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Finding Your Submissive Voice: Speak Up for Better, Honest Communication

How much to say to their Dominant? When to say it? Can they say anything? What if s/he thinks I’m rude? Would it be better to not say anything? What is appropriate?

4 comments Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

Obedience: A Slavey Meditation

I can’t say I’ve always been obedient – as a child, an adult, or even as a slave. But I hadn’t ever considered any parts of the bigger picture of what it means to be disobedient, either, until now.

2 comments Posted by charmed blyss | Posted in: Personal Growth
Male Submission – Selfishness

Male Submission – Selfishness

Many male subs portray themselves through their own words that they are selfish in that they do not actually care what a potential dominant partner wants or needs.

18 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Male Submission

SGBHC #16 – Dominant Personalities in Submissives

Welcome everyone to the Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge (SGBHC)!  I am so thrilled to see you here!  First, the challenge… Submissive Challenge #16 Dominant Personalities in Submissives Can you have a dominant personality and still be submissive? How does someone with an independent, in-control attitude learn to submit and serve? What challenges does a submissive [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics

Submissive Guide Blog Hop Challenge #16 – Dominant Personalities in Submissives

One of the things that people love most about this site is gaining new knowledge and viewpoints.  I have taken it upon myself to organize a day to take place once a month that will encourage bloggers to challenge themselves and explore their submissive choices! Read all the important guidelines  and FAQ on the Blog Hop [...]

Comments Off Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

The Chase is On – Communicating Openly With Your Dominant

It’s hard sometimes to open up and talk about what’s going on. Yes, it is much easier for one party to just assume that the other party knows what’s going on when in reality; they don’t even have a clue. How is a slave’s Master to know that the slave is struggling with keeping in the mindset they need unless the slave speaks up?

11 comments Posted by tequilarose | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Tearing Down the Green-Eyed Monster – Handling Jealousy

Most confuse jealousy and envy. I know I’ve been bitten a few times by jealousy but thankfully I worked through them and realized that there was nothing to worry about. I’ve conquered jealousy and you can too. Today we’ll talk about what jealousy is, compare it to envy and then figure out some tips on combating jealousy.

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Personal Growth
Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Letting Go of the Bank Account – Submitting to Financial Control

Personally, I am not a very organized person and on top of that I’m lousy with numbers, always was, even in elementary school. If my check book was ever going to be balanced accordingly, someone else was just going to have to do it! Fortunately for my check book and I, my Dominant is better organized and more patient with a calculator, and even more fortunate for us he’s very good at it.

11 comments Posted by selkie | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Relationships
Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner: Part 3- My Partner is Interested!

Your partner has reacted to the revelation of your BDSM desires in a positive way or at least is willing to participate. Congratulations! This is a huge first step.

3 comments Posted by ted_subby | Posted in: Relationships
22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You

22 Deal Breakers that May Be Preventing A Dominant from Approaching You

I realized that I had often heard those complaints/observations-and from people who truly seemed like they would be a great catch. Then I started to think more about it and wondered if they (like all of us) had displayed behaviors that others would declare to be a “deal breaker.”

7 comments Posted by LaneyDoll | Posted in: Relationships
5 Ways to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

5 Ways to Resolve Conflict in a D/s Relationship

Resolving conflicts in relationships is a very valuable life skill to develop. You need to learn to work on the problem and strive to come up with solutions that meet the needs of the relationship together.

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships
What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

What a Pain: Does Pain Tolerance Change Over Time?

Tolerance will grow in time, and will change. Most of the fun in exploring bdsm is in trying new things together, nobody can have everything thrown at them on day one.

5 comments Posted by thisgirl | Posted in: Play and Sex
Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

Learning Good Observation Skills for Better Submissive Awareness

One of the best skills a submissive can learn is observation. Observation is also something that can go neglected in your everyday and work life so that learning it requires you to reteach your mind, eyes, focus and attention. It’s so worth it.

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Newsletter Archive, Talents and Skills
A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why

A Feminist Submissive – Does Such a Person Exist? Yes! And I’ll Tell You Why

Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a political viewpoint. I felt that I needed to be strong and in control. I had to be a partner with my spouse, and he felt I had to be independent and make my own decisions. While this helped me develop into the strong, independent woman I am today, it also created a vacuum in my personal life. I had to be in control all of the time, and eventually, I realized this had cost me much of my expression of sexuality and my feelings of femininity. I went into the exploration of the lifestyle looking to fill a need, to find out what was missing in my life.

4 comments Posted by nan {SL} | Posted in: Beginner Basics, Community
A Switch of the D/s Lifestyle

A Switch of the D/s Lifestyle

This is another guest post by Christian, a switch male in a D/s relationship. (If you would like to submit a guest post to Submissive Guide, please read the guidelines before contacting me, thanks!) It seems there is a lot of interest in switches on the Internet, and being a switch myself I can speak [...]

2 comments Posted by Guest Author | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Dressing for a Play Party; What to Wear

Dressing for a Play Party; What to Wear

After the invitation has been recieved and you decide to go comes a moment of panic for many submissives. What do you wear to a play party? As with everything here, take these as suggestions and ideas for your own wardrobe. All parties are not created equal and be sure to find out if you [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Play and Sex

Know Your Manners when Visiting D/s Friends

Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics.  Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Community

Maintenance Spankings; Why Do It?

This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Relationships, Video Posts
Carte Blanche – Repeating Misbehavior Patterns

Carte Blanche – Repeating Misbehavior Patterns

Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
A Skill Every Novice Submissive Needs to Master: Guilt Resolution from Mistakes and Punishment

A Skill Every Novice Submissive Needs to Master: Guilt Resolution from Mistakes and Punishment

Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Mindset
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