Evaluating your training [...]

6 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Safety

What NOT to Share on Your Online Profile

This video post is about what not to share on your online profile. We all have one somewhere. FetLife being all the rage right now, but also we have alt.com, collarme.com, bondage.com and others where we place ads and identity profiles up to get people interested. This interest can be friends or relationship related; it [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety, Video Posts
Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]

9 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

The Safety Disguise of Safewords: Safewords Are Not Always Safe

I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break.  Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety
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