By nan {SL} on September 1, 2010
BDSM immediately conjures up images of a whip-wielding Dominatrix punishing some poor submissive who is screaming in pain. As delightful as that image is, not everyone who is a bottom or submissive is in this lifestyle to experience pain. It must be daunting for the newbie who does not enjoy pain to come to a [...]
Posted in Playtime, Submission | Tagged bdsm play, control, enduring pain, energy, eroticizing pain, experience, learning, masochist, pain dispersement methods, play, reactions, sadist, SM |
By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By Guest Author on January 8, 2010
This is a guest post by bgtreasure for the BDSM Play Feature Series here on Submissive Guide. I choose this topic to write about because it is my favorite form of play and has been since I’ve found this wonderful thing we call “The Lifestyle”. The general definition of Impact Play that you will find [...]
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By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Sex and Sexuality | Tagged basics, BDSM, BDSM and sex, bdsm play, chat, decisions, discussion, Dom, dominant, energy, experience, intimacy, kinky, kinky side, negotiation, partners, play, play parties, relationship, rt, rules, scene, sex, sexual pleasure, standing, submissive, transcript, understanding |
By lunaKM on November 9, 2009
When aftercare is mentioned, it is rarely associated with the Dominant. We hear all about how to help the submissive come down from the endorphin high, treat the marks and aches and emotionally recover from the scene. Do we think that Dominants feel nothing during play that they don’t need care afterwards? Think again. When [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged aftercare, bdsm play, connection, control, Dom, dominant, dominant aftercare, dominant recovery, dominants, endorphins, energy, experience, focus, help, Impact, marks, needs, partner focus, play, recovery from play, relationship, rt, scene, sex, shower, submissive, trust |
By lunaKM on November 3, 2009
I’m planning a series of posts in JANUARY related to BDSM activities. Are you an avid fan of a particular play activity? Would you write a short post about what you experience during the play time; from how it feels, how you respond, what it does to you emotionally and recovery. Sorry, no Dominant posts! [...]
Posted in Webmaster Notes | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm activities, bdsm play, Bondage, Dom, dominant, email, experience, favorite, help, online, orgasm denial, piercing, play, recovery, review, rt, series, short, sorry, spanking, submissive |
By lunaKM on September 23, 2009
Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]
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By lunaKM on September 21, 2009
I’ve always believed that safewords are only good if you know how to use them. Good ole communication is great for things like numb limbs, an itch you can’t reach or a bathroom break. Submissive Guide is here for novices and it’s always good to teach about safewords and recommend that you have one. In [...]
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By lunaKM on September 2, 2009
At the beginning of this blog I wrote about safewords. Just a reminder that a safeword is a signal that ends BDSM play and usually negotiated before play. It’s an excellent starting point but I left a part of it out. There will be occasions during BDSM play where you will be unable to speak. [...]
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By Guest Author on August 4, 2009
This is a guest post by Christian. He is a switch male of the D/s lifestyle for the past 14 years. For my first post here I am going to write about something I get asked a fair bit. How does one raise kids in a D/s household? As one with several kids I thought [...]
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By lunaKM on June 17, 2009
A collar for submissives is one of the most fundamental symbols of their relationship and one that is usually gaurded and protected with their heart. With all the essays online about collars I thought I’d jump in with my own take on what everyone says and believes about collars. Play Collars The first type of [...]
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By lunaKM on April 3, 2009
This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Training Resume, Video Posts | Tagged abuse, activities, BDSM, bdsm checklist, bdsm play, checklist, email, event, fetishes, help, limits, links, paraphilias, play, play activites, questions, relationship, resume, roles, rt, Safety, share, training, Training Resume, value |
By lunaKM on January 29, 2009
Do you or your partner play with others outside your relationship? Are there limits to this play within your dynamic? How comfortable are you with this play? photo credit Vertigogen
Posted in Submission | Tagged bdsm play, comfort, dynamic, limits, partner swapping, play, playing with others, relationship, rt, sharing, Thursday Question |
By lunaKM on January 15, 2009
Marks are a result of many forms of play in BDSM. What are you favorite ways to help them heal quickly, or heck, make them last a bit longer? photo credit Nadya Peek
Posted in Submission | Tagged BDSM, bdsm play, bruises, favorite, healing, help, home medicine, marks, play, remedies, Thursday Question |
By lunaKM on January 1, 2009
Now that is a question, isn’t it? There is no wrong or right answer but there is a clear and focused way to figure out if you are someone would would desire a safeword or not. They can be an important part of play or something that is never used, but provides the security that [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Playtime | Tagged activities, BDSM, bdsm play, book, comfort, cons, Dom, dominant, event, experience, focus, help, limits, misunderstandings, negotiation, play, protocol, relationship, resume, risk, rt, safe, safe words, Safety, safewords, scene, security, single, speech, standing, stoplight safety system, submissive, training, Training Resume, understanding, wants |
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