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Submissive vs. Slave

Submissive vs. Slave

Mistress Steel tackles the submissive vs slave debate. Core differences and misconceptions are revealed.

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Ornamental Value: A Reflection on My Submissive Style

Living with my Dom for a longer period of time has allowed us to develop some rough routines and expectations that we’ll continue to develop as time progresses, and these have begun to help me form answers to the questions that I’ve been asking on and off from the beginning of my submission.

1 comment Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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The Best Part About Submission is Our Ability to Choose

If asked what the best part about submission is there are a million ways to answer. But the best part is our ability to choose.

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Talking to your Dom about the way you keep your hair (the colour, the length, the style of cut, etc.) can give your Dom some great opportunities to exercise control over you in a new way, and thereby give you the opportunity to grow into a new kind of submission.

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

For a personal mantra to work, it has to be positive. It has to reaffirm your choices in life and establish a realistic goal you can accomplish or a life dream fulfilled.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

What if I told you the impaired judgment, the slow verbal responses, the sweats or shakes and the sluggish behavior can be dangerous to your health and others if you don’t know how to deal with it? Those warning labels aren’t just for alcohol and prescription drugs.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There is one rule that breaking it is considered a cardinal sin in the world of BDSM-outing a fellow lifestyler. Doing such can have life changing effects on their vanilla life and the kinky life of the person who does the outing.

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

The Ring and the Collar: A Personal Opinion on the Symbolism of a Collar

To me, the collar around my neck, the weight of the steel is the only thing I need to know that Daddy loves me and will forever hold more weight than a ring on my finger or a piece of paper from a government office

8 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships
Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

Talking Shop – Tips for Purchasing BDSM Toys

How to choose what to buy and where to buy it from and what sort of factors that should be considered during the joys of adult toy shopping!

Leave a comment Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Question is can you explain why she might throw up like that and what was going on for her – she is fine the next day and wanting to do it again -

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Safety
Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

Your Right to Choose-Feminism and the Lifestyle

I know that being a feminist means different things to different people. To me, feminism has always been about having the right to choose to lead the kind of life that I want to.

20 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I’ve been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I’ve conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we’ll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Sure it may turn you on, but you still get to decide how far you go to care for that. After all, BDSM is about exchanging sensations and exploring your body’s responses to stimulus. It is not always sex.

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality
Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

Dressing the Part – What to Wear at BDSM Community Functions

For new people and established ones alike, deciding what to wear to an event can be an adventure in fun, in stress or in dread. But even someone who loves to get dressed to go out can face moments of uncertainty when it comes to planning an outfit for the evening.

Leave a comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community, Play and Sex
Solo Coaching – Ask Yourself the Right Questions

Solo Coaching – Ask Yourself the Right Questions

To bring about lasting change you need to get into the habit of asking yourself the right questions. The best submissives know how to ask these questions on a regular basis so that they can grow and develop in their journey.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Book Review: The Ethical Slut

Book Review: The Ethical Slut

If you are looking into open relationship styles or like me, opening your existing relationship then this book could be a stepping stone into understanding everything that goes on in your head, the feelings and how to deal with multiple people in your life.

10 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews

[Video Post] Too Young for BDSM – Responding to the Questions I Get from Underage Persons

At least once a month I get an email from someone that is under 18 asking very important questions about BDSM and their curious interest. Here are some of the questions and answers I generally give these persons.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community, Video Posts
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do?

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

Is It Possible to Live as a Slave 24/7?

The best I can hope for each day, every day is to serve Him faithfully and to the best of my abilities and to love Him unconditionally. I don’t lose sight of my place with Him, and we manage a 24/7 lifestyle just fine.

19 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
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