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How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

How to Tell When That Online Training Dom is a Wolf In Sheep’s Clothing

While it’s a small few, there are people who can threaten your sense of trust and your own emotions. These are the wolves of the online D/s world.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Do I have to give control of everything to be submissive?

Is it possible to be someone’s submissive if there’s one thing you just cannot give up control over?

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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A Mental Predicament: Balancing Wants and Needs

The transition to 24/7 D/s turned out to be much more challenging for us.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Safety

Why Identifying Your Wants and Needs is So Important as a Novice Submissive

Understanding your needs and how important certain ones in your life is a key component to finally reaching happiness and fulfillment.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

Why That Dominant You Found Online Just Disappeared After a Short Time

I’m going to present a short list of reasons why this person fit so perfectly into your life and then vanished without a second glance.

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

Until I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

Paralysis of Analysis: Over-thinking Your Submission

You become paralyzed in thought. Sometimes, that thought becomes so big and overwhelming, it can cause an interruption in daily living

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Talking to your Dom about the way you keep your hair (the colour, the length, the style of cut, etc.) can give your Dom some great opportunities to exercise control over you in a new way, and thereby give you the opportunity to grow into a new kind of submission.

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

How to Turn Your Submissive Experience Into Education for Your Dominant

Ways that a submissive can teach without worrying about “being Dominant” in order for the education to happen and also ways that a submissive could take on education and share that knowledge with their Dominant as a part of their service.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships, Service
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

It is okay to miss someone you loved. It is okay to reflect upon the relationship. The trouble lies when it becomes an obsession.

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Ask lunaKM – Another Batch of Quick Answers

Hi Luna! Do you feel that another submissive would be a better Mentor to a novice submissive rather than another Dominant? I personally feel that a person of similar role to you can advise and mentor you better than someone who could be your Dominant. So if you are a slave, you should have a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

There are several different types of Financial Domination, including dynamics which do not involve the dominant receiving any money whatsoever. This is often not understood when some people rail against Financial Domination as a legitimate kink.

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

Using a Slave Journal – It’s Not What You Think!

The Slave Journal is a log of command, instructions, and requests from the Dominant. When they ask for you to do something, you write it down. Things like new rules, mention that they prefer Charmin toilet paper or that they love the red dress you wore the other night.

18 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service, Training Resume
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

It was difficult to find any information about balancing my professional life with my submissive desires, so this article is dedicated to the people who, like me, wish to explore the D/s relationship dynamic and continue to work in the professional world.

3 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

Some of the Best Kept Secrets to Sub Drop Recovery

There are things you can do to help you prevent some or all of the symptoms of sub drop. Taking care of yourself after you play is a personal responsibility that I wish more submissives would take upon themselves.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

Tips on How to Attend a BDSM Convention on a Budget

It’s no secret that these conventions can get costly so I wanted to put together some tips for you to use to help you save a bit of money and still enjoy the event to its fullest.

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