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Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

‘Innocently’ Outing Fellow Lifestylers

Be mindful of the information you know about someone else that’s kinky. Sometimes, things can seem so very innocuous that information can ‘slip’ out casually – we may innocently drop in the ears of others. The fact is they either teeter on outing someone or can flat-out out someone.

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Safety
7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

How to Start A New Local BDSM Group

Last week, we heard from Kayla Lords in a week-long series about how to enter your local BDSM community. Here’s a link to the first post in that series. But what if you can’t find it or would like to start one of your own? I recently wrote about the difficulties some new BDSM community [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Community
Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

Tips For Those Struggling to Enter the Local BDSM Community

I logged onto Fetlife one early Friday morning with a steamy cup of joe and saw this message straight away: I was there last night but didn’t get out of my truck. I was still in my work clothes and didn’t really know how to find you guys. Maybe I’ll try again next month. As [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
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M/s and When Life Happens: Dealing With Health Challenges and Death

When we imagine an ideal world, it’s pretty safe to say that for most of us, that perfect world wouldn’t include illness, disabilities, and death. Everyone would have bodies that are strong, capable, and able to do any and all activities the heart desires. On this side of creation, that type of world doesn’t exist, [...]

4 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Personal Growth, Relationships, Service
Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

Stop Being So Hard on Yourself-The Importance of Accepting Who You Are

It’s no secret that I’m an avid reader by all the book reviews that I’ve done for the site. A few months ago, I picked up a copy of Dark Secret Love by Alison Tyler. If you’ve not heard of it, think of it as a modern-day Story of O. Even though this is a [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Mindset, Relationships
Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

Coming Out As Kinky: Food for Thought

This past winter I ran an educational event through the campus Women’s Center on BDSM in response to Fifty Shades of Grey. With the movie coming out I knew that people would be interested in the topic and consider trying it themselves and I wanted them to be safe about it. I covered the basics [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth, Relationships
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Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I sign up for a lot of emails. I get four to five daily recipes newsletters as well as several ebooks bargains of the day, daily quotes, and an occasional blog here and there. The other thing I sign up for is called The Daily OM. It’s a daily email newsletter with a message that [...]

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

Finding Love in the D/s Lifestyle

The topic of love in regards to Lifestyle relationships is usually a pretty hot topic. Everyone has an opinion, thought, rule, or feeling about it. After hearing so much about love, the newcomer may end up a bit confused. After all, in the vanilla world, especially in Western culture, love is a really big deal. [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset, Relationships, Service
A Mentoring Checklist: What to Expect in a Mentor

A Mentoring Checklist: What to Expect in a Mentor

In the last month or so I have begun to seek a mentor and have been approached about being a mentor myself, a position which I accepted. As these events unfolded, I experienced a lot of flak from the online community – why would a submissive need a mentor if she already has a Dom? [...]

2 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

Moving is hard.  There’s no mincing words about it and it’s probably very obvious that change isn’t easy.  The other night I hosted the last Submissive Forum in my area. I’ve hosted them for 2 years, made a lot of wonderful friends and learned so much about myself and submission. There’s something about friendship and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Stop Comparing Yourself With Others – My Submission Isn’t Better Than Yours

Several years ago on Fetlife, I read something that made Kinky and Popular. I hate that I can’t remember who wrote this, but for sure I remember the writing. I remember the writing because I think like every submissive and slave, I’ve had this issue before and still do from time to time. The title [...]

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks

The other day in a lifestyle group on Facebook, a member of the group posted a rant because she was tired of hearing about submissives and slaves being punished for stupid things, such as masturbating without permission. I was on the bus on my way home from shopping when I saw this and it upset [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics

Where To Go to Find a Kinky or D/s Partner: The Big List

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/5/14 I think the most frequent question on every novices lips is, “where do I go to find people, partners and relationships now that I’ve found kink and D/s?” It’s a huge hurdle to get over and something that everyone seeks. A partner. A lover. A relationship. It’s not as [...]

13 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Where Can I Find Like-minded Friends w/ Herpes?

Where Can I Find Like-minded Friends w/ Herpes?

I’m a female sub, and new to the scene, officially. Unofficially, I have been experimenting with (less than enthusiastic) partners, but now I’m a free agent, and seeking a community! So what’s stopping me you might ask? Well, I have genital herpes, and it deters most people. Do you have any tips for a young [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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Is it Really a Bad Thing to be a Selfish Submissive?

The other day, and I can’t recall the reason, but I was thinking about something that happened during a play party I had once attended. I had just gotten my butt whacked and in my happy space. I had my blanket and plate full of snacks(after scene munchies), and was wearing my brand new flannel [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Personal Growth, Relationships
Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

Single in the Scene VII: The Unaccompanied slave

During this past MsC (the Master/slave Conference) in September, there was a discussion about being an unowned slave at an event and the down side of such. And before then, I had participated in a discussion on FetLife – more of an open dialogue between the owned and the unowned about the tension between the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Community, Mindset
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
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