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Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Ask lunaKM – What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide: New to D/s and LDR

Ask Submissive Guide: New to D/s and LDR

Dear SG, Me and my boyfriend have been talking about this. He’s convincing me into it. We haven’t experienced anything yet. I’m new at this, he’s a dominant. But he’s leaving for 9 months deployment and I don’t know how to do this long distance relationship. Sincerely,New to D/s Dear New to D/s, I’m sorry [...]

8 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM: What are my limits?

Ask lunaKM: What are my limits?

Dear lunaKM, I am a sub that is very new to the BDSM scene. I know a little bit, but I’m quite unfamiliar with a lot. Recently, I met someone online that immediately recognized me as a sub, and I would love to impress him. He asked my what my limits are, and what I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission?

Ask lunaKM – Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission?

Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask Submissive Guide – BDSM and Sexual Experience

Ask Submissive Guide – BDSM and Sexual Experience

Thank you Kayla Lords for tackling these questions! We received two questions both asking about BDSM and sexual experience, so in an effort to help everyone with the same kinds of questions, today is a two-fer. Dear lunaKM, Can a virgin with no sexual experience be a sub? Everything I know about submission is from [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Ask lunaKM – Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Dear lunaKM, In a nutshell, my question is, how do I know if my masochistic tendencies come from a safe place? My Dom and I have both struggled with mental illness , and as such he has never felt comfortable with anything rougher than biting or hair pulling. However, we have never really talked about [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Knee Pain, Kneeling and Helpful Suggestions

Ask lunaKM – Knee Pain, Kneeling and Helpful Suggestions

Hi lunaKM, I was wondering if you had any ideas, tips, exercises for knee strengthening?  I am a BBW, and being on my knees for a long period of time, cuts off my circulation and can be very painful.  This is also true when I am on all fours.  I tried pillows, and that helps [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted

Ask lunaKM – Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted

I work as a veterinary assistant which is both physically and emotionally challenging to the point that when I come home, I’m completely exhausted.  I find it very hard to serve my Dominant when this happens.  I’m just so worn out from working–I lift (sometimes wrestle!) animals all day, I’m involved in a very fast-paced [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Should I Wait For Him or Move On?

Ask lunaKM – Should I Wait For Him or Move On?

Hi  Luna.  Yes I have a question…. I never know where I stand with this man. He talks about the future when we are together. He brings it up, he speaks what we will be doing etc. I don’t say too much. I want this very badly, but he calls all the shots. This is fine with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM Quickies: Where to Blog About Submission, Submissive Meditations and Opinion on Minors in BDSM

Ask lunaKM Quickies: Where to Blog About Submission, Submissive Meditations and Opinion on Minors in BDSM

I am brand new to the bdsm lifestyle and also a writer. I wanted to kind of chronicle my experiences, thoughts, and feelings on my journey. Can you tell me about any free blog sites that allow for erotic material? Blogger.com and WordPress.com allow erotic material as long as you mark the blog adult in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

I’m sure you have addressed this… But would you be willing to give some advice on sub drop in long distance relationships? I have been with my Dom 7 months and he is wonderful, amazing, and perfect at after care, but there still is the emotional sub drop after play. Thank you for any advice you can [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

Ask lunaKM – Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

Would really appreciate it if I could get some advice or your opinion on this ? I’ve always found that submission and being dominated really turns me on. That’s about the only thing I find sexually stimulating but my boyfriend doesn’t really know the extent of what I really like in the bedroom. I’m extremely [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – When My Dominant Calls Me Names, Does He Mean It?

Ask lunaKM – When My Dominant Calls Me Names, Does He Mean It?

When my dominant calls me slut, whore etc. Does he really mean it?  I’m new to this and I have a hard time knowing whether or not he means this. Master and I are very young and he’s the only guy I’ve ever gone very far sexually with. I’m a good girl  and  none of [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM- How to Ask for More Aftercare

Ask lunaKM- How to Ask for More Aftercare

I have experienced sub drop for the first time. I’ve felt down after play but never like this. My dom and I met on Fetlife, and I am his second sub- the other is his best friend.  We all get on really well, and he is super attentive, but I still worry about being an [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Safety
Ask lunaKM – Mending Old Scars to Open Up to New Things

Ask lunaKM – Mending Old Scars to Open Up to New Things

My husband and I have a great marriage but both of us recently opened up about our desires to explore D/s lifestyle. He wants me to be a more attentive partner, take care of His needs and explore my sexuality. I have been submissive to just about everyone my entire life, most of those situations [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – A Beginner’s Guide to D/s

Ask lunaKM – A Beginner’s Guide to D/s

Dear lunaKM, Is there a beginner’s guide I can read to tell me what I am supposed to d and what to expect with this? I met a Daddy Dom and he wants me to be his Daddy’s Girl. But I would like to know more about this life before I move to be with [...]

4 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – How To Ask for a Dominant’s Attention

Ask lunaKM – How To Ask for a Dominant’s Attention

Hello lunaKM, I have a Dom friend that has been helping explore and figure out this wonderful world of BDSM. I have been seeing him for a few months and we are moving into more of a relationship and not just scenes. My question is how do I ask him for the discipline/attention when I [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – What are you punished for?

Ask lunaKM – What are you punished for?

Ok, I know this sounds like a silly question but I wanted to know what other submissives out there are being punished for. I have been a sexual submissive for three years now and my Dom and I are slowly bringing our dynamic out of the bedroom. I have read a lot of articles about [...]

22 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Ask lunaKM – Communication in an Online D/s Relationship

Ask lunaKM – Communication in an Online D/s Relationship

Dear lunaKM, I have been in my first D/s relationship (online) for about a month. What is your view concerning the care, direction and contact of Dominants w/their subs? I know we are all different, but I have nothing to compare. Contact is spotty and I feel a bit lost. Some days I get a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – How Do I Explore BDSM and Grow While I’m Single?

Ask lunaKM – How Do I Explore BDSM and Grow While I’m Single?

Hi!, I am new to BDSM and Kink and was just wondering if it were possible to try and learn and explore and grow without a Dom by my side at least for the moment? How is a submissive able to train and prepare for her future Dom? I am not out in my local [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Personal Growth
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