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How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

I am glad to help reduce the stigma surrounding kink. If you are considering coming out kinky, give this article a read.

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth, Relationships
How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

How Giving a Blowjob Has Taught Me That Service and Pleasure Are One

I used to hate giving blow jobs. But now I can say that I actually enjoy them.

19 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset, Sex and Sexuality
Communicating While Submissive

Communicating While Submissive

Doms keep telling us that they’re not mind-readers, so we have to communicate. But it’s hard! Especially when it’s something they might not want to hear.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth
Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

Why I Could Never Return to a Vanilla Relationship

I didn’t know I was submissive when I was in my last vanilla relationship.  I never would have guessed it at all and would have denied it if someone made the suggestion.  I was too independent to be submissive (so I thought).  I did, however, have a lingering fascination with rope and bondage after my [...]

7 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/1/13 We don’t often think about the submissive having anything to teach the Dominant, and in many cases a Dominant is teaching the submissive. There’s nothing wrong with that, but when the submissive has more experience or learning in an area it does make it easier if the Dominant is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

This is the first in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This first article is about the importance that communication plays in our relationships. Awhile ago, I came across this article in the NY Times about how BDSM has become a bit more [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

Help! I Need to Learn to Swear to Please My Dominant

I am quite new in action to the lifestyle, but far from new in thought.  I have known basically forever that I am a submissive…but have been stuck on knowing what to do about it. I am now quite happily with my Sir.  He seems very pleased with my natural submissiveness…but we have one are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Single in the Scene Part II: Service

Single in the Scene Part II: Service

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read Part I: Boundaries. Over the past few weeks the matter of service has [...]

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Service
Am I Submitting or Not?

Am I Submitting or Not?

Hi Luna, I was reading your post about the gift of submission. I thought it was very eye opening. I took your eCourse and it really helped but I am still very confused and feeling overwhelmed. Here’s are my questions. I have been communicating with a Dom for about two months and he insists that [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

Book Review: Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice

I had to really think about whether I wanted to review this book on Submissive Guide or not because it’s not directed to submissives. In fact the description of the book says that it’s for Masters and those new to BDSM that are called to Mastery. I started reading it with an open outlook though [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews

[Video Post] Is It Cheating When It’s Online?

A couple weeks ago I was asked about cheating. Specifically if using technology to cyber date someone was considered cheating. It brought me to the conclusion that we needed to have a discussion about it, just you and me. Cheating is a big nasty word. It conjures distrust, fear and doubt in a relationship. It [...]

11 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts

Lessons in Submissive Speech 1: Addressing Individuals

In a BDSM context, it’s more common to have to learn how to address someone than in a non-scene situation. How many times have you had conversations with service personnel or with people you encounter in your day to day without first asking them their name or how they wish to be addressed? It’s a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

What Do You Do When Top Drop Rules Your Relationship?

This is a guest post by tlbsab. You can find her here on the SubGuide Club. Have you ever had everything you wanted only to have it crash around you because of a simple mistake? It didn’t have to be your mistake; but the emotional toll that it takes on your personality and actions is [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Relationships

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