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One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

One is Silver and the Other Gold: The Importance of Friends

Moving is hard.  There’s no mincing words about it and it’s probably very obvious that change isn’t easy.  The other night I hosted the last Submissive Forum in my area. I’ve hosted them for 2 years, made a lot of wonderful friends and learned so much about myself and submission. There’s something about friendship and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Pain Play Discussed Online – Explore The Variety of Views

Submissive Guide isn’t the only place you can get quality information about the topics of BDSM and this month I’ve been focusing on sadomasochism and pain play. So I’ve done a bit of research and pulled together some of the best online reading on the topic. Browse the list, watch the videos and learn more [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

Submitting in a Long Distance Relationship: Introduction

After writing “Rules for the Working Sub” my Dom suggested that I continue writing articles that focus on the long distance aspects of our relationship. At her encouragement, I’ve decided to try my hand at a series which I hope will be of help to anyone who is involved, or is thinking of becoming involved, [...]

11 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

The Role of a Collar in a Long Distance D/s Relationship

Welcome kallista to Submissive Guide contributors! It’s no secret that having a working long distance relationship is a challenge, even under the most traditional circumstances, but when the dynamics of your relationship are dependent upon the delicate balance of give and take between Dominant and submissive, the potential challenges that you face increase tenfold. When [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Online Submission
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

The title of this article may seem self-contradictory but submission means different things to different people and also almost all human beings are selfish to at least some degree at some point in our lives. Many submissives gain pleasure directly from the pleasure of their dominant and they are clearly not the target of this [...]

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

Can Trust Be Repaired When He’s Caught Cheating?

I am fairly new to the D/s lifestyle as I have been vanilla all my life…..but I feel I was born to be submissive as I am a submissive woman by nature. My Dom of 3 months who is a wonderful man is voyeuristic and a sadist. I felt a disconnect with him a few [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Struggling to Find Balance in a Stressful Life

Struggling to Find Balance in a Stressful Life

Sometimes it is difficult to find balance when there is so much going on in your life. It is important, however, to find some compromise within yourself because otherwise you may become stressed out. No one wants to be stressed out if they can help it. I know I don’t like that feeling. Balance can [...]

5 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

A Fond Farewell to InformedConsent.co.uk

Some of you may have come across the British website – Informed Consent. It’s a sort of British Fetlife with blog posts, message boards and personals to search. News came out recently to say due to various reasons the person who is behind the site is closing it at the end of February. I thought I’d [...]

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Views & More...
Submissive Advent Calendar

Submissive Advent Calendar

The Advent is the time in anticipation for Christmas and is celebrated in some religious circles, but also carries a secular following. Advent translated means “the coming.” I’m sure everyone has seen the cardboard calendars with little doors and chocolate inside; to be opened one a day until Christmas Day. Well, I’ve had this idea of [...]

7 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Learning from D/s Neighbors

Learning from D/s Neighbors

Me and my neighbor are submissive while our wives are the dominants. When wives visit each other for coffee and chat, we (the husbands) mind the kids. My wife is less dominant than his wife and I am less submissive than him. But, since we knew them a few months ago, my wife started to [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
The Secret to Better Submission Everyday

The Secret to Better Submission Everyday

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 6/23/12 Want to know a secret? Submission gets better everyday. What makes it so good? I’m not going to tell you any revelations that you probably don’t already know. But here goes. Your personal investment in your future is what makes it better everyday. The fact that you follow Submissive [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant

How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant

Not all Dominants take well to someone who wishes to serve them intimately and with all things. It may seem counter-productive but oftentimes the Dominant is very self-sufficient and requires little aid in their lives. So what is a submissive wishing to serve to do in a situation like this? What is self-sufficiency? A self-sufficient [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

The Internal and External Struggles of a Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4/21/12 Submission definitely isn’t easy. No matter what direction your journey takes you will have moments where struggle and strife  challenge you to continue your submission. I’m a bit hesitant to say that it’s common to struggle as a submissive, but I do know that a lot of what I [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
BDSM To Cure Insomnia

BDSM To Cure Insomnia

Insomnia is a common condition. I have seen estimates that over half of all adults experience difficulties sleeping a few nights per week or more. I am not a doctor or expert on health issues but I have found something which helps me get to sleep at night: BDSM!  There are two ways I have [...]

12 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Mindset
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner

Welcome ted_subby as a new contributor to Submissive Guide! His first post is about a topic that I know many of you can benefit from. Enjoy! “What do I do if my significant other is vanilla?” This is a common situation and one which does not have an easy answer. It is important because, for [...]

27 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
An Introduction to Body Service

An Introduction to Body Service

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11-5-11 One of the more intimate ways that we submissives can serve our Dominants is by learning and performing grooming duties usually left to themselves to do. It’s not as unusual as you might think. Upper class men and women of history used to have body servants and grooms to [...]

Have a BDSM Community Spirit You Can Be Proud Of

Have a BDSM Community Spirit You Can Be Proud Of

This is a guest post by Laney. Well, you did it. You finally took the steps necessary-you found a munch, made friends, joined a dungeon and it happened. You fell in love. Not with a certain someone, but with your community. It happens to a lot of us lifestylers. We immerse ourselves in our dungeon, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships, Service
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