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7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Mama Vi Then and Now, right image courtesy of Mama Vi Johnson; left image courtesy of C. Creane Images; and edited by blyss

Aging in the Lifestyle: Doing it with Grace

Maturity ripens a slave in the most delectable way. Learn about Mama Vi and her confidence in Leather as an older slave.

In a New Relationship and Self Conscious About My Body

In a New Relationship and Self Conscious About My Body

Here are a few tips for moving from sweating over this prospect to looking forward to sharing your body with a new partner.

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships

Self-Esteem Through Grooming Part 1: Skin Care

Giving back to your skin for all it does for you is a first, and very important step in learning to appreciate your body for what it is and building up your self-esteem.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth

Build Self-Esteem through Grooming Rituals: Series Intro

When you’re being asked to put your body on display for various purposes, having a low self-esteem or an unhappy body image can be detrimental to how you conduct yourself in and out of play.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

He Wants to Watch: How to Share Your Masturbation Sessions With Confidence

Let’s figure out how we can break down our own walls of fear, embarrassment, shyness and poor body confidence to become their favorite source of this material.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

Coming Out of the Closet… Twice

I was a closet lesbian until 2003 and a closet kinkster until 2010.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
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You’re Not the Boss of Me! Empowerment Through Submission

Even though I am not currently in a D/s relationship, it’s important for me to always remember that I don’t have to submit to anyone.

3 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Mindset, Personal Growth
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

Until I discovered my submissive self, I always found myself deferring to others as much as possible to avoid conflict. Suddenly I started standing taller, with my shoulders back and my head up.

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why Confidence is Important to Submission

Why Confidence is Important to Submission

At first, I originally had something else planned for my next article, but for some reason, the word confidence keeps going through my mind. Not one of those normal passing thoughts, but one of those thoughts that keep lingering and I can’t shake to save my life. So, I figured the only way to clear my [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Ask lunaKM – Roleplay Scenarios, Unable to Kneel and Boost of Confidence

Dear lunaKM, My question involves role play, I was wondering if there are some scenarios that are available to give an individual some idea of how to start a scene. And or what kind of scene would be the easiest to get started with because I am a beginner and I usually go my instinct [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

Chat Night Transcript – Dominant Aftercare

from the Submissive Guide Chat held 7/09/13 on Aftercare for Dominants [20:10] <~lunaKM> Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask permission to speak or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Roundtable Discussions
Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

Single in the Scene Part IV: Petitioning

This series is written from the perspective that being single in the Lifestyle affords one the opportunity to do some soul-searching, learning, and defining in order to be better equipped to transition into a suitable and desirable relationship in due time. Read - Part I: Boundaries,  Part II: Service, Part III: Slave Resume. So, now that [...]

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

Brimming with Confidence – Learning to Love Your Submissive Potential

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/16/13 “How can I be the submissive he wants me to be?” “Can you give me advice on how to be the best submissive I can be?” “How do I know I’m going to be a good slave?” I get these questions all the time and they are a valid [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

How Do You Deal With Discomfort Being a Plus Sized Submissive?

I’m so glad I found your site. I am a large woman, about 275, who started exploring but has not yet experienced a D/s relationship. I think I’ve resolved much of my conflict about my sexuality, but I’ve some lingering issues to deal with from the last time I was thinner. I lost 90 pounds [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

[Video Post] How To Help Your Dominant Through Dom Drop

How do you care for a Dom/Master who is suffering dom drop?  What should a sub do to help them through this? It seems that they get reclusive.  Is this normal? Today’s Ask Anything question I thought I’d give special attention and make it a video post. A common conversation in BDSM circles is sub [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Video Posts
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10/20/12 Jealousy. At one time or another we all have felt it. Handling jealousy when it comes to our partners is a trait we all should have, but many don’t. We get spiteful, possessive and plain horrible when we feel jealousy rear it’s green pointy head. Some people are more [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training

I have to start out this post by saying that I am not an expert and can only write about what I understand and have learned. KnyghtMare and I have been embarking on making orgasm on command work for our relationship and ultimately I know it will happen. It’s an exciting journey in itself and [...]

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
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