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What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Dear Submissive Guide, In May I met a wonderful Dom online. We talked on the phone every night and I was over the moon for him. He was the first to say I love you and my self-protect wall started to melt. In my dating profile, I was explicit about not wanting to relocate because [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Quickies: Dog Collars,  Task Lists and Con-artist Doms

Ask lunaKM – Quickies: Dog Collars, Task Lists and Con-artist Doms

It’s time for another round of quick answers for questions you have sent in! Dear SG, I’m wondering if a dog prong collar would be safe to use for a collar? I’m intrigued by the sharpness of it but don’t want to use one if it’d be too dangerous. You gave me a vision of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

Dear Annie, I am in a dom/sub relationship long distance, One that has become very stressful for me. I am punished it seems like every day to stay in favor and because of the distance, it is monetary payment. It is breaking me down financially and mentally, it seems I get nothing from this relationship. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
Help! I Can’t Wear My Collar at Work

Help! I Can’t Wear My Collar at Work

Dear lunaKM, So…i am a collared submissive & wear my Ring of Steel collar 24/7, proudly. Problem is: i work in a food service position, where jewelry is prohibited & my supervisor is threatening to take disciplinary action should i wear my collar during my next shift (despite my working while wearing it for nearly [...]

6 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
What are my limits?

What are my limits?

Dear lunaKM, I am a sub that is very new to the BDSM scene. I know a little bit, but I’m quite unfamiliar with a lot. Recently, I met someone online that immediately recognized me as a sub, and I would love to impress him. He asked my what my limits are, and what I’m [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission?

Where Can I Go to Talk to Someone about Submission?

Is there any service out there that you can talk to a live person and go through some things that are fairly new to me in real time like right now… not necessarily the paid chat but just someone to ask questions and see if what I’m doing is normal…well somewhat normal. Hi there! I [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Opening the Relationship When It’s Already Rocky

Opening the Relationship When It’s Already Rocky

Hello, my partner is submissive, and I am vanilla. We have be together for close to 2 years, but have known each other for much longer. Our relationship has been rocky for some time now, and I have recently agreed to letting my partner fulfill her needs. Although we have agreed to work fiercely on [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Overcoming the Fear of Being Triggered to Open a Dialogue

Dear lunaKM, In a nutshell, my question is, how do I know if my masochistic tendencies come from a safe place? My Dom and I have both struggled with mental illness, and as such he has never felt comfortable with anything rougher than biting or hair pulling. However, we have never really talked about it. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted

Submitting when Physically and Emotionally Exhausted

I work as a veterinary assistant which is both physically and emotionally challenging to the point that when I come home, I’m completely exhausted.  I find it very hard to serve my Dominant when this happens.  I’m just so worn out from working–I lift (sometimes wrestle!) animals all day, I’m involved in a very fast-paced [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
How Long Should I Wait For Him To Contact Me?

How Long Should I Wait For Him To Contact Me?

Hi  Luna.  Yes I have a question…. I never know where I stand with this man. He talks about the future when we are together. He brings it up, he speaks what we will be doing etc. I don’t say too much. I want this very badly, but he calls all the shots. This is fine with [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM Quickies: Where to Blog About Submission, Submissive Meditations and Opinion on Minors in BDSM

Ask lunaKM Quickies: Where to Blog About Submission, Submissive Meditations and Opinion on Minors in BDSM

I am brand new to the bdsm lifestyle and also a writer. I wanted to kind of chronicle my experiences, thoughts, and feelings on my journey. Can you tell me about any free blog sites that allow for erotic material? Blogger.com and WordPress.com allow erotic material as long as you mark the blog adult in [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

Ask lunaKM – How Can I Manage Sub Drop in a Long Distance Relationship?

I’m sure you have addressed this… But would you be willing to give some advice on sub drop in long distance relationships? I have been with my Dom 7 months and he is wonderful, amazing, and perfect at after care, but there still is the emotional sub drop after play. Thank you for any advice you can [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Beginner Basics
Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

Are There Subtle Ways I Can Cue My Partner Into My Interests?

Would really appreciate it if I could get some advice or your opinion on this ? I’ve always found that submission and being dominated really turns me on. That’s about the only thing I find sexually stimulating but my boyfriend doesn’t really know the extent of what I really like in the bedroom. I’m extremely [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
Poly Conflict: Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Poly Conflict: Feeling Like a Third Wheel in a Triad

Do you have any advice for someone in a triad that is constantly feeling like a third wheel because the other female sub puts a constant emphasis on being “wife” and legally married to the male dominant of the relationship? Saying we are equal to him, but her actions and words don’t back it up [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
When My Dominant Calls Me Names, Does He Mean It?

When My Dominant Calls Me Names, Does He Mean It?

When my dominant calls me slut, whore etc. Does he really mean it?  I’m new to this and I have a hard time knowing whether or not he means this. Master and I are very young and he’s the only guy I’ve ever gone very far sexually with. I’m a good girl  and  none of [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

How Do I Ask for More Aftercare?

I have experienced sub drop for the first time. I’ve felt down after play but never like this. My dom and I met on Fetlife, and I am his second sub- the other is his best friend.  We all get on really well, and he is super attentive, but I still worry about being an [...]

2 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Safety
I Feel Addicted to My Dominant, Is This Normal?

I Feel Addicted to My Dominant, Is This Normal?

i was just wondering if it okay to feel almost addicted to your Dom? Like when my Dom is away for too long i feel sad and lonely, but if He is gone for a day or two i get really depressed not being able to be near Him. The feelings i have for Him [...]

5 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics, Relationships
How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

How Can I Get Less Bruising from Caning?

Hi, I just experienced my first caning, it’s a thin rounded, but oh did it sting, it left welts which is fine, but next morning it is really bruised, bad. Haven’t been able to sit for the last four days…  I like pain, but caning isn’t what I thought, is there anything I can do [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Mending Old Relationship Scars to Open Up to New Things

Mending Old Relationship Scars to Open Up to New Things

My husband and I have a great marriage but both of us recently opened up about our desires to explore D/s lifestyle. He wants me to be a more attentive partner, take care of His needs and explore my sexuality. I have been submissive to just about everyone my entire life, most of those situations [...]

1 comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
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