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Wax Play Review and Thoughts

Wax Play Review and Thoughts

My Dom and had our first experience with wax play a few months ago, and I wanted to share a few, quick, thoughts and bits of advice if you’ve been toying with the idea of adding wax to your toy chest. What is Wax Play? It’s a form of temperature play, where a special kind [...]

2 comments Posted by kallista | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Play and Sex
BDSM How To: Wax Play

BDSM How To: Wax Play

I love wax play. It’s so much fun and something that is simple to do and also not extremely expensive, which is awesome because we all know how expensive toys can be. So, it’s always great to find a fun activity that isn’t expensive. Not only that, but the more colorful candles you use, it [...]

Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

Everything That’s Wrong with Your BDSM Limits List – And How To Fix It

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/8/14 Limits are those boundaries that we set for ourselves because of physical, emotional, mental, social or psychological hesitations, morals or values we want to uphold and dislike for some things. For most submissives we put together a rudimentary limits list as soon as we know what BDSM is and [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Newsletter Archive
Male submission – Financial Domination

Male submission – Financial Domination

Financial Domination is an area of BDSM which often elicits strong opinions. With other BDSM activities such as spanking and bondage, at some point after the Safe, Sane, and Consensual scene is over there is no damage done and things are typically physically back to the way they were. However, if a sub’s money is [...]

24 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission, Relationships
Book Review: SM 101

Book Review: SM 101

One of the most comprehensive books on BDSM activities has to be SM101 by Jay Wiseman. It’s not your usual general BDSM reader, but a detailed safe play primer with so many ideas on what you can do with your partner that I even had new fantasies to bring to KM’s attention. SM101 is one [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virgins Can Love BDSM Too: How Sexual Preference Doesn’t Have to Involve Sex

Virginity. It’s valued and prized and then remembered. There’s even people who believe in a second virginity. Of course there are also BDSM virgins when people just get started. But, the question I got posed to me the other day was if you are a sexual virgin can you even know that you are interested [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
A Safer Kinky Sex How-To

A Safer Kinky Sex How-To

Many of the BDSM activities we may engage in are inherently sexual in nature, even if no sex actually occurs. Being aware and using safe sex barriers when necessary is your protection from disease and infection. I’m amazed with casual play partners that don’t employ these simple techniques to protect themselves and future partners.  But [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Safety, Sex and Sexuality
Lactation Play and the Adult Nursing Relationship

Lactation Play and the Adult Nursing Relationship

This is a guest post by dani. She is a new submissive in an Adult Nursing relationship.You can read about Erotic Lactation at Wikipedia or visit Land of Milk and Honey for more information. We didn’t start 2009 with any kind of BDSM activities in our lives, so we have quite the journey over the [...]

19 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
With the Stroke of a Cane: Enjoying Caning

With the Stroke of a Cane: Enjoying Caning

This is a guest post by Nadia West for the BDSM activities series. I’m fairly new to caning, but I’ve discovered that I like it a lot (even if I can’t take as much as some people can). I was afraid of canes for a long time because I had heard they’re rough pain-wise. While [...]

17 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Let’s Play! BDSM Activities From a Submissive Viewpoint

Let’s Play! BDSM Activities From a Submissive Viewpoint

One of every submissive’s first experiences happens to be in the bedroom or dungeon. That’s why this month I’d like to focus on the joys and pleasures of the things we can explore during scenes and play. The next few weeks we’ll be hearing about a variety of BDSM activities. Just about every post is [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Add Your Favorite BDSM Books Reading List to Your Submissive Training Resume

Since the beginning of Submissive Guide I have been writing essays to help you build your service/submissive/slave resume. This is the living document of your experience and training on different tasks and a variety of relationships. If you are interested in reading the previous posts about the Training Resume I suggest you start at the [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Training Resume
The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

The BDSM Checklist that Will Really Help You

An important part of negotiating a scene is discussing what you want out of the scene. Sure there are a lot of really thorough BDSM checklists that you could fill out if you don’t want to really think about what turns you on and drives you crazy with pleasure. BDSM checklists all live under different [...]

8 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Training Resume

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