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Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

Power Exchange While in Addiction Recovery

The holiday season is hard. So hard sometimes.

3 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

Developing Effective Communication in Long Distance Relationships

To say that communication is important in a relationship is like saying that man must breathe to live: one simply shouldn’t have to specify its importance. Yet somehow, although I have never heard of a person who died because he forgot how to breathe, I have seen many relationships fall apart due to a distinct [...]

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Ask lunaKM – Weakness and Triggers, 24/7 Start and Incompatibility

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the Submissive role and BDSM in general. To make a long story short I am finally with my best friend from high school 10 years later, after being through a hellish marriage for 5 years and a physically abusive relationship before that…I love my now boyfriend and he is [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

After the Scene is Over – Clean-up, Aftercare, and Check-Ins

You scene has just ended and you both feel spent, exhausted and buzzing with good feelings. And then you look around the room, move your aching limbs and start to come out of your or play-induced fog. The room is a mess, there are toys everywhere. Both of you need aftercare. Who does what? How [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships

What does “Checking In” During a Scene Mean?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Using a check in during a scene is a responsibility of the Dominant to make sure things are going as they should. Often times this is a simple, “are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

In part 1 of this series of articles we examined the initial approach for discussing your submissive desires with your vanilla partner. In  part 2 we examined how to address the issue if your partner does not respond positively to the initial approach. In this final part 3 we examine how to proceed if your vanilla [...]

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
Ask Anything | Subspace vs Dissociating Due to Past Abuse

Ask Anything | Subspace vs Dissociating Due to Past Abuse

I’m a new sub that has recently decided to start working towards a 24/7 relationship with my boyfriend.  There’s something that has had me slightly concerned as I’ve learned more and more about this new step in our relationship.  For the first time, I’m finding out about subspace.  As someone who is recovering from an [...]

1 comment Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: Ask Anything
A Day in the Life: lunaKM

A Day in the Life: lunaKM

So the series is going quite well and I thought that it was time to share with you what an average day in service to KnyghtMare is like for me. I’ve had many people who know me in real life say that my life is interesting and it’s higher protocol than most people have. I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

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