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Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is It Healthy to Do Humiliation as Punishment?

Is it healthy to use humiliation as a punishment?  I mean, it’s fun during scenes.  You know it’s just play & you can always use your safe word if your Dominant hits you where it hurts.  During punishments, you know your Dominant isn’t pleased with you, which is painful enough alone.  That’s why you’re being [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I’m Polyamorous but Feel Territorial Over Kink, Is This Normal?

I am in a poly relationship with my partner and I really care for his other partner. For the most part, I am happy for all aspects of their relationship. However, I recently learned that he used nipple clamps that we had purchased together on her and this triggered an unexpected reaction from me. I [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

Single in the Scene Part III: The Slave Resume

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read – Part I: Boundaries and Part II: Service. Yeeees – there is a [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Training Resume
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Several years ago, I was reading a book. In the book, one of the characters had a tattoo that read “quod nutrit me destruit me”. After reading a bit further, the translation of the quote was given, “that which nourishes me also destroys me”. Long after finishing the book, I was unable to forget that [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle as I have been vanilla all my life…..but I feel I was born to be submissive as I am a submissive woman by nature. My Dom of 3 months who is a wonderful man is voyeuristic and a sadist. I felt a disconnect with him a few [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

What AreThe Effects of Fisting?

  I was curious about the long term effect of fisting or even multiple fingers/larger toys in the vagina? I have what has been described as a tight vagina which I would imagine would be positive, however, I am entering into a D/s relationship with a Daddy that wants to eventually be able to fist [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Sex and Sexuality
Submission and Health/Joint Problems

Submission and Health/Joint Problems

Does a long term submission affect your health, in particular, joint issues?   Greetings, The only way that submission could affect your health is if you allow it to. Our Dominants are not out to damage us. So if you have joint issues or any health issues, you need to communicate this with your prospective [...]

2 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything

How To Overcome The Outside Forces That Stress Us

Not too long ago,  my pup and I were faced with something that rears its ugly head to everyone-lifestyle or not.  The dreaded “outside force.”  What is this intruder you may ask?  Well, it is anything outside of the relationship that causes undue tension within a pairing; it is never welcome and always has to be handled [...]

5 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships

Submitting Is Not Without Personal Responsibility

This post was going to be a video post but since I’m working off of my little netbook for the time being (my laptop died) I was unable to create the video. I promise to get back to doing videos when I have a new laptop. In a play party last night I witnessed a [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

Deceptive Submissive – The Flip Side of the Predator Dominant

This is a guest post by Camryn Darkstone. Virtual worlds have opened a door to BDSM for many people, allowing them to explore their curiosity about it in a fantasy environment. People who would never do so in “real” life can try on handcuffs, be chained and bound, and even submit to a Dominant, all [...]

11 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety
When You’re Left to Beating Yourself Up – Online SM at a Glance

When You’re Left to Beating Yourself Up – Online SM at a Glance

Online BDSM relationships come in many different flavors. As I’ve explored before, they can be a good novice outlet for learning more about yourself in a safe, relatively anonymous environment. I started out in an online relationship only because the fear of being kinky (and an unwilling husband) kept me locked behind my computer. I [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Online Submission
First Aid for Bruises, Abrasions and Other After Play Marks

First Aid for Bruises, Abrasions and Other After Play Marks

When Master and I play, it’s very likely that there will be marks, at least temporarily. Caring for them is part of the aftercare we have set up for me.  We are pretty minimal when it comes to first aid for them because I like to keep them as long as possible.  I’m the sort [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

We never want our scene time to end. It’s fun and pleasant and lovely. When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

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