By thisgirl on August 23, 2010
I am bi-sexual, and I have been ever since I can remember. When I was young I obviously didn’t know the way I felt were the first signs of bi-curiosity because the roots of things are never clear back at the time and only make sense much later on! My first experiences Not long after [...]
Posted in Sex and Sexuality, Submission | Tagged bi curiosity, bisexuality, comfort, experience, female, first signs, first time, skills, submission |
By nan {SL} on March 17, 2010
Has your Dom/me ever tied you in a position where if you move one way this part of your body gets stressed or pulled, and if you move another way, that part of your body gets tugged or pinched? If so, then you have experienced predicament bondage! Predicament bondage can be simple or complex and [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged Bondage, comfort, opposing forces, painful situations, play, predicament bondage, Safety, scene, stress, stressors |
By lunaKM on January 25, 2010
This year I’m starting a new series of posts that will occur once a month just like the Roundtable did last year. Novice Q & A is for you to ask questions about things you’d like more information on, advice you are looking for or anything else. You can even ask me personal questions! My [...]
Posted in Novice Q & A | Tagged ask me, comfort, munch, munches, novices, questions, topping from the bottom |
By lunaKM on December 21, 2009
This month I dived into a book full of controversy with its approach to living intimately with your husband (or partner). I read The Surrendered Wife by Laura Doyle. I didn’t read it to find the reason for the argument between feminists and the author of the book’s ideas. I read it to see what [...]
Posted in Reviews | Tagged amazon.com, book, book review, books, comfort, control, controversy, D/s, feminine, feminist movement, gender, gratitude, help, husband and wife, intimacy, intimate marriage, Laura Doyle, marriage, movement, receiving graciously, relationship, Relationships, review, roles, rt, self help book, self-care, sex, shift, submission, submissive, suggestions, surrender, Surrendered Wife, surrendering, tasks, traditions |
By lunaKM on October 16, 2009
A very common first request of a potential Dominant, either online or offline is to have you start a submissive journal. If you’ve never kept a diary then this can be a daunting task. Having to write openly and honestly about your feelings and experiences can have a huge impact on your submissive and personal [...]
Posted in Mindset, Service | Tagged blogging, choice, comfort, development, Dom, dominant, experience, help, Impact, journaling, needs, online, online journal, personal development, relationship, rt, submission, submissive, tasks, writing |
By lunaKM on October 14, 2009
Being an emotionally healthy person is a goal that all of us have but a smaller margin actually accomplish. With the constant stress of commitments and modern day obligations our emotions face the brunt of it. The goal of a submissive is to seek that balance in emotional states so that our service appears stress-free [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged balance, comfort, commitment, cons, control, desires, emotional health, emotional state, emotions, friends, friendships, happiness, health, healthy submissive, help, Impact, memories, mental strength, needs, online, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, stress, submissive, suggestions |
By lunaKM on September 25, 2009
So, you’ve met submissives and slaves online, their Dominant and Master counterparts but as you get to know them and how they interact you start to see the things they do blurring the lines of what you had believed a submissive was, or that a slave wasn’t supposed to act this way, etc. It brings [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged comfort, definitions, Dom, dominant, help, labels, learning, lifestyle, munch, novice, novices, online, rt, slave, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on September 24, 2009
<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing |
By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged aftercare, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, comfort, cons, consensual, D/s, development, Dom, dominant, dominants, help, journey, novice, online, play, Playtime, questions, RACK, relationship, Relationships, risk, risk aware, rt, safe, safewords, sane, scene, share, single, SSC, sub drop, sub frenzy, sub space, submission, submissive, subspace, toy, toybag, trust |
By Guest Author on September 16, 2009
This is another guest post by dina of kajiradreams. She continues her thoughts on Gor and the life of a kajira. You can also read her thoughts on what it’s like to be an owned kajira. The strengths of a kajira and the misconceptions of what a kajira is and does. And what strengths better [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged book, books, comfort, commitment, cons, control, decisions, desires, Dom, dominant, dreams, emotions, fantasy, fear, female, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, hands, help, honesty, ideals, journey, kajira, lifestyle, love, misconceptions of Gor, needs, obedience, owned, play, player, purpose, rt, safe, series, sex, slave, sorry, spirit, standing, strengths of kajira, submission, submissive, switch, tall, trust, understanding, value, wants |
By lunaKM on September 9, 2009
You know you’ve entered online submissive ground when everyone you don’t know starts to refer to you as sister. It’s been years since I’ve ‘lived’ online but this is something that has always irked me. Recently on FetLife I saw a question that had an interesting twist to the whole sister submissive thing that I’d [...]
Posted in Online Submission | Tagged BDSM, blind faith, comfort, D/s, danger, Dom, dominant, dominants, experience, family, fantasy, fetlife, friends, Gor, grace, guest post, health, help, lifestyle, nurtured, online, Online Submission, opinion, perfect world, poly, preference, questions, real life, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, Service, share, sister, sister sub, standing, submission, submissive, support, understanding, value |
By lunaKM on August 14, 2009
A check in is where either partner provides clues as to their comfort, pain tolerance, pleasure level or other information during a scene or play session. Even the most experienced players continue to check in with their partners during play; it is a good practice to have. Whether you are playing with your partner or [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged body language, bottom, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, emotional state, experience, implement, information, learning, negotiation, pain tolerance, partners, play, player, Playtime, questions, relationship, requests, rt, safe, scene, share, simple questions, submissive, subspace, tone of your voice, warnings |
By lunaKM on August 8, 2009
This week’s video post is on First Meetings Safety. When you are ready to meet your dream Dominant for the first time, what goes through your mind? Do you think about safety at all or do the nervousness and excitment overload your common sense? You may not think that safety is necessary for someone you’ve [...]
Posted in Safety, Video Posts | Tagged blind date, choice, choices, comfort, common sense, D/s, danger, dates, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, first meetings, information, munch, nervousness, normal, online, personal safety, play, questions, relationship, rt, safe, safe call, Safety, security, short, value, wants |
By lunaKM on July 4, 2009
Due to the death of my loving StepMother from Mesothelioma I will not be posting here until I return from her memorial and comforting my father. I am driving to Richmond, VA and expect to be gone around 10 days. May she rest in peace now that she is no longer in pain. Prayers, thoughts [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged book, comfort, contest, family, prayer, rt, submissive, winner |
By lunaKM on June 11, 2009
Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics. Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged attitude, BDSM, choice, clothing, comfort, common sense, D/s, d/s exposure, development, Dom, dominant, dress, dynamic, dynamics, etiquette, experience, family, friends, friendships, help, information, lifestyle, manners, play, protocol, relationship, rt, rules, shift, social etiquette, submissive, tips |
By lunaKM on May 30, 2009
This post is from Norische. She allows anyone to post her articles anywhere they will do some good. I could not come up with a better way to say what she does in this article. Please enjoy and comment! I’d love to hear if you have told your family and how it went. “So what [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, acceptance, activities, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, choice, choices, Christian, clean, comfort, communication, community, cons, consensual, control, Dom, dress, email, family, fear, floggers, friends, harnesses, help, implement, information, kink acceptance, kinky, leather, lifestyle, love, myths, natural, negotiation, normal, obedience, openness, opinion, outting yourself, paddles, play, progress, relationship, religion, rt, rules, safe, sane, sex, sharing, single, sister, slave, slavery, standing, stress, submissive, tall, telling family, toy, toys, understanding, whips, writing |
By lunaKM on May 16, 2009
Approaching your friends with something as private and sensitive as your sexual interests or lifestyle ideas maybe a decision you have to make sooner or later the further you get into your kinky habits. Your friends are your support system in all other ways of your life, but are they able to handle the new [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged abuse, BDSM, choice, choices, comfort, cons, experience, friends, information, kinky, kinky side, lifestyle, myths, outting yourself, personal choices, personal thoughts, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, sex, sexual interests, share, sharing, submissive, support, telling friends, valid questions |
By Guest Author on May 8, 2009
This is a guest post by ~melly. She’s in a Daddy/little girl dynamic and volunteered to write this post for Submissive Guide. i’ve slept with a teddy bear all my life. this may seem insignificant, but it’s really not,. i had my teddy bear with me when i moved in with Master. i held him [...]
Posted in Relationships | Tagged BDSM, clean, cleaning, comfort, communication, connection, D/g, daddy, dress, dynamic, family, fear, fetlife, guest post, learning, little girl, love, melly, natural, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, sadness, scene, shift, single, slave, stress, submissive, tall, trust |
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By lunaKM on May 3, 2009
Reading the past posts on the Submissive positions project may bring some of you to the realization that you can’t perform these poses for health or body size reasons. This is to be expected. I can’t kneel back on my heels at all. So what is a good submissive to do? You alter the positions [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, alterations, brainstorm, comfort, disability, etiquette, Gor, grace, health, help, kneeling, poses, positions, rt, share, short, size, slave positions, submissive, Submissive Positions |
By lunaKM on May 2, 2009
Just 2 days left in the Submissive Positions project here at Submissive Guide. If you need a review, please take a look at the primary post; it has links to all of the posts in the project. Today I’d like to talk about the bane of many a submissive; fidgeting. Sitting still is really hard [...]
Posted in Submissive Positions | Tagged 2WBSP, Bondage, comfort, fidgeting, focus, help, learning, links, mediation, meditation, movement, munch, play, positions, progress, relaxation, review, rt, slave positions, submissive, Submissive Positions |
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