By nan {SL} on June 14, 2010
In the first article of this series, I discussed how I see feminism fitting in with both the BDSM community and submission. Moving to a personal level, I have identified with feminism since I could say the word. As I grew up, I would say that my ‘type’ of feminism was definitely more of a [...]
Posted in Social Norms, Submission | Tagged attitude, bdsm community, decisions, development, femininity, feminism, freedom of choice, gender, independent woman, personal life, self expression, Service, training |
By lunaKM on July 21, 2009
After the invitation has been recieved and you decide to go comes a moment of panic for many submissives. What do you wear to a play party? As with everything here, take these as suggestions and ideas for your own wardrobe. All parties are not created equal and be sure to find out if you [...]
Posted in Playtime | Tagged attitude, blue jeans, chastity, chastity belts, clothing, clubs, collars, corsets, costumes, desires, Dom, dress, dress codes, essays, event, events, harnesses, latex, leather, lingerie, love, play, play parties, private parties, rt, rubber, sex, submissive, suggestions, what to wear |
By lunaKM on June 11, 2009
Accepting an invitation to visit friends that are into BDSM or the lifestyle can lead to a wonderful experience and the development of close friends. That is if you keep yourself aware of house rules and relationship dynamics. Generally speaking, a couple of D/s friends are not going to drop their dynamic around you since [...]
Posted in Social Norms | Tagged attitude, BDSM, choice, clothing, comfort, common sense, D/s, d/s exposure, development, Dom, dominant, dress, dynamic, dynamics, etiquette, experience, family, friends, friendships, help, information, lifestyle, manners, play, protocol, relationship, rt, rules, shift, social etiquette, submissive, tips |
By lunaKM on May 26, 2009
This week’s video post is about maintenance spankings. Maintenance spankings are a way to keep the relationship fresh, revive the roles on a regular basis and to not let life away from the dynamic interfere with what your relationship goals are. A maintenance spanking can be anything from a scheduled night of the week where [...]
Posted in Relationships, Video Posts | Tagged 24/7, Aria, attitude, blogs, control, D/s, deeper roles, discipline, Dom, dominant, dynamic, focus, health, help, intimacy, maintenance spanking, masochist, orgasms, play, punishment, purpose, relationship, roles, rt, scheduled spanking, sex, short, spanking, submission, value |
By lunaKM on May 14, 2009
Getting in trouble. We’ve all been there a time or two. It comes with learning and training new things as well as changing behaviors. Our Dominants generally don’t derive any pleasure out of punishing us and the guilt we put on ourselves can be more damaging than the misdeed in the first place. Allowing that [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged advice, attitude, behavior patterns, carte blanche, changing, changing behavior, clean, communication, cons, control, Dom, dominant, dominants, energy, experience, focus, guilt, help, journey, learned, learning, Mindset, needs, normal, novice, play, progress, punishment, punishments, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, submission, submissive, support, training, trust, wants |
By lunaKM on April 16, 2009
Everyone at one time or another is going to go through moments of guilt. Submissives may have added self-guilt when you break a rule, or upset your Dominant. These things are going to happen as you develop and grow in your role and your life. It’s hard to believe but no one is perfect. What [...]
Posted in Mindset | Tagged attitude, balance, cons, definitions, depression, Dom, dominant, emotions, event, experience, guilt, help, IRC, needs, play, punishment, questions, recognizing guilt, resolving guilt, rt, sadness, self-care, sex, stereotype, submissive |
By lunaKM on April 4, 2009
The word ‘training’ is a stumbling block for many novices and experienced submissives alike. The reason for this is that so many define training as the organized learning of behavior and activities in structured sessions or steps and that once complete, your training is complete. Let’s dispel that myth right now. Submissive and slave training [...]
Posted in BDSM Basics, Service | Tagged activities, attitude, basics, BDSM, D/s, definitions, Dom, dominant, dominants, dynamic, experience, learned, learning, melly, needs, novice, novices, relationship, rt, Service, slave, slave training, specifics, structure, submissive, submissive training, training |
By lunaKM on February 24, 2009
In this week’s video tip I talk about what training is to a submissive and the value it has to a D/s relationship. When someone thinks of slave training, what is the first thing that pops into your mind? Is it a submissive on their knees going through the paces that their Dominant puts them? [...]
Posted in Service, Video Posts | Tagged activities, amazon.com, attitude, behavior changes, book, books, cons, consensual, D/s, Dom, Dominance, dominant, dominants, female, Gor, help, m/s, newsletter, novice, novices, positions, protocol, punishment, questions, relationship, Relationships, rt, rules, Service, single, slave, slave training, slavery, speech, submission, submissive, submissive training, training, value |
By lunaKM on January 5, 2009
Submission has been called a gift. It has been said to be a natural characteristic. Submission is also a choice. When I first entered the lifestyle, no one would have mistaken me for a submissive. I am strong willed, commanding and independent. I have a dominant personality. Nature, society and the way I was brought [...]
Posted in Submission | Tagged attitude, changing, choice, clothing, control, desires, development, Dom, dominant, friends, help, housework, journey, learned, lifestyle, look back, natural, needs, normal, personal development, pride, punishment, punishments, purpose, rt, Service, sex, submission, submissive, support, wants |
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