By lunaKM on August 9, 2010
From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 5/8/10 Just under 3 years ago the BDSM community was a very differnet place. There has always been discussion boards and chat rooms. We could always connect via mySpace and Facebook, but there was never a centralized social network. Until FetLife came into being. I joined the site when it [...]
Posted in Newsletter Archive, Social Norms | Tagged BDSM, community, facebook, fetlife, information, opinion |
By lunaKM on April 5, 2010
UPDATE: This competition is now closed and I have closed comments on this post. Thanks to everyone for entering – it’s been amazing to see so many entries! I’ll notify winners of their win shortly! OK – I have a pile of books that is growing beside my desk (and on my desk… and on [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged amazon.com, BDSM, book, books, giveaway, how to be kinky, Janet W. Hardy, kinky, Laura Doyle, morpheous, New Bottoming Book, play, Surrendered Wife, winner |
By lunaKM on March 1, 2010
As so many bloggers are known to do, I am opening up this site for your questions… even the personal ones. March is the month known in a small sphere as Question Month! If you have a question about submission, your own struggles or anything to do with BDSM this is your chance. I’ll also [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged advice, ask luna, ask me, BDSM, email, experience, question month, questions, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on January 27, 2010
Last week I asked you to talk all about BDSM Myths. Here are the submissions I received. There is some excellent thoughts here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) pet’s journey BDSM is Love The conversation isn’t over. If you [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, BDSM, bdsm myths, carnival, myths, rt, share, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise |
By lunaKM on January 19, 2010
Its time for SubWise! You know what to do by now. I’m going to give you a topic to write about and your task goes like this: Write about the topic in your blog or online journal. You don’t have to have a blog to participate. If you have a FetLife account you can use your [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged BDSM, bdsm myths, carnival, email, fetlife, friends, myths, online, online journal, rt, submission, submission carnival, submissions, SubWise, writing |
By Guest Author on January 15, 2010
This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged activities, adult nursing relationship, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, connection, cons, dani, erotic lactation, feature series, fetlife, guest post, information, journey, kinky, love, play, relationship, rt, sex, submissive, tall |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged amazon.com, basics, BDSM, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, book, bottom, cons, danger, Dom, Domme, email, event, events, experience, feature series, fetlife, fire cupping, fire drumming, fire fleshing, fire flogging, fire play, fire whipping, focus, friends, friendships, guest post, Gwendolyn, health, information, learned, leather, love, m/s, online, opinion, pain tolerance, play, poly, questions, review, risk, rt, safe, Safety, scene, Service, single, slave, stress, submissive, support, toy, toys, trust, websites, writing |
By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics | Tagged BDSM, bdsm lifestyle, bdsm play, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, connection, cons, edge play, event, experience, favorite, feature series, fetlife, fists, floggers, focus, guest post, hands, help, Impact, impact play, lifestyle, love, munch, normal, owned, paddles, play, positions, relationship, rt, series, share, spanking, stress, submissive, subspace, wants, whips |
By lunaKM on January 6, 2010
One of every submissive’s first experiences happens to be in the bedroom or dungeon. That’s why this month I’d like to focus on the joys and pleasures of the things we can explore during scenes and play. The next few weeks we’ll be hearing about a variety of BDSM activities. Just about every post is [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play feature, bgtreasure, caning, dani, experience, favorite, feature series, focus, guest post, guest posts, Gwendolyn, Impact, impact play, Nadia West, play, Playtime, scene, series, submissive, writing |
By lunaKM on January 5, 2010
A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged 2WBSP, 7 things, aftercare, Aria, bath, bathing, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm lifestyle, best of 2009, best of submissiveguide, Best Submissive Blogs, blogs, book, bottom, checklist, choice, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, e-book, guest post, help, how-to, human pet, journaling, kajira, learned, learning, lifestyle, masochist, newsletter, novice, novices, online, Online Submission, opinion, owned, pet play, pets, play, positions, resume, ritual, rituals, rosary, rt, rules, scene, Service, skylerpet, slave, slave training, sub drop, submission, submissive, submissive blogs, Submissive Positions, top posts, topping from the bottom, training, Training Resume, two dominants, websites, writing |
By lunaKM on January 4, 2010
To herald in the New Year I have been able to collect guest posts from some of the best voices in submission to share with you what it’s like to explore and experience their favorite play activities. Over the next few weeks we will learn about flogging and caning, rope bondage and fire play and [...]
Posted in Views & More... | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play feature, bdsm series, Bondage, caning, Dom, dominant, email, experience, favorite, feature series, fire play, guest post, guest post opportunities, guest posts, help, online, orgasm denial, piercing, play, recovery, review, rt, series, share, short, sorry, spanking, submission, submissive |
By lunaKM on December 18, 2009
I was listening to Mistress Matisse’s Guest Appearance the other day on the Savage Lovecast (Ep 163). She talks about a lot of kinky topics that callers ask Dan Savage. Somewhere near the end there was an interesting comment by Dan where he asked MM if nerds and geeks are more likely to be into [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged advice, BDSM, body language, Bondage, challenges, dreams, friends, geeks, humor, implement, kinky, love, nerds, online, play, rt, sex, stress, Study |
By lunaKM on December 16, 2009
“I have a fetish for wool socks, I just love them!” “I have a fetish for corsets, I can’t get off without thinking of them!” One of these statements is a sure sign of a fetish; the other is a misuse of the term. Sure this is a poor example. How many times have you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged BDSM, blogs, body parts, cons, corsets, desires, development, Dom, dominant, favorite, fetishes, fetishism, fetishist, foot fetish, gender, hands, health, latex, learning, leather, love, obsession, partialism, piercing, play, preference, relationship, role play, rt, safe, sex, sexual fetishes, sexual fetishism, share, size, speech, standing, stimulus, stress, submissive, understanding, what is a fetish, worship |
By lunaKM on December 14, 2009
Submissive Guide is run by your donations, and affiliate purchases. I’m looking ahead into my 2nd year providing quality writing that is meant to help submissives everywhere learn about themselves and the services they wish to provide. I could use your help. If you find Submissive Guide to be a valuable resource, please consider making [...]
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By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By lunaKM on December 4, 2009
I had a question sent to me via YouTube asking me about for information about dress protocols. I can only tell you what I am familiar with, so be aware that there are many many other forms of dress protocols and just as many (if not more) reasons behind them. I’m going to assume that [...]
Posted in Rituals and Routines | Tagged ask me, BDSM, clothing, Dom, dominant, dominants, dress, event, grooming, information, makeup, play, poses, preference, preferences, protocol, purpose, relationship, rt, rules, safe, sex, share, shaving, short, submissive, symbols, wants, what to wear |
By lunaKM on November 25, 2009
Last week I asked you to talk about your favorite scene memory. Here are the submissions I got. There is some excellent advice here folks! Check it out. Make sure you leave comments! (Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.) pet’s journey BDSM is Love The conversation isn’t over. If [...]
Posted in SubWise | Tagged advice, BDSM, carnival, favorite, journey, love, memories, rt, scene, scene memory, share, submission, submissions, submissive, SubWise |
The items listed below are books and worksheets produced by others that I have found across the internet. This list is always changing as things come and go on the internet. I can not guarantee that these items will always be available so download your copy now! Butler’s Book Template – .doc by a slave [...]
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This month I'd like to feature Protocols: Handbook for the female slave by Robert Rubel PhD. A book on protocol in a D/s Leather Household.
My name is lunaKM and I’m a full-time submissive in a D/s relationship. I am webslut to 
