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Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene  Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

Play Nice: Some Notes on Scene Etiquette and Leather Protocol (Part 1 of 7) – General Principles

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-9-16 by Ambrosio. This was first published on Ambrosio’s site and has a free to distribute license. Abrosio dedicated this article to Beverly M. in Austin. Good Manners vs. Correct Protocol “Manners are of more importance than laws. Manners are what vex or soothe, corrupt or purify, exalt or debase, [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

You Share, I Share, We All Share! No no no, that’s not right….

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/5/16 I don’t know about you, but I’m monogamous. I am not shared with anyone else and that suits me just fine. But if you go to any online discussion group you may get an impression that the opposite is true; that sharing your submissive with others in a play [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community, Newsletter Archive
Ask lunaKM – How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

Ask lunaKM – How do I show my over-protective husband that the community is a safe, respectable place?

It took me a few days after the big realization that I am a sub, to share it with husband. We’ve been doing days of research and communicating and setting limits. Now, one of his biggest problems is entering into the community. He sees it as a place I will be hit on, and somehow [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Being Single in a Couple’s World

Being Single in a Couple’s World

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/18/14 When you are a single submissive it can feel like a lonely place. Every kinky place you go it seems like everyone is already in a relationship and there is no room for you. But that’s not true; and being a single submissive can be a special time in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
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I Am Submissive–Hear Me Roar!

I went to a local kink event and as an icebreaker the host asked everyone to say what kind of animal they relate to.  When I said I relate to a lioness, I got a ton of strange looks.  I suppose it makes sense.  As a submissive, it might not seem like I’d relate to [...]

1 comment Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Too Shy for Events, Shifting from Work to Home, Finding a Partner

Ask lunaKM – Too Shy for Events, Shifting from Work to Home, Finding a Partner

Dear lunaKM, I really would like to go to some kink events. The problem is that I’m very shy. I also have an unreasonable fear of the unknown. Can you give a brief description of some different kinds of events? What happens there? What kinds of people do you meet? What kind of interaction is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

Broken Vows: When Vanilla Marriage Falls Apart Because of Kink

I was married before my relationship with my Master, KnyghtMare. We fell in love when dating online was still an unusual thing. We courted and dated for years before we got married. Marriage seemed to be the inevitable next step, so we did that too. Our sex life was very much kink-lite. For the most [...]

41 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Ask lunaKM – Final Tests of Submission, BBWs in Kink and Dominant Titles

Dear lunaKM, I recently met a Dom online and corresponded with him for over a month. He made it clear from the beginning what his ‘rules’ were and I agreed to them in principle though I also requested some limits of my own as this was to be my first Master/slave relationship. During the months [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything

What is a Scene?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A very commonplace word in BDSM discussions is the word ‘scene’ but rarely do we define what that is with novices. Also, experienced people take for granted some of [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

How to Safely Manage Sub Frenzy

When I realized that my previous article on Sub Frenzy didn’t give you any advice on how to tackle it head on I knew I just had to get an article to you about how to manage sub frenzy so that it leaves you smarter, stronger and more prepared to handle the rush. What is [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

Single Submissives Need Personal Responsibility

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 1/5/13 Your personal responsibility is one of the most important tools in a single submissive’s arsenal. It keeps you safe and protected from the most common predators, it will help you learn and grow while waiting and often has a positive result if maintained once you are no longer single. [...]

The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive

The Ready-Made Submissive. This is a phenomenon that I am seeing pop up around the BDSM community. Why is this becoming prevalent? What exactly is a ready-made submissive? How can we, as a submissive, not fall into the pitfall of this? This is what I am going to talk about, and, hopefully, help you to [...]

2 comments Posted by LadySneak | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Male Submission – The Worm

Male Submission – The Worm

As the first in a series of articles focusing on male submission, this article presents thoughts about one of the archetypes of male submission, the “worm.” Men and women are different, of course, and in some cases that goes beyond the obvious physical characteristics. Almost all of the articles on The Submissive Guide are valid [...]

13 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission
Book Review: Playing Well with Others

Book Review: Playing Well with Others

It’s been awhile since I read a book for review on the site, but this book I have been waiting for months to be released and I was thrilled to get an autographed (and kissed) copy by donating to their release tour. Playing Well with Others: Your Field Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

How You Can Respond When Your Family Disapproves of Your Chosen Lifestyle/Sexuality

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 4-7-12 My family found out that I’m into BDSM/submissive and they are freaking out, what do I do? Coming out to your family, whether it be homosexuality or being kinky is a nerve-wrecking situation for anyone. Not being able to control when and where you family finds out this information [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Relationships
What is a BDSM Bottom?

What is a BDSM Bottom?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A person who receives spankings, floggings, or other forms of stimulation in situations which specifically exclude power exchange. For example, a masochist may be interested in receiving some kind of stimulation but [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
Understanding Sub Fever

Understanding Sub Fever

This is from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-3-11 Sub fever, also known as sub frenzy is an often misunderstood condition for novice and well seasoned submissives. While experienced submissives can learn to recognize the symptoms, most novices are oblivious to the issues at hand. What is sub fever? Do you remember when you first discovered [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Discretion in the BDSM Community – Anonymity and Personal Privacy Concerns

Discretion in the BDSM Community – Anonymity and Personal Privacy Concerns

I was asked in email a while ago about how safe BDSM groups are for people in high profile careers and the risk of being exposed. It’s a valid concern for anyone that seeks outside support and knowledge so I thought I’d share with you what I had to say to this person. Here’s their [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community
Submission in Marriage – Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive

Submission in Marriage – Shifting from Husband and Wife to Dominant and Submissive

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 10-08-11 Sexual exploration and adventurousness can happen at any time in a couple’s life; and even more so once they are committed to living their lives together for a long time. One of the ways that I’ve seen couples explore their sexual selves is by adding an element of D/s to the [...]

What is a Munch?

What is a Munch?

This post is part of an effort to provide a glossary for novice submissives of words commonly seen across this site and in the BDSM community. A munch is a casual social gathering in the BDSM community usually in a public place like a cafe or restaurant. That is the basic definition, but these meetings [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Glossary
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