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Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

My Dominant is constantly changing the rules of the relationship and I don’t agree with them. I love him and don’t want to give him up but I am starting to question if he ever really loved me at all?

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Some Issues with Consensuality

Some Issues with Consensuality

As in most things, the meaning of consent is far from simple.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
You Can’t Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little

You Can’t Be Little All the Time: Learning Appropriate Public Behavior as a Little

Being little in a public setting brings up the question of public consent. Do the people around you – apart from those who know you and understand your little side – consent to witnessing the public display of your kink?

16 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Beginner Basics

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

Consent is Key: SSC and RACK

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/19/14 The Birth of Safe, Sane and Consensual Historically, David Stein is the person who first coined the phrase in 1983 for the Gay Male SM Activists Group that he co-founded. It was then used as the slogan in the SM Rights contingent of the Gay Rights march to the [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/15/14 As a novice submissive it can be an exciting endeavor to enter into a relationship right away before you know anything about BDSM or D/s, or even being introduced to the dynamic from someone you met online or face to face. People do it everyday. It is also one [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid [...]

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

Some of you may have come across the British website – Informed Consent. It’s a sort of British Fetlife with blog posts, message boards and personals to search. News came out recently to say due to various reasons the person who is behind the site is closing it at the end of February. I thought I’d [...]

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Views & More...
The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

The Importance of Consent in D/s Negotiation

Consent and Negotiation are probably something that we think about but don’t really acknowledge daily. It is important none the less to think about and address in a Dominant/submissive relationship. Why? There are many reasons but the most important one is being safe not only with your partner but more importantly with yourself. Consent is [...]

6 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Safety
Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional Stories of Male Submission

Fictional BDSM stories or erotica are often not only enjoyable but also may be a good way to learn what might be enjoyable to the reader in real life.  Those who are new to BDSM often do not know what activities and mindsets they might enjoy and while non-fiction articles, blogs, and communities are a [...]

6 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

[Video Post] Too Young for BDSM – Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. They all want to know if it’s normal and if I can help them find someone to talk to about it. When I first started getting these emails I would [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Video Posts
SGBHC #8 | Characteristics Essential to Ownership

SGBHC #8 | Characteristics Essential to Ownership

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #8 Characteristics Essential to Ownership What qualities or character traits does an Owner (Dominant/Partner) need to have in order to gain your consent to serve? Name at least three of these qualities and [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Anything | Prostitution is Not Submission

Ask Anything | Prostitution is Not Submission

I am new to Dom/sub.  I have been in training for 4 months, My Dominant says he wants to have men pay for an hour of pleasure with me.  An hour of me granting their every wish.  I said that sounded like prostitution to me,  he said if that offended me too much I shouldn’t [...]

1 comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #8 | Characteristics Essential to Ownership

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships

For Consent to Count…ASSENT Has to Matter

This is a guest post by SherynB. Please take the time to read the whole thing. It’s an important issue that needs to be addressed. Okay, there’s a 600lb gorilla in the room, and I’m done pretending it’s not there. What we do isn’t pretty or politically correct, and frankly, it’s dangerous if we can’t get (and [...]

10 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Safety

What is a Contract?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A contract is a written document between two or more parties. They are typically legally binding. In a D/s relationship contracts are used to outline the specifics of the [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

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