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How To Express Submissiveness as a Little

How To Express Submissiveness as a Little

Dear Submissive Guide, I am a little girl and have a wonderful Daddy Dom. How else can I show my submissiveness in a little girl way without falling into total servitude and then becoming more like a slave? Thank you,His Little Girl Dear LG, I think your question is one that crosses plenty of submissive’s [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
How to Approach a Couple into Kink and Polyamory when You are New

How to Approach a Couple into Kink and Polyamory when You are New

Dear lunaKM, I am new to the lifestyle, and have never had a true Dom. However, now there is a Dom that has shown interest in me, alongside his current submissive/fiancee. While it would be a long distance relationship (LDR), I am interested in the offer, but unsure as how to pursue. To give a [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

How Do I Let Him Know I’m Committed to Him?

Dear Submissive Guide, I am finally at ease with my Daddy Dom, ready to move on in our relationship, giving him my trust which has been hard for me, because of past abuses. Even thinking of myself as ‘little” for him was hard at first. But I so enjoy the simple nature of the relationship. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Beginner Basics
What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

What Should I Expect from My Dominant?

Luna, what is reasonable to expect from a dominant in exchange for submission and service? I realize everyone is different, but when a sub is not being financially supported and is doing household care and management, handling the everyday paperwork of bill paying, handling home repair calls, etc.; assuming her Dom is loving, caring, what else [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

How To Navigate Public BDSM Play as a Transgender Person

Dear Submissive Guide, I’m new to the scene and realizing I’m very interested in submission and masochism. I’m also gay and transgender (an FtM who is attracted to men). I’m gearing up the courage to go to a play party, and while I might not play at my first one I will want to play [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Play and Sex
Regaining Trust – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Regaining Trust – He Cheated and I’m Not Over It Yet

Hello SG, I’m struggling with a problem that has been following me for quite some time now. My Dominant and I have been through hell and high water, involving ‘light’ cheating (sexting each other, meeting up, but did not have sex) while I was away on holiday with family. This was almost a year ago. [...]

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships
Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Help! My Dominant Says and Does Things I Didn’t Agree To

Dear Submissive Guide, In May I met a wonderful Dom online. We talked on the phone every night and I was over the moon for him. He was the first to say I love you and my self-protect wall started to melt. In my dating profile, I was explicit about not wanting to relocate because [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Create a Transition: Moving Between D/s and Vanilla Lives

Create a Transition: Moving Between D/s and Vanilla Lives

Dear Submissive Guide, So, I am totally a newbie. I do have a Master but due to our personal/vanilla lives, it is limited & very part-time. My Master has not participated in the lifestyle for 12 years. My question is do you have any info on transitioning from submissive side back to my vanilla? We [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Quickies: Dog Collars,  Task Lists and Con-artist Doms

Ask lunaKM – Quickies: Dog Collars, Task Lists and Con-artist Doms

It’s time for another round of quick answers for questions you have sent in! Dear SG, I’m wondering if a dog prong collar would be safe to use for a collar? I’m intrigued by the sharpness of it but don’t want to use one if it’d be too dangerous. You gave me a vision of [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

I’m Afraid of My Long Distance Dom

Dear Annie, I am in a dom/sub relationship long distance, One that has become very stressful for me. I am punished it seems like every day to stay in favor and because of the distance, it is monetary payment. It is breaking me down financially and mentally, it seems I get nothing from this relationship. [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything, Relationships, Safety
I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

I’m Worried I’m Not Enough for My Dominant

Dear SG,I’m in love with my Master. That’s natural right? Over a decade with this man. He’s in love with me as well but I’m not so sure that I’m what he needs anymore. His need for his sadistic ways to flourish are being held back by me. Is that fair? That because of his [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

How To Understand The Grief Process for a Dominant Who Passed Away

Dear LunaKM, I lost my Master to cancer two weeks ago, and I’m not sure how to grieve,  He was not only my master he was my best friend. While there are moments of deep sadness I don’t feel I’m grieving  enough.  Shortly after his passing I had to clean out his home and  it [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

Trying to Make a Poly Relationship Work

Dear Submissive Guide, My Dom and I are basically in a LDR. We have been together for about 8 months. His job requirements are such that he travels consistently. In our relationship he identified as poly and I have great interest as well. We decided that it would be in our best interest to become [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

My Partner Is Hanging On to an Old Relationship

Hi Submissive Guide, I, and my two female subs, are involved with a sub woman who lives two hours away. She drives up to see us twice a week, on her days off. She really enjoys being with us, and I’d like to collar her. The problem is that she refuses to tell her current [...]

1 comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Ask Anything
Learn How To Trust Your Dominant Partner Again After An Affair

Learn How To Trust Your Dominant Partner Again After An Affair

Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this reader’s question! Dear Submissive Guide, My Dominant and I have recently reconnected and are feeling out a new, healthier format for our relationship. However, he confessed to being unfaithful to me when we were together before (out of a fear of intimacy, which he is working on). I [...]

2 comments Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Play with Chronic Illness, What Resources Are There?

Play with Chronic Illness, What Resources Are There?

Dear lunaKM, I’m a sub and out of the game because a year or so after my husband and I married, I developed Lupus and have dealt with chronic pain ever since, especially in my joints. I know the difference between good pain and bad pain, so is there a way we can restart our [...]

3 comments Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
Are Dominants Supposed to Act This Way?

Are Dominants Supposed to Act This Way?

Thank you so Kayla Lords for answering this question from a reader! Hello lunaKM , I have recently met a very dominant man. I have always been a bit submissive and love the idea of worshipping a man fully. The first night we were together I got pregnant I am keeping the baby and he [...]

1 comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask Submissive Guide: Narcissistic Dominants

Ask Submissive Guide: Narcissistic Dominants

Thank you Mrs. Darling for tackling this question!   Dear Submissive Guide, Are most dominant men narcissistic  as well?   As  a wife and submissive to a Dominant sadist (one who is very *ahem* demanding) this question certainly made me titter when I first read it. The more I turned it over in my mind [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Mrs. Darling | Posted in: Relationships
Balancing D/s: Needing Permission to Go Out With Family

Balancing D/s: Needing Permission to Go Out With Family

Thank you Kayla Lords for answering this question! I am not sure if this topic has been covered before, but I couldn’t find much info on it. I was hoping you could share some advice on balancing a d/s relationship and family. To be more specific, I’d like to know how to handle instances such [...]

Leave a comment Posted by Kayla Lords | Posted in: Ask Anything
Ask lunaKM – Looking at Your Dominant, Putting Your Foot Down as a Submissive, Developing a Secret Relationship

Ask lunaKM – Looking at Your Dominant, Putting Your Foot Down as a Submissive, Developing a Secret Relationship

Dear lunaKM, Hi there, I have always thought of myself as a dominant person, however I recently learned that I really enjoy being submissive.   It has taken me 4 months and I have finally found my Sir and we are on the same page as to what we are wanting to explore and experience. [...]

Leave a comment Posted by lunaKM | Posted in: Ask Anything
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