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Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

Simply Service e-Zine from November 2005

D/s e-Zine focused on Service, written by bootpig. This is the archive from November 2005. Topics include community unity, declutter tips, polyamory and more! Available in PDF format for free download.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

7 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was New to BDSM

There is always time for a bit of education and knowledge before exploration. It can keep you safe, it can make you more aware, it can keep you safe and it can be fun. What 7 things did I learn that I wish I had known a LONG time ago?

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

How to Navigate D/s with Family Around

Perhaps one of the most challenging decisions we face as a parent is what we should tell our children, when and how much.

1 comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Relationships
BDSM Isn’t Just About Power Exchange

BDSM Isn’t Just About Power Exchange

There is more than power exchange involved in BDSM. Here’s a short reminder that there is far more to the term that you might realize.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Views & More...
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Finding Your Tribe-The Importance of the Kink Community

I realized there was a lot out there I was missing and how important it was to get involved in the local groups and to have mentors and other s-types that I could talk to about things.

5 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Relationships, Views & More...
Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Book Review: 50 Shades of Curious by Bo Blaze

Blaze put together “50 Shades of Curious” to teach those new into the lifestyle how to practice BDSM in a safe, sane, and consensual manner.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics, Reviews
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Your Kink is Not my Kink – Understanding Other People’s Kinks

We need to take a step forward and be less judgmental and open to other people’s kinks. Here’s a story of one such discrimination. Learn to support each other.

6 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Beginner Basics
What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

What Do You Mean When You Say Communicate? I am Communicating!

You will learn that communicating is a whole new world when you enter into a BDSM relationship.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Ask lunaKM – Fear of Losing Yourself, Poor Contact Frequency and Sending Nude Pictures

Dear lunaKM, My husband and I have been playing in the BDSM lifestyle for several months now.  I love the idea of this but have always had a strong personality.  I love to please him and want to be a good submissive to him but I fear losing myself or for it to go too [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

Coming Out to Friends: Time to Reveal Your Kinky/Submissive Side

But before you decide to come out to people, make sure that you’re ready for any consequences, good or bad.

7 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

Do You Make These Mistakes? Avoid Outing a Fellow BDSM Lifestyler

There is one rule that breaking it is considered a cardinal sin in the world of BDSM-outing a fellow lifestyler. Doing such can have life changing effects on their vanilla life and the kinky life of the person who does the outing.

1 comment Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Community
This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

This is Not a Game – BDSM is My Life

I feel that there are so many who come into the lifestyle and do not realize what being a slave or submissive really entails. They come into the lifestyle having a certain expectation, a certain fantasy, but once they really get their feet wet, they realize it’s nothing that they expected.

1 comment Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Learn How to Nourish Yourself, Your Relationship and Your Submission

Like anything else, one has to learn to go with the flow and take the highs with the lows. I hope that any beginners, and even those who are well experienced will continue the sometimes rocky journey despite the aspects of the lifestyle that can destroy and fully embrace the aspects of the lifestyle that can nourish it.

4 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
What to Expect When Attending a Munch

What to Expect When Attending a Munch

Why should you attend a munch? This is often the first step in exploring the BDSM lifestyle in real life, rather than online. You can meet people, make contacts, ask questions, and just enjoy your time out without worrying about keeping your secret desires secret any longer. This is most often the place where cross dressers can ‘come out’, so to speak, and appear in make up and outfits that reflect their lifestyle, without negative comments.

23 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Community

Exploring Impact Play: A Variety of Pleasures

Impact play for me is very freeing sometimes it’s like a very intense full body massage breaking the stress of the day, the week, the month. I personally prefer when Sir uses his hands it makes it so much more personal and I believe strengthens our connection, however floggers and paddles can take me there as well.

5 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

The Top 30 Posts of 2009

To celebrate one year of excellent writing I wanted to showcase the top 30 posts of 2009. I’ve noted in the link if the author was a guest post. Please take a look at what has had the most views since starting out one year ago. You may have missed a few gems!

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Sub v. Slave: A Second Opinion

Sub v. Slave: A Second Opinion

This is a guest post by Beth, as she will tell you, she’s a 24/7 slave of 2 years and would like to express what she sees as the differences between sub and slave. If you would like to read Rayne’s opinion, you can do so on this post. First off I would like to introduce [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

The Challenges of Being Kajira in Today’s Society

Today’s guest post is by dina from Kajiradreams. You can also read her post on what it’s like to be an owned kajira and a kajira’s strengths and misconceptions. There is so many stereotypes, misconceptions of what a kajira is; what gor is; what the gorean lifestyle is; what a bdsm lifestyler looks like; what [...]

8 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Many Faces of Submission

The Many Faces of Submission

Types of submissives come in as many varieties as wines; there is one for every palette and preference. When someone tells you that you are submissive and you finally admit to yourself that you are submissive, which can be a journey itself, you can figure out how your submission differs from another by what type [...]

12 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

What’s the Difference Between a Lifestyler and a Player?

This week’s video is about definitions of a lifestyler and a player. I received the following question via email the other day and thought I would cover it here in a video post. I’m in a D/s relationship where we tend to do most of our activities behind closed doors. Outside we are a normal [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Video Posts
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