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Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Ask Submissive Guide – Being Transgender and Public BDSM Play

Dear Submissive Guide, I’m new to the scene and realizing I’m very interested in submission and masochism. I’m also gay and transgender (an FtM who is attracted to men). I’m gearing up the courage to go to a play party, and while I might not play at my first one I will want to play [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

“I learn in that very first instant the thrill of knife play. I have never encountered anything better able to make my body submit. Fast. As the sharp edge touches my jugular I am terrified to move a single millimeter anywhere on my body. I focus all my mental energy on keeping my physical body [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
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Getting Started with Flogging

We sat in a friend’s living room as they showed us their collection of floggers. Each one a little different from the last. Some with more weight in the handle, some with thin tails, and still others were fluffy. This is what my introduction to kinky toys looked like. Floggers are a very common first [...]

Leave a comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Play and Sex
How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

I am an avid feminist. I believe in the equality of men and women in every way and I am not shy in voicing my opinion. I work for the campus women’s center promoting healthy relationships, anti-rape campaigns, and an awareness that the world is not as equal as many people like to pretend. I [...]

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

In my earlier BDSM Basics videos you learned about being kinky and what roles you might like to try while you explore the great big world of BDSM. Today I’m going to talk about safety. Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

If there’s one topic that comes up time and again on this blog, in readers’ emails to me and online forums is how do you care for bruises and other physical and emotional reminders of play? Since 2009 when I started writing this site I’ve returned to this topic time and again with interesting and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Your first scene with your Dominant is coming up and so far they’ve been pretty foggy as far as what will happen. You’ve never been involved in BDSM before but you are excited and scared for the upcoming session. What’s going to happen? What will you expect to see and do? A scene is in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

The truth about Dominant and submissive relationships isn’t that we are an alternative lifestyle within the BDSM arena, it’s that we are a strong and supportive relationship type that goes beyond and sometimes without kink. Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

You are a bedroom submissive. You may only submit only in the bedroom, or on weekends or for only set time periods. So having rituals seems foreign to you, right? Maybe. They aren’t meant for you, right? Wrong. If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full time submissives only or those in [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/1/12 We are surrounded by boundaries and fences, limits and “do no pass” signs. Everything we do has limitations and restrictions. So, it may come as no surprise that you too have limits that you will not cross; be it in your relationship or pertaining to sex and play. Some [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

BDSM and Sex Sex and BDSM They do not have to go together, did you know that? While much of what we do in the bedroom can be considered sexual or sensual in nature it does not mean that you have to engage in sexual contact during play. Oftentimes during negotiation people will forget the [...]

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What does “Checking In” During a Scene Mean?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Using a check in during a scene is a responsibility of the Dominant to make sure things are going as they should. Often times this is a simple, “are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

Because of the content of this post I feel I must begin with a disclaimer: This is NOT meant to be medical advice or anything even related to it. This is an account of what worked for me and my family and notes from other pregnant slaves I have known. Always talk to your doctor [...]

13 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Relationships, Safety, Service
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

We never want our scene time to end. It’s fun and pleasant and lovely. When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

Research Page: Sub Drop

The multitude of essays and articles and blog posts I go through when I’m researching a topic rarely get shared with all of you, but no more. I’m opening up my research pages and sharing with you my searches for content on a specific topic so that you too can make your own opinions and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Research Pages

Find a New Kink in the Archives

There are so many excellent posts in the archives of Submissive Guide that I’d like to showcase some of them today. BDSM play can be so many different things and we can all take some time exploring activities and dungeon/playroom rules. Dive in and leave comments on your favorite! Anal Play Caning Exploring Hypnotism Face [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]

9 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]

8 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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