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Thoughts on Isolation

Thoughts on Isolation

This is a guest post by kaya from Underhishand.com. I live a fairly isolated lifestyle. I suppose in comparison to some people, you could say that I live an extremely isolated life. It’s not unusual for me to go days on end without ever leaving the house. I don’t answer the door, I don’t answer [...]

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Improve Yourself, Learn to Submit
8 Ways You Might Be a “Doormat” Submissive and How to Stop

8 Ways You Might Be a “Doormat” Submissive and How to Stop

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/7/13 Whenever I frequent online groups, a common theme in them is telling the person asking a question to not be a doormat. Rarely do we ever get a description of what a doormat submissive is or how to prevent becoming one (or even if the person is actually a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Newsletter Archive
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Online Submission
Having Enough Love for More than Just One

Having Enough Love for More than Just One

I was on Tumblr one morning and I came across a picture of Johnny Depp and something he had said. Now, I had seen this particular picture several times and thought nothing of it in the past, but this last time I stumbled across it, I got thinking. The more I thought about this quote, [...]

2 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Rules for the Working Sub

Rules for the Working Sub

When you’re working full time in a professional field, the desire to submit can be impeded by a good number of obstacles. As a submissive who balances my full-time employment with my submissive role, one of my chief concerns will always be finding a way to please my dominant while maintaining a strong professional image [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Learn to Submit
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I am a tumblr whore. There’s no other way to describe it. I spend way too much time on there looking for pictures. Most of the pictures I re-blog and most of those who I follow post lifestyle related pictures. I am very particular about the pictures that I re-blog. The pictures that I post [...]

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Social Norms
The Ring and the Collar

The Ring and the Collar

I am a product of the 80’s, which I think is the greatest decade, ever. I may be a bit partial with my thinking. The music, television, and especially the movies is what makes the 80’s such a memorable decade. One of my favorite movies from that era is “The Princess Bride”. To me, that’s [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

How to Plan a Formal Collaring Ceremony

Receiving your collar is a special occasion for many submissives and slaves. For some this time means a celebration of your relationship and the commitment that is about to happen. A formal collaring ceremony is what came about because of this need. There are no right or wrong ways to be collared. They can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to [...]

2 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Learn to Submit

What is a Collar? What Does it Mean to be Collared?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A common question with novices is what is being collared, what does it mean? Is it like a wedding ring or something more? Something different altogether? First, some basic [...]

20 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

Adding The Second Submissive – Branching Out Into Poly Relationships For The First Time

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/19/12 If you had asked me six months ago if I was into poly relationships I’d probably say no. KnyghtMare and I are happily monogamous and have been so for 8 years.  He’s had play partners, but never with any sex so I still considered us monogamous even if the [...]

9 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Solo Coaching – Schedule Meetings With Yourself

Solo Coaching – Schedule Meetings With Yourself

Would you normally hesitate to schedule in time or appointments with just about every person in your life? Well now is the time to change that up a bit. Pull out your schedule right now and plan your first few solo coaching meetings with yourself. That’s right – just you. We are going to work [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Improve Yourself
What It Means to be Collared

What It Means to be Collared

If you need to learn more about collars before reading this post, I suggest What is a Collar? What does it mean to be collared? It can mean many things to many different people. For some it is a new beginning in a journey. For others it is a step in the training process. It [...]

14 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
What is Kajira?

What is Kajira?

This is a guest post by Dara. What is Kajira? If you had asked me that 4 months ago I would have had no clue. Slave girl? Now there’s a term I recognized, and if you had made the suggestion that I would one day in the very near future submit myself to becoming someone’s [...]

3 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Learn to Submit
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

It’s been a rough week for me. First my carpal tunnel has flared, probably due to the massive amount of writing I did the first week of Nanowrimo. KnyghtMare has insisted that I do not push myself as hard so I’ve dropped my expected goals to “whatever I can get done within his limits.” It’s [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Being About It: Honor and Integrity

Being About It: Honor and Integrity

I had originally planned to write about a different topic, was well on my way in developing the article, then I realized at some point that I kept coming back to just what is honor and integrity? So here we have it my exploration on the subject… Honor and integrity, we say and hear these [...]

1 comment Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Social Norms

Chat Night Transcript for Collars and Collaring Ceremonies Discussion

I’ve had a few requests to see the transcript of this chat night. I apologize for taking so long to post it! This is the chat discussion from 3/1/11 (8:12:56 PM) lunaKM: It’s so nice to have so many people here tonight! (8:13:23 PM) lunaKM: Now as with all of my chat nights, there’s no [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
When He Removes The Collar: The 3 R’s to Get You Back on Your Feet

When He Removes The Collar: The 3 R’s to Get You Back on Your Feet

In the fall of 2006 my relationship with KnyghtMare was on the rocks. I was battling with submission and what it meant for my life with him. He was changing and growing more into his role. I think that we clashed because we just weren’t prepared for the changes in each other. I got in [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships
Love, honour and obey

Love, honour and obey

Like Luna, I’m also getting married to my Dom this year! We have been together seven years in February but it feels so much longer, I think thats a good thing though! When we met I wasn’t planning on it being a romantic relationship, I wasn’t planning on it being  a D/s thing either, it [...]

3 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Learn to Submit, Relationships

10 Tips to Make Moving In With Your Dominant (or vise-versa) Smooth and Easy

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/25/10 The progress of a serious relationship leads to moving in with the other. Whether that be in a more traditional format after marriage or a modern stand of whenever the relationship is serious enough for that commitment, making the decision to do just that takes preparedness. I’d like to [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
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