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Research Page: Gorean Lifestyle

By lunaKM on July 7, 2010

I’m constantly exploring the internet and online libraries for information.  Today I found a wealth of knowledge about Gorean Lifestyle. I personally can’t distinguish between online Gor and real life Gorean living so they are together in this list. Please feel free to leave a comment and add your own resources! Websites Gorean from Wikipedia [...]

Posted in Research Pages | Tagged chat, chat rooms, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, gorean links, gorean resources, IRC, John Norman, research | 9 Responses

SkylerPet’s Helpful Holiday Hints

SkylerPet’s Helpful Holiday Hints

By Guest Author on December 9, 2009

This post is another guest post by Skylerpet. You can read her other posts here. She’s wants to help us all get through the holidays with less stress. Here’s some tips to help you. If you have other tips for holiday stress, please leave them in the comments! With the holiday season in full swing, [...]

Posted in Service | Tagged 24/7, bath, book, chat, christmas, Christmas tips, clean, D/s, dates, disposable, email, family, family visits, guest post, hands, health, help, holiday, holiday hints, holiday stress, learned, lifestyle, pet play, play, rt, safe, Safety, share, skylerpet, stress, submissive, tips, wants | Leave a response

Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

Chat Night Transcript for Speaking Submissively

By lunaKM on December 8, 2009

This chat was held on December 2nd, 2009. ~lunaKM> So tonight I wanted to talk about speech and how the way we communicate can impact our submission. Nia> tonight’s topic really struck a chord with me angel> same here ~lunaKM> I’ve been doing a bit of non-scientific research of my own when I am out [...]

Posted in Views & More... | Tagged advice, chat, chat night, community, control, D/s, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, Dominant bashing, Domme, experience, family, fear, friends, gossip, grace, help, Impact, information, learned, natural, needs, online, opinion, play, questions, recovery, relationship, requests, risk, rt, safe, serving, sex, share, sharing, size, sorry, speaking submissively, speech, submission, submissive, suggestions, support, switch, switching, tall, transcript, trust, wants | 3 Responses

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

By lunaKM on December 7, 2009

When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]

Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding | 4 Responses

Chat Night Transcript From What is Service Talk

By lunaKM on October 15, 2009

lunaKM> So, first I’d like to get some impression about how new you are to submission. Could you please tell me how long you have been exploring submission and if you are in a relationship right now? lunaKM> hello aquamuse aquamuse> Hello, I’m new of course. eagerslut> I am in a relationship and just recently [...]

Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, activities, BDSM, book, bottom, calendar, chat, chat night, choice, choices, classes, clean, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, Domme, dress, event, events, experience, focus, grace, growth, health, help, IRC, kneeling, learned, learning, lifestyle, love, m/s, marriage, mentor, natural, needs, newsletter, online, perfection, pride, purpose, relationship, requests, Resources, routine, rt, rules, separation, Service, serving, sex, sharing, shaving, shower, size, slave, stress, submission, submissive, submissive chat, surrender, tall, tasks, tips, training, transcript, writing | Leave a response

Chat Night Transcript From Sub Space and Sub Drop Talk

By lunaKM on September 24, 2009

<~luna[KM]> Now I’d like to hear from everyone… have you experienced subspace? If you don’t know if you have, it’s okay. <selene1123> i’m pretty new…so i think i have but am not sure <slavelauren> i have <radiogirl> I most definitely have <pet_rain> i’m not sure  i think i would like a clear definition i’v heard [...]

Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 24/7, aftercare, balance, bath, chat, chat night, comfort, communication, connection, cons, definitions, Dom, Dominance, dress, email, emotional state, emotions, endorphins, experience, focus, happiness, healing, help, limits, love, munch, normal, play, PMS, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, safe, safewords, scene, separation, serving, share, shower, slave, sorry, spirit, spiritual, stress, Study, sub drop, sub space, submissive chat, subspace, tall, transcript, writing | 1 Response

The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

By Guest Author on September 18, 2009

Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. You can also read her post on what it’s like to be an owned kajira and a kajira’s strengths and misconceptions. There is so many stereotypes, misconceptions of what a kajira is; what gor is; what the gorean lifestyle is; what a bdsm lifestyler looks like; what [...]

Posted in Submission | Tagged abuse, Aria, BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, challenges, chat, choice, choices, Christian, clean, cons, dreams, dress, dynamic, family, friends, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, kajira, lifestyle, lifestyler, norms, opinion, owned, preference, preferences, questions, relationship, rt, rules, sex, share, single, slave, speech, stereotype, submissive, wants | 8 Responses

The Roundtable: Gorean Lifestyle

By lunaKM on September 11, 2009

Gather around the table everyone, I’d like to learn about something I don’t know a lot about. I welcome you to add your thoughts and comments to this post and if you feel an inclination, send me a guest post letting me know what you think. This month we are talking the Gorean Lifestyle. I’d [...]

Posted in Roundtable Discussions | Tagged chat, chat room, choice, choices, D/s, Free Woman, Gor, Gorean Lifestyle, guest post, inclination, kajira, lifestyle, love, m/s, online, phenomenon, questions, real life, relationship, rt, share, submissive, value | 2 Responses

Chat Night Transcript From BDSM and Sex Talk – 8/25/09

Chat Night Transcript From BDSM and Sex Talk – 8/25/09

By lunaKM on August 27, 2009

Our first chat was a great success. Everyone gave permission to post the transcript and continue the conversation here. I loved every minute of interesting conversation. Read and enjoy! <~luna[KM]> Alright, let’s get started. If you haven’t figured out, I’m luna. I started the site in January after I got tired of not finding what [...]

Posted in Views & More... | Tagged abuse, acceptance, BDSM, BDSM and sex, Bondage, book, chat, chat night, community, connection, cons, control, D/s, Dom, Dominance, email, experience, fantasy, fear, focus, Impact, impact play, information, IRC, kink acceptance, kinky, lifestyle, love, masochist, online, opinion, owned, play, play parties, relationship, Relationships, ritual, rt, scene, scening, separation, Service, sex, sexual encounters, share, sharing, spirit, spiritual, standing, stereotype, submission, submissive chat, support, transcript, understanding, wants | 3 Responses

Review: The New Bottoming Book

Review: The New Bottoming Book

By lunaKM on August 21, 2009

This month’s book review is of one of the books I gave away in the July Book Contest. The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy (formerly Lady Green) is a great beginner’s guide to bottoming. According to the authors, this “new version” contains much of the original advice, like “connecting” and [...]

Posted in Reviews | Tagged advice, amazon.com, BDSM, beginning bdsm, Bondage, book, book review, books, bottom, chat, chat room, chat rooms, checklist, contest, decisions, Dossie Easton, dress, fantasy, help, information, internet, Janet W. Hardy, negotiation, nervousness, New Bottoming Book, novice, novices, online, play, review, role play, rt, scene, short, skills, submission, submissive, tips | Leave a response

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

A Lesson in Control with Self-Punishment

By lunaKM on August 10, 2009

Each and every day there is the chance to scew up and be disobedient. Luckily, most of us won’t break rules every single day but when we do we know that punishment will come swiftly and precisely. That is, unless you are an online submissive. Then there are a few other steps to having punishment [...]

Posted in Online Submission, Relationships | Tagged BDSM, blogs, book, calendar, chat, chat room, clothing, communication, control, Dom, dominant, email, essays, event, favorite, focus, growth, help, infraction, learning, lectures, limits, negotiation, obedience, online, online D/s, orgasms, public punishment, punishment, punishments, purpose, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, self punishment ideas, self-discipline, sex, sexual chastisement, single, submission, submissive, tasks, trust, writing, writing essays | 6 Responses

Submissive Guide Town Hall Meeting

Submissive Guide Town Hall Meeting

By lunaKM on July 30, 2009

Submissive Guide is just over 7 months old now and with a decent number of well received posts I’d like to get your feedback as to where Submissive Guide is going. Let me go through what I’ve seen happen on the site and what I’m working on for the future. I want your input too, [...]

Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged activities, ad space, advertise, alterations, amazon.com, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm books, bdsm fiction, bdsm with kids, blogs, book, book review, books, bottom, chat, classes, connection, control, dates, discussion, e-book, email, essays, experience, favorite, fetlife, future growth, growth, guest post, guest post opportunities, guest posts, health, help, information, interview, links, love, m/s, newsletter, online, open relationships, poly, polyamory, positions, questions, quotes, recommended reading, relationship, Relationships, religion, Resources, review, ritual, roundtable discussion, rss, rt, series, Service, sex, share, shaving, short, spirit, spiritual, spread the word, submission, submissive, Submissive Positions, tips, training, twitter, writing | Leave a response

Where Do You Chat?

Where Do You Chat?

By lunaKM on July 24, 2009

I’d like to provide a chat night on a specific topic once a week but the chat room I have on the website really is lacking in capabilities. So, I’d like to know from you the best places to hold a chat night. I used to be a regular user of IRC, I’ve found tweetchat.com [...]

Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged chat, chat night, chat room, help, IRC, love, m/s, rt, Service, submissive, submissive chat, tall, twitter | 8 Responses

Why BDSM is Not D/s

By lunaKM on June 29, 2009

This post is by Skylerpet. She’s written several other posts here for Submissive Guide. You can read more of her work on online submission and pet play here. BDSM and D/s. Some see it as the same, I seem them as two very different things. Here, I plan on explaining the how’s and why’s of [...]

Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, Bondage, caning, chat, comparisons, cons, consensual, D/s, definitions, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, email, guest post, information, kinky, lifestyle, Masochism, masochist, online, Online Submission, opinion, pet play, play, relationship, Relationships, rt, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slavery, spanking, standing, submission, submissive, websites, what is BDSM, what is D/s | 1 Response

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

Cyber Submission and Exploring D/s Online

By lunaKM on May 21, 2009

Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship with experience in online submission. Thank you Skylerpet! Online D/s is perhaps one of the most controversial subjects in the Dominance and submission community. The stance i will take on this subject, based on online D/s relationships of my own, is that yes; it [...]

Posted in Online Submission | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, bdsm play, blogs, Bondage, calendar, changing, chat, community, cons, control, cyber relationships, D/s, desires, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dress, dynamic, dynamics, email, emotions, essays, experience, family, favorite, friends, guest post, honesty, information, internet, internet tools, IRC, kinky, lifestyle, love, needs, online, online D/s, online dominance, Online Submission, online training, opinion, partners, pet play, play, predators, questions, real life, red flags, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, Safety, security, sex, short, skylerpet, slave, stress, submission, submissive, tasks, titles, trust, twitter, wants, websites, writing | 2 Responses

Can Online Training Work?

By lunaKM on May 19, 2009

This week’s video is about online training and submission. The world of online Dominance and submission is riddled with skepticism and disbelief that anyone can really live and enjoy a relationship online. The fact of it all is that there are an endless numbers of people experiencing a form of D/s called cyber D/s. Whether [...]

Posted in Online Submission, Video Posts | Tagged BDSM, chat, chat room, chat rooms, D/s, discipline, Dom, Dominance, dominant, email, experience, grooming, learned, learning, mentor, online, online D/s, online dominance, online training, partners, play, questions, relationship, Relationships, ritual, role play, rt, rules, safe, serving, sex, structure, Study, submission, submissive, tasks, training, trust, value, websites | 2 Responses

Submissive Guide Chat Room

By lunaKM on May 13, 2009

There is now a chat room on this website. You can find it under the Resources link or by clicking on this link. I’ll be starting discussion nights in June and am looking for a few submissives that would like to host chat nights as well. Guest hosted chat nights would need to be at [...]

Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged chat, chat night, chat room, discussion, email, Resources, rt, submissive, submissive chat | 4 Responses

What is a Play Party?

What is a Play Party?

By lunaKM on April 18, 2009

When you enter the local BDSM community one of the events you may be exposed to is a play party. A play party is a essentially a party were BDSM play can occur. Groups hold parties as a way to learn and educate on safe play methods, chat about topics and generally hang around. Parties [...]

Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged BDSM, bdsm play, chat, community, cons, dating, definitions, dress, event, events, help, learning, play, play parties, private parties, public parties, questions, rt, rules, safe, sex, share | Leave a response

Pet Play and Human Pets: A Primer

Pet Play and Human Pets: A Primer

By lunaKM on April 15, 2009

Today’s post comes from Skylerpet, a submissive pet in a D/s relationship who volunteered to write an essay for me after seeing the Weekly Tips on YouTube. Thank you Skylerpet! Pet play is one of the most unique, one of the least known and in my opinion one of the most fun and entertaining sub-cultures [...]

Posted in Playtime, Relationships | Tagged 24/7, BDSM, begging, Bondage, bow, chat, collars, communication, cons, D/s, Dom, dominant, email, experience, female, focus, Gor, hands, help, human animals, human pet, learning, lifestyle, movement, needs, opinion, owned, pet play, pets, play, protocol, punishment, questions, relationship, role play, rt, rules, safe, Safety, scene, sex, short, skylerpet, slave, stress, submission, submissive, switch, tall, tips, toy, toys, training, tricks, writing | 5 Responses

Two Dominants

Two Dominants

By Guest Author on April 11, 2009

Today’s guest post is by Aria, a bi poly switch kinkster. So currently I have 2 dominants, Edge and Vice. You would think that to have 2 Doms I would have to be the most submissive woman ever, but I’m a switch. I often call myself a beta-top because I love to co-top with them. [...]

Posted in Relationships | Tagged advice, Aria, bottom, chat, communication, connection, cons, conventions, dating, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, email, emotions, event, experience, fetlife, focus, guest post, help, jealousy, lifestyle, loneliness, love, Mindset, natural, normal, partners, play, poly, polyamory, punishment, punishments, real world, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, scene, sex, share, submission, submissive, switch, trust, two dominants, wants, writing | 2 Responses

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