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How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

How Often Have You Said: “I Don’t Know What’s Expected of Me, But I’d Like To”?

Let me tell you what you can do to make sure you are better informed before you enter a relationship and shortly after you’ve found a Dominant to submit to so your question of what is expected of you can be answered as fully as possible.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Relationships
Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

Most of us have problems with really making the limit list a full picture of what your boundaries are and tend to stick with play activities.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

A Submissive’s New Year’s Resolutions: Reviewing and Updating your Checklist

The checklist is a great tool to track the progression of your submission. Have you revisited your checklist lately?

17 comments Posted by pinksubgeek | Posted in: Personal Growth
Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

Finding a New Love – The Impact of Time on Your BDSM Checklist

A lot can change in five years.

4 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Personal Growth
7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

7 Signs You are Compatible With a Prospective Dominant

When you are looking for a Dominant for the first, or last, time, you have a few reasons to wonder if the person you see is compatible with you. After all, you don’t want to spend a lot of time getting to know someone if they are not going to be your perfect, or almost perfect, partner. Right? I’ve put together a few signs to help you tell if someone might be a good match for you.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

The Real Truth About a Dominant’s Limits

A Dominant has limits just like submissives do. There are things that don’t interest them, or that they have a moral or ethical standing that will prevent them from exploring something. Over the years I have heard many times that Dominants should have a checklist also and I agree.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

What Everyone Ought to Know About Finding and Managing Limits

When you are brand new to anything related to BDSM it is likely that you will not know many of your limits and that’s okay. Make sure you are prepared to share that information if you want to play, but also to stop as soon as you think you’ve reached a limit.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex
How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

How Do I Know What I Like? I’m Brand New

We more experienced people do have a habit of looking at new people funny when they don’t know what they are into. I think we forget that we were there once, that we floundered and stuttered when asked if we liked bondage or spanking, or if we were a Dominant or submissive. So, hopefully, we’ll learn from this little article too – that we were there once.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive

Research Page: BDSM Checklists

As you may already know I spend a lot of time surfing the internet and reading about a lot of topics that pertain to BDSM and submission on a daily basis. One of the things I encounter almost everywhere I go are BDSM checklists. Interestingly enough it’s one of the more common requests on the [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care and aftercare into one list.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Top 30 Posts of 2011

This is a showcase the top 30 posts of 2011.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

Limits: Drawing That Line In The Sand

Applying limits to your BDSM experience is necessary for negotiation purposes in play and in relationships. It’s like a compatibility scale. The more items on the limit list that match the more likely you are to be compatible and have fun playing in the same way. Being a novice isn’t a hindrance for everyone, some Dominants like to help a novice explore their limits.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Assessing the Value of Checklists

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals

The Top 30 Posts of 2009

A year ago I started a small blog project called Submissive Guide. I wanted it to be an organized place where I could voice my opinions about submission, help novices discover who they are and explore BDSM through the written word. Since that time it has grown to so much more, including an e-book, a [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Views & More...
Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Exploring Being Submissive in BDSM Play

Submission during play can be overwhelming. How do you understand what you might like? What about the buzz words of subspace and sub drop? One of Submissive Guide’s goals is to help novice submissives understand BDSM and their place in it. To help you begin your exploration I’ve put together a list of the posts [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume

What’s With All These BDSM Checklists? [Video]

This week’s video tip is on the BDSM Checklist. If you’ve just started out in BDSM and have asked a few questions, it is very likely that you have been directed to use a checklist to become familiar with what you may or may not like in play and roles and fetishes. If you haven’t [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume, Video Posts

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