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Scenes for Beginners: Ideas You Can Use To Start Exploring Bondage and BDSM Play in the Bedroom

Coming up with ideas on what to do with your partner when it comes to roleplay and kinky sex can be hard as a beginner. How do you set up a scene? What do you do? Let me help you out with some great ideas for play when you are new to BDSM and kinky roleplay.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

Do what makes you feel most comfortable, and you’ll be doing it “right.”

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
The Thrill of Knife Play

The Thrill of Knife Play

Knife play runs the edge of what could be construed as safe because, well, knives. The most important thing to know about knife play is that while it is a powerfully sexy tool, it is best used in the hands of an experienced person with an experienced couple.

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety
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Getting Started with Flogging

If you are just getting started with a flogger, define what type of play would interest you, and start to find out which floggers would be the best suited for the job.

Leave a comment Posted by moonlight | Posted in: Play and Sex
How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

How BDSM, SSC, and Feminism Work Together

As long as your relationship (both in play and out of play) follows SSC standards, then you have a healthy relationship, and there is nothing that detracts from the fact that I believe men and women deserve equal rights.

1 comment Posted by andyiccee | Posted in: Relationships, Safety

BDSM Basics: Staying Safe with SSC

Every new thing you try is full of risks, some you are willing to take and others you aren’t. So knowing about the safety precautions that can save your mind and body are always a good thing.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Video Posts

How to Care for Bruises and More BDSM Play Recovery Tips

The following list of links are my suggestions on key posts on the topic of bruise care and aftercare from my archives. I hope you find them to be useful.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

The Anatomy of A BDSM Scene: What Happens?

Let me describe to you what a first scene might be like.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Book Review: Leading and Supportive Love

Chris Lyon has written a fantastic book that does a great job describing and detailing the two roles of a leading and supportive relationship without all the kink, discipline and fetish mumbo jumbo that tends to muddy our understanding when we get involved in BDSM.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

Enhance Your Sex and BDSM Play with Rituals in the Bedroom

If you’ve ever thought that ritual and meditation was for full-time submissives only or those in committed relationships then you haven’t broadened your thinking enough. It’s not just the full-time “lifestyle” submissives that can benefit from rituals, rules, and protocols in their lives. Submissives that dabble in the bedroom only have a lot they can do to enhance their experience in play and sex with their partner.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

When you are brand new to anything related to BDSM it is likely that you will not know many of your limits and that’s okay. Make sure you are prepared to share that information if you want to play, but also to stop as soon as you think you’ve reached a limit.

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Why BDSM and Sex are Not Always Connected

Sure it may turn you on, but you still get to decide how far you go to care for that. After all, BDSM is about exchanging sensations and exploring your body’s responses to stimulus. It is not always sex.

17 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Sex and Sexuality

What is Non-sexual Play?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. If somebody said to you that they only wanted to have non-sexual play, how would you interpret this? Does it mean no intercourse but oral is ok? Does it [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary

What does “Checking In” During a Scene Mean?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. Using a check in during a scene is a responsibility of the Dominant to make sure things are going as they should. Often times this is a simple, “are [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

The Impact of Pregnancy on Submission: Service and Play

When I found out I was pregnant, the first thing that crossed my mind was “oh no! How will my service be affected? How will my ability to be pleasing in bed and in kink be affected?” I was surprised when (at least for the first few months) that the answer was “It was not affected at all.”

13 comments Posted by malak Briar-rose | Posted in: Health and Beauty, Relationships, Safety, Service
Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

Fainting, Headaches and Nausea: Facing Sudden Illness During Play/Scene Time

When we play we have a chance that the blissful time we are experiencing will end well or may end suddenly from something unexpected. Yes we do everything we can to avoid having to stop play but when sudden illness takes hold the best thing is to stop and treat the problem.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex, Safety

Research Page: Sub Drop

The multitude of essays and articles and blog posts I go through when I’m researching a topic rarely get shared with all of you, but no more. I’m opening up my research pages and sharing with you my searches for content on a specific topic so that you too can make your own opinions and [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Research Pages

Find a New Kink in the Archives

There are so many excellent posts in the archives of Submissive Guide that I’d like to showcase some of them today. BDSM play can be so many different things and we can all take some time exploring activities and dungeon/playroom rules. Dive in and leave comments on your favorite! Anal Play Caning Exploring Hypnotism Face [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

Submitting to Pain When You Are Not a Masochist

BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]

9 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Play and Sex
Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]

9 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
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