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Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

Male Submission – Fantasy vs Reality

In part 1 of my series of articles on male submission I wrote about one archetype of male submission “The Worm.”  For clarification, a large majority of male submissives do not fit that mindset as there are plenty of other dynamics. However, one topic which is common to many male submissives is that the fantasy [...]

25 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Introducing one of Submissive Guide’s newest contributing authors – selkie! Of all the subjects to write about on submission, this seems the most vanilla to me, probably because it didn’t used to be unusual for one partner in a partnership to maintain the bank accounts all that long ago. For some vanilla couples, it still [...]

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships

Lessons in Submissive Speech 3: Asking a Question

You should never be afraid to ask a question of your Dominant, however in certain circumstances there are inappropriate ways to ask questions and inappropriate questions. First, and I have a hard time at this one too, you shouldn’t question a Dominant’s orders. It is not a submissive’s position to know why a Dominant wishes [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Talents and Skills
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships

The Difference Between Nude and Naked

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. There are a lot of words that we use in the vanilla world that have many different meanings and aren’t specific about which one we intend when we use [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

A question I was recently asked : “how has you pain tolerance been affected [sic]sense you began BDSM? Also when you first met grimly, if he were to put you through a session like the ones you can stand now, how much would your pain and pleasure be different than now? I’m curious cuz I’m [...]

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Play and Sex

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