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A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

Welcome new contributing author, sub2JB! When I first discovered my submissive side, Sir gave me a BDSM checklist to fill out. It was a spreadsheet over six pages long with categories such as sex, bondage, S&M, role-playing, and toys. The columns include basic yes/no/maybe options, as well as soft/hard limit and “only with Sir.” The [...]

17 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

lunaKM’s Weekend Reflections

I’ve been struggling with my submission this week and it’s put tension on our dynamic. It’s a natural thing for me to have moments of questions and struggle with how I live. It will even out but until then I’m having to work harder to keep my focus on what I should be doing and [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Weekend Reflections
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Falling in love is easy, so is falling out of love-especially when it is the love of a toy.  One of the assignments that I assign to the people I mentor involves this occurrence.   When I came into the lifestyle, I had two main loves-rope and floggers.  To me, there was nothing better than getting to [...]

4 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Personal Growth
7 Signs You are Compatible With a Perspective Dominant

7 Signs You are Compatible With a Perspective Dominant

When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

I talk a lot about knowing your limits and talking about your limits with your Dominant but I believe this is the first time I’m going to talk about your partner’s limits and what they mean for you. As a refresher, limits are the personal boundaries that we place on ourselves pertaining to our life [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 12/1/12 We are surrounded by boundaries and fences, limits and “do no pass” signs. Everything we do has limitations and restrictions. So, it may come as no surprise that you too have limits that you will not cross; be it in your relationship or pertaining to sex and play. Some [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play/Scene
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 11/17/12 Everyone started here at some point or another. You may even be at this point right now. Brand new to BDSM, D/s or both and not sure what you would like in a relationship, the bedroom, with kink…. anything. And then you meet people online or face to face [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Submission

Research Page: BDSM Checklists

As you may already know I spend a lot of time surfing the internet and reading about a lot of topics that pertain to BDSM and submission on a daily basis. One of the things I encounter almost everywhere I go are BDSM checklists. Interestingly enough it’s one of the more common requests on the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play/Scene

Top 30 Posts of 2011

This is a showcase the top 30 posts of 2011. I’ve noted in the link if the author was a guest post. You may have missed a few gems! What FetLife Has Done Pet Play and Human Pets: A Primer by SkylerPet What is Slave Training? The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You Where [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submission
Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

“What are your limits?” “Scat, blood, the dead and kids.” “You must be new.” “Huh?” “Only the novices have so few limits.” This is a real conversation. It happens all over the net and in munch groups. Sure there are no-limits slaves out there, but that’s just not as common as the rest of us. [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Submission

Assessing the Value of Checklists

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics

The Top 30 Posts of 2009

A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Exploring Your Place in BDSM Play

Exploring Your Place in BDSM Play

Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Training Resume

The Value of Checklists

This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Basics, Training Resume, Video Posts