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Ask lunaKM – Not Into Service, Emotional After Play and Explaining Pleasurable Pain

Ask lunaKM – Not Into Service, Emotional After Play and Explaining Pleasurable Pain

Dear lunaKM, I’m an extremely dominant person by nature, but all my fantasies and arousal centers around subbing.  In reading your posts, I’m wondering if I really am a sub.  I definitely am not into the idea of service.  Shouldn’t I be if I am into subbing?  I’ve certainly been accused of topping from the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Sexual Exclusivity in Poly Relationships – Is It Possible?

Many of my blog stalkers (you know who you are) are aware that just over a year ago KnyghtMare collared another submissive and officially made us a poly group.  We never saw ourselves as polyamorous before, in fact KnyghtMare and I were firmly in the monogamous camp until froggyKM came along and blew that all [...]

16 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Ask lunaKM – Forced to Lose Weight, Snarky Submissives and Looking for Community

Dear lunaKM, I have been with my Master for a number of months. Most of the time our relationship is great and we have a very strong bond. My only problem is that he seems to have a fixation with my weight. When I first met him he asked me to lose a few pounds. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

What to Do When You Are Haunted by Past Relationships

There are times in our life that we seem to be haunted by the relationships in our past. They cling to us like a life form and don’t seem to want us out their grasp. Most of the time, I feel this occurs because we feel that something is left unresolved with it. Perhaps the [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

Take the Bite Out of Submitting to Pain – Sadomasochism Is Not a Part of Submission

I’m here to break the news to you about a piece of misinformation about submissives. Are you ready? You do not have to like pain or be a masochist to be submissive. That’s it. That piece of news right there leads to one of the largest reasons so many of you are confused. You think [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
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What is Primal Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Mr. Samsonite. Every group has one; you know, the guy who can’t show up to the play party without enough luggage to go on a two-week European tour? He [...]

13 comments Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Ask lunaKM – Pushing Limits, Exploring as a Top and Talking to Therapists

Dear lunaKM, I am a new submissive.  I have been in a relationship with my Dominant for about a year.  I am struggling because my Dominant wants me to explore and push my limits.  He knows that I have had group sex experiences in my past and that they were not positive.   He knows [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

You Could Be in Danger While in Top/Sub Space – Learn How to Protect Yourself

I first published this in Society of Janus’ Bi-monthly newsletter, I thought I’d share it with you as well. From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/6/13 Exploring kink is full of exciting experiences and hormonal roller coasters. We manipulate adrenaline and endorphins to give us a pleasurable experience during play. Often without knowing how these hormones [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Ask lunaKM – Independence, Differences between Slave and Bottom, Markers and Full Attention

Sometimes I get questions that only require a short answer. Here are a few of the more recent ones. What would you do if your dominant stopped recognizing and acknowledging you as a submissive person and instead encouraged you to be independent and self sufficient. Being submissive does not mean you are not independent or [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

How to Move On When The D/s Relationship Ends

Just how does one know how to move on after a relationship has come to an end, regardless of the reasons behind it? That is sometimes a confusing question for submissives to answer for themselves. Often a submissive will feel lost and all alone, as if they feel that no one will understand what they [...]

3 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Relationships
Ask the Readers: How can I prevent bruising?

Ask the Readers: How can I prevent bruising?

Every so often I get a request for advice that I think would be a good talking point with the reader community I have here at Submissive Guide. Here’s one that I think deserves a highlight. Please leave your thoughts and advice for Bruises_Easily in the comments! So I am new to submissive world. It [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex

What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Male Submission – Foot Fetish

Male Submission – Foot Fetish

In this part 3 of my series of articles about Male Submission on The Submissive Guide, I discuss the role of a foot fetish. There are a whole lot of guys who have a fetish for feet, and while there are women who also have a foot fetish it is by far more prevalent with [...]

11 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Play and Sex
Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Why You Should Know the Truth About Topping from the Bottom

Topping from the bottom is a feared act for novices because it holds a negative connotation that the person is somehow not submissive if they top from the bottom. It’s whispered and screamed in all of the online forums dealing with BDSM and most of those talk about it with disdain and shame the people [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Why Might I Get Sick Suddenly During Play?

Leatherstrap asks me: I played with a lady tonite who set out very clearly that she wanted to play rough – in fact she wanted to be brought to tears – She had a safe word which she didnt call but as the session went on it became apparent that she wasnt well – I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Safety
“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

i found you, Luna, by internet search and may i say that you are, to me, a godsend. i have been “asked” by the One i hope will someday be my Master to read “Becoming A Slave”. this book has presented a lot of problems for me in that now i am questioning slavery vs. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

The Top 7 Posts of 2012 on Submissive Guide

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9/1/12 As with anything on Submissive Guide I do my best to provide you with accurate opinions and general viewpoints on topics pertaining to BDSM and submission.  Readers such as you, tell me in a variety of ways what I should be focusing on from time to time by the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive
Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 8/18/12 When I first started recording video posts to put on YouTube I didn’t think any BDSM information could be found there, and in fact, thought that my videos would be taken down as soon as they went up. That hasn’t been the case and I’m thrilled about that. But [...]

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

Telling the Difference Between a Ritual and a Protocol

What’s the difference between a protocol and a ritual? Even experienced people in the lifestyle can get tripped up on this one, but there are a few basic differences that will allow you to rapidly tell the two apart. A ritual: Is an action that is repeated the same way each time, usually at some [...]

1 comment Posted by slavekathy | Posted in: Rituals and Routines
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