By lunaKM on March 26, 2010
from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]
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By Guest Author on January 18, 2010
This is a guest post for the BDSM Activity Feature Series. patricialynn offers us a look into rope bondage. Rope bondage is a wonderful thing. Nothing beats the feel of the rope sliding across my skin, teasing, tantalizing, with taunting promise of bondage to come. Under the hands of a skilled rope top, bondage can [...]
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By Guest Author on January 11, 2010
This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by Gwendolyn. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]
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By lunaKM on December 7, 2009
When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]
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By lunaKM on December 2, 2009
The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]
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By lunaKM on August 26, 2009
It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]
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By lunaKM on August 5, 2009
I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]
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By lunaKM on April 4, 2009
The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training [...]
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By lunaKM on March 30, 2009
Some relationships and Dominants require their submissives to wear a certain level of make up. My Master requires that I wear makeup before leaving the house. Others I know like fake nails, or nice manicures, pedicures and fancy make up. There are a lot of tips out there on how to apply makeup so that [...]
Posted in Health and Beauty | Tagged basics, beauty tips, clean, cosmetics, DIY makeup, Dom, dominant, dominants, learning, makeup, makeup application, makeup tips, natural, relationship, Relationships, rt, safe, share, submissive, tips, tricks |
By lunaKM on March 23, 2009
If you’ve been around the BDSM and D/s scene at all there is one of many books that always comes up in conversation as a good book to read when you are new to the whole lifestyle. This book is Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by [...]
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A good book can help you learn more about yourself and your submission or enhance a skill you have always wanted to learn. Here is a growing list of books to help you on the way. Do you have a suggestion for a book listed here? Please email me at subguide@gmail.com. Thank you. View Submissive [...]
A once-a-month newsletter/e-zine written for service oriented people, by service oriented people in M/s, D/s or Leather relationships. Current contributors are all slave or submissive identified, and in real time relationships where obedience and service are necessary, valued skills, achieved over time. I have been fortunate enough to meet these lovely people all over the [...]
By lunaKM on January 19, 2009
As a point of personal opinion I’d like to define the differences between very basic terms so that there is no confusion as to who I am referring to when I mention either of these terms. I write this guide in my perspective and provide my mentorship and guidance with these terms clearly defined for [...]
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By lunaKM on December 30, 2008
A training resume is just another name for a folder where you are going to start keeping your list of training achieved, history and important documents. Much like the training folders mentioned in The Marketplace series by Laura Antoniou you can build a file on yourself to offer your current or future dominant partner(s). Throughout [...]
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By lunaKM on December 24, 2008
Continuing the Wants and Needs Series, this essay is about knowing the difference between wants and needs. If you would like to read the previous essay, please read “Know What You Want, Learn What You Need.” The difference between wants and needs can be answered in one basic question. Is this something you can live [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Submission | Tagged balance, basics, clothing, D/s, desires, discipline, happiness, love, needs, personal development, relationship, Relationships, resume, rt, rules, series, share, structure, submission, submissive, training, Training Resume, wants |
By lunaKM on December 21, 2008
Wants and needs are very important to any relationship. When you start to understand who you are as a submissive, it’s time to figure out what you are looking for in a relationship. Submissives all over seem to know what they want out of a relationship; it’s always present in their minds. The play, the [...]
Posted in Training Resume | Tagged basics, book, changing, comfort, communication, control, desires, Dom, Dominance, essays, happiness, love, needs, personal development, play, relationship, review, rt, series, sex, share, submission, submissive, wants |
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This month I'd like to feature Protocols: Handbook for the female slave by Robert Rubel PhD. A book on protocol in a D/s Leather Household.
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