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New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

New to D/s Relationships? Here’s Your Foolproof Guide to Starting Out – Part 1

What makes a D/s relationship so different from mainstream relationships? Learn the key differences, how you can apply what you learn to your own relationships and watch it develop into your most fulfilling relationship possible.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Ambrosio brings us a series of posts on Leather protocol and etiquette. In this introductory post, we touch on the very basics of manners and appropriate behavior in BDSM situations.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

When Journaling Gets Hard – How Depression Affected Our D/s Dynamic and How My Journal Helped Bring Us Back Together

This is a personal account of what can happen when journalling goes wrong. In Elle’s case, it was when she became depressed. It’s about how to recognize that there is a problem, and what you and your dominant might do to overcome it.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Personal Growth
Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

Must I Always Wait for My Dominant to Tell me What to Do?

You aren’t a doormat. As a submissive, you can have autonomy and an active submission you can be proud of. So, must you always wait for orders? You tell me.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
The Importance of Being Authentic

The Importance of Being Authentic

It’s so important as an s-type to be authentic. If you want to submit, if you want to serve, those desires have to come from the heart. I know it’s not always easy to be as authentic as we would like, but it’s something we must keep striving for.

Leave a comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Mindset, Relationships

Hitting the Wall During Play – Limit’s Edge

What does it mean to hit the wall? Let’s explore how deep the rabbit hole goes and become more aware of our own limits during play.

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 6: Why New Submissives Should Write a Submissive Journal

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 6: Why New Submissives Should Write a Submissive Journal

Can a journal help you when you are single or brand new to submission? And what would you put in it? Let me share with you a few ways that a journal can help you grow in learning and submission as a single submissive and as a new person to BDSM.

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

How To Get Over Being Angry When Punished

Having a hard time getting past being angry with your Dominant when you’ve been punished? Mrs. Darling provides some great advice on processing your emotions surrounding corporal punishment.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything, BDSM Fundamentals
31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 5: What Your Dominant Learns from Your Journal

31 Days of Submissive Journaling – Day 5: What Your Dominant Learns from Your Journal

Journaling is a tool not only for your own personal development but can be a fantastic tool for training and let your Dominant into your thought process.

How Do I Manage a Long Distance D/s Relationship Due to Deployment?

How Do I Manage a Long Distance D/s Relationship Due to Deployment?

I’m new at this, he’s a dominant. But he’s leaving for 9 months deployment and I don’t know how to do this long distance relationship.

8 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

All three of you will have to communicate open and honestly about what you want and what you need. You’ll all need to have an understanding of what your relationship is and what it isn’t. You’ll have to negotiate the specifics of what works and what doesn’t so that you’re all comfortable.

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Art of Apology: Knowing When to Apologize

The Art of Apology: Knowing When to Apologize

How do you know when you owe someone an apology? Continuing kallista’s series on apologizing with knowing when an apology is necessary.

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Simply Service e-Zine: May 2005

Simply Service e-Zine: May 2005

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from May 2005. Topics include Rituals, Leather Care, Hand Signals and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
The Art of Apology: The Importance of Apologizing

The Art of Apology: The Importance of Apologizing

Apologizing to someone lets that person know that you care more for them than you do for the outcome of a disagreement; being able to recognize when we’re wrong—or having someone else recognize that they were wrong—can give closure to situations that might otherwise continue to have a negative impact on the relationship.

Leave a comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

Why SSC and RACK Are Both Important Safety Acronyms to Know

The mantra “Safe, Sane, Consensual” (SSC) is probably one of the first things that someone new to the scene learns. RACK stands for two principles designed to give you the opportunity to move outside of your current comfort zones, into a place of interest.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Safewords Are Not “Safe Words”

Playing comes with dangers and risks. Making sure you are going to be as safe as you wish to be is up to you. That’s where safewords come in.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

As the holiday is upon us once more, I wanted to share some common feels with others who struggle with recovery. Recovery from anything: drink, drugs, eating disorders, self-harm, etc. If you are or are with somebody who considers themselves “in recovery,” this is for you. Now I only have the perspective of (using Male/female D/s [...]

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Keep Your Voice: Your Rights as a Submissive

Keep Your Voice: Your Rights as a Submissive

With franchises like Fifty Shades of Grey having integrated themselves almost completely in the mainstream, I have had the combined frustration and horror of my role as a submissive and my role as a teacher nearly clashing more than once. While I would NEVER share any part of my home activities with any of my [...]

10 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Personal Growth
Opening Communication with Myself

Opening Communication with Myself

In every single article I write, I stress the importance of communication, so you would think that I practice as I preach and work really hard to include communication in my relationship. And truth is, I do try, but I have realized that open and honest communication with a partner can only happen when I [...]

3 comments Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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