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Reacting to Change in D/s Dynamics

Reacting to Change in D/s Dynamics

How does adapting to changing interests and your growth as an individual fit into your D/s relationship?

4 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better

Transformed: How Power Exchange Changed Us For The Better

We called the marriage counselor as a last-ditch effort to resuscitate “us” and it was the first move towards the life I had never imagined but somehow of which I had still always dreamt.

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Personal Growth, Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Missing You

This article serves as a fanatic sayonara to the one aspect of my long distance relationship that I shall never miss: dealing with my partner’s absence.

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

Transitioning from Part Time to Full Time D/s: How to Work Through the Challenges

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 2/01/14 It’s common for relationships that are D/s in nature to start out in the bedroom and then slowly move to fill part or all of your life. But the daunting task of adjusting to that transition is enough to scare people away from ever doing it or from maintaining [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships

A Slave Uniform – What’s It Look Like?

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/4/14 I thought I’d tell you a personal story of how my life as a slave is developing in a unique and interesting way. It’s never been just KnyghtMare’s job to come up with ways to enhance and spice up our already powerful relationship and he loves to hear of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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What’s Your Cutie Mark?

I LOVE “My Little Ponies: Friendship is Magic”. Sometimes in the evenings before bedtime, I will sit and watch episode after episode. My personal favorite is Pinkie Pie. I see a lot of myself in her. In the series, there’s a group, and they’ve dubbed themselves “The Cutie Mark Crusaders”. The reason why they call [...]

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

Single In the Scene Part VIII: Transformation Happens

There’s going to come a point, I pray, that the single slave will be not so single and will be heading towards being owned. So for the last message in this series, I thought I’d talk about releasing the fear of transformation. There’s a song from the late 80′s “Don’t Make Me Over” by Sybil [...]

3 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Mindset
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Ever since realizing my role in the lifestyle, I have been faced with a lot of…decisions that I’ve had to make. In some instances, I’ve had no issues with making those decisions. But then there are those instances where the decisions I’ve had to make, aren’t always so easy to make. I’ve had to put [...]

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

Struggling in Submission: Introspection on the Fight to Improve Yourself

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/15/13 The most asked question from experienced submissives in the past few months has to do with struggle internally with your own submission, with your resistance to discipline and overall disagreement in a relationship.  It is of course, a natural progression of behavior adjustment and of introspection.  We all know [...]

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

Expressing Your Submission (with hair!)

I’ve read a half-dozen articles on scattered around the scene that talk about all sorts of methods for keeping your body clean, for dressing to inspire confidence—or tactics to boost confidence without wearing anything at all; I’ve seen articles detailing in methods of hair removal, of after-hair-removal-care, but somehow in the jumble of cyberspace, I [...]

6 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Ask lunaKM – New Kink Relationship, Seeking Daddy Doms and Resources to Help Those Coming Out Kinky

Dear lunaKM, I just met a man that is a dom, I am very interested in this lifestyle but also VERY new to it. We are both interested in each other and are both looking for a vanilla life outside the bedroom. My question is how do I start a relationship without jumping in bed [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships

How To Manage, Increase and Explore Pain Tolerances in SM Play

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/18/13 Whether you are a hard-core masochist or just a light explorer of sadomasochistic pain play there are always opportunies to experience more, push yourself harder and enhance your pain management techniques. How you learn to do this, and the techniques you employ are unique from submissive to submissive (masochist [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: The Big Meet

As I mentioned in my introduction to this series, online submission is a bit of a hot-button among D/s practitioners. There are a lot of great arguments for why it doesn’t work, and for each of those, there’s an equally strong counterargument for why it’s a perfectly valid arrangement; but chances are, unless you’re submitting [...]

5 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Safety
Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

Daddy-Little Girl Dynamics: It’s Not Easy Being A Little

I don’t know about you, but when I was child, I didn’t always think it was all that easy. I remember grownups all around me telling me how “easy I had it” and to “just wait until I became an adult” because that’s when life would start getting hard. I would always look at them [...]

16 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Working to Develop Personal Rituals

Every single day I perform rituals that I’ve created to help me feel connected to my submission even if I’m not in the mood or feeling in the right mindset. They are especially helpful during times of stress and busy life when the D/s may seem pushed back so that other pressing matters can be [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Rituals and Routines

Chat Night Transcript from Pervertables Talk with FroggyKM

Chat night transcript from the Pervertables Chat with froggyKM on  7/16/13 froggyKM: ok lets get things started! Hello and welcome to another chat night here on Submissive Guide. Please feel free to talk about the subject whenever a thought comes to mind, this is not a moderated talk and you do not have to ask [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

Keys to a Successful Relationship-It’s All About Communication

This is the first in an ongoing series where I will be writing about key factors it takes to have a successful relationship. This first article is about the importance that communication plays in our relationships. Awhile ago, I came across this article in the NY Times about how BDSM has become a bit more [...]

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

5 Simple Steps to Creating a Personal Submissive Mantra

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/20/13 Developing your own personal mantra is a path to peace and achievement. You can then use your mantra whenever you feel stressed or out of focus with your submission. I use my mantra on a daily basis to keep my mindset on my Dominant and the behavior he has [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
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