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Book Review: BDSM Mastery: Your Guide to Play, Parties and Scene Protocols

Book Review: BDSM Mastery: Your Guide to Play, Parties and Scene Protocols

This is not a book that explains what BDSM is, this is a book that explains what BDSM is all about.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

Answered: Your Burning Questions About What Is Expected Of You As a Submissive

I’m going to guide you to the answers, but you’ll still have to do your own work as far as finding the answers that will work for you.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

“Becoming a Slave” Book Conflict and Questions

I have been “asked” by the One I hope will someday be my Master to read “Becoming A Slave”. this book has presented a lot of problems for me in that now I am questioning slavery vs. bottoming.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

Learning About BDSM on YouTube.com

There’s a treasure trove of information if you know where to look which is what I’m going to share with you here. Today’s newsletter is a listing of all the really interesting BDSM education-focused videos on Youtube I could find when I was surfing around one day.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive, Play and Sex

In Readiness – Scene Care and Aftercare

Whether you are preparing for a scene or well into aftercare it’s always handy to have tools and resources at hand that can help you through all the stages of the play time many of us adore. I’ve gathered a list of the articles and essays on this site that are related to scene care and aftercare into one list.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant

How to Serve a Self-Sufficient Dominant

It’s far harder to serve a self-sufficient Dominant because they want to do everything themselves. It is not impossible though.

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Service
What is Submission to You?

What is Submission to You?

You can learn and grow in your own personal submission without the aide of someone else. I’ve seen it countless times. Prove to yourself that you have what it takes to be the best submissive you can be.

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Newsletter Archive
Book Review: SM 101

Book Review: SM 101

The book is slow paced and reads much like a text book so don’t expect any thrills or turns of events that pull you through the reading. At just under 400 pages you’ll have quite a lot of practical information to refer to now and years from now.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Reviews
Everything You Need to Know About Being Kinky

Everything You Need to Know About Being Kinky

There’s nothing wrong with liking a little variation in your sex life. Embrace your brand of kinky.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
What Is BDSM All About?

What Is BDSM All About?

Everyone has fantasies. Most people don’t try to engage in those fantasies, but people in BDSM bring them to life, explore them and delve deeper into the dark recesses of their erotic minds.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Making Assumptions: Try to Learn Everything and Make Sure Your Partner Knows Too

Making Assumptions: Try to Learn Everything and Make Sure Your Partner Knows Too

What’s dangerous is that more and more information that is shared has a larger element of assumed knowledge; the information you need to know before you pick up the new information. I’m not perfect either.

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth
Failing to Find a Good BDSM Education Online

Failing to Find a Good BDSM Education Online

The multitude of blogs and websites giving poor information has led me to believe that the power of our community is failing in one of its most important tasks – education. Perhaps that isn’t exactly so, but the online arena, which has grown exponentially as the key entry point for new people interested in BDSM is lacking in trustworthy and reliable information exchange.

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Personal Growth, Views & More...

Why Safety is Preached to Novices and Why It’s Important to Know Anyway

From the Submissive Guide Newsletter 3/3/10 Being in the BDSM community for any length of time you are likely to come across the common sermons of SSC, Safe Calls and First Meeting Safety. When you are novice in BDSM I’d encourage you to listen to these sermons and listen hard; they could protect you as [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Safety

Assessing the Value of Checklists

from the Submissive Guide Newsletter 9-12-09 Throughout the process of learning about yourself and BDSM you hear talk of checklists. You can find yourself obsessing over what terms are in the complex checklist you found on www.onewaytodobdsm.com. I’ve even written about it several times on SubmissiveGuide.com. So What’s the Big Deal Anyway? For a novice [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
All Tied Up: Rope Bondage

All Tied Up: Rope Bondage

This is a guest post for the BDSM Activity Feature Series. patricialynn offers us a look into rope bondage. Rope bondage is a wonderful thing.  Nothing beats the feel of the rope sliding across my skin, teasing, tantalizing, with taunting promise of bondage to come.  Under the hands of a skilled rope top, bondage can [...]

6 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

Up in Flames: The Basics of Fireplay

This is another guest post for the BDSM Play Feature here on SubmissiveGuide. This post about Fire Play is by SehAnru. Enjoy! I have always been a fire bug and am a volunteer fire fighter. So when I became interested in BDSM and heard about fire play it was definitely top of my list of [...]

9 comments Posted by SehAnru | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals
Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

Can You Separate BDSM and Sex?

When Master and I get to play, it’s quite sexually charged. We find the play and the energy we swap as very sexual. Our play time usually ends in sex of some form. That’s just how we roll. Does it always have to be that way? Heck no! In fact, when I was casually playing, [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: BDSM Fundamentals, Sex and Sexuality
Domesticity: The Kitchen

Domesticity: The Kitchen

The kitchen is the heart of any home and having a clean and germ-free work environment for cooking and food preparation is important. Knowing some skills and cleaning tips can make keeping your kitchen clean and sparkling effortless. No longer is doing dishes and mopping floors drudgery; enhanced it can be an important part of [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

The Basics of Negotiating a BDSM Scene

It can be very scary approaching a Dominant and asking them to play with you. The butterflies in your belly can make it very difficult to take that first step. It can be every worse if you two don’t negotiate the scene so that you get what you want out of it and s/he does [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex
Finding Domesticity In You

Finding Domesticity In You

I’m personally not a very domestic person. When I do find the desire to clean it’s normally to relieve stress (believe it or not). It can help calm my  nerves and give my mind something else to do while working on the house. Since I’ve become Master’s stay at home submissive I find I need [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Domestics
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